Daring to ask.....

[bigmaineguy]

Why is it when a guy wants to date a bigger gal, he's assumed to either a) have a big girl fet--- or b) think bigger women are easy somehow? Can't a guy just like women who are larger?

OR is it a matter of the guy in question not being "good enough" and the ladies don't want to admit that THEY are the ones being shallow?

[lyricalgirl]

`Good question actually... I've tried several sites and its always the same thing.. any guy who says he likes big girls, fat girls (which i hate that btw) ssbbws, etc. they say it like I should be glad he's chosen to give me the time of day. And far too many treat me like I am easy because I am big. I myself never start out thinking a guy is a chubby chaser, has a fat fetish, is a feeder in search of someone to feed. It just so happens that's pretty much all i've come across.

I've had so many make it about my size. meaning I'm either too big, not big enough or they want a promise that I will remain big.

In open chat or lobbies.... I've seen women do exactly what you are saying and it just makes me sad. they act like those guys that I find act. Like the men should be lucky they are giving them the time of day. Like, as you said.. the men aren't good enough. I wish I had answers for you but I don't. I would love to know the answer as well.

Personally.. I don't have a fet--- for big men.. bhm, large men etc... Its just what I'm drawn towards.

when a thin man is looking for a thin woman it's never a fetish.. it's dating. but let it be a big man or a big woman and it's just like you said. It's a double standard with an unnecessary stigma.

sorry for the pointless rant. I've just had a few really "interesting" encounters on a site.

maybe I should start a support group for us big people that will be alone forever..

[plumpy]

`i agree with you lyrical girl i think big woman are expected to be kind to everyone because they a less of a humann for this society :s and i hate those labels too.

like if someone is interested about me is because hes a weirdo with a fet--- like is always objectifying women's bodies. i hate stereotypes cuz im a latino womann but im far from the cliché cuz im not the typical JLo big --- or big b--bs girl i just hppen to have a big belly and even in the plus size industry they promote fat people to be all about "more to touch" material. they just show off this hourglass type of figure and sell this idea of non stoppable S-- machine.

i wsh one day thats not about us as just persons not depending about us being good material for s----l slim people connnsume or some losers choice because people thats attracted to me gotta have something wrong in their brains.

sorry if i didnt write this corectly i have alot of mistakes but anyway at least reading at this i feel better thinking that theres some people like u that wont settle for any sh1t and knows that is valuable. im single too and maybe will be for a long time but i dont wanna be with someone that doesnt love me exactly as i am so i might be forever alone too but happy to read what u guys think i feel less lonely i think.

[newdfwguy (deleted)]

I have been a bigger guy most of my life. By the time I was 16, I was 6'2", 242#. In high school, none of the "pretty girls" would give me a second glance. Then I went in the Army. After 5 months of Basic & AIT, I came home on leave a few weeks before I went overseas. When I would go out, several of those women who wouldn't look at me before were now coming out of the woodwork trying to get with me, because I was down to 172#. When I would get approached by one who wouldn't talk to me before, I'd say "You didn't look at me when I was a big guy, so your shallow, skinny --- don't need to talk to me now". A thick gal asked me to dance one night, and I did, and we had a great night. Quite honestly, I liked the way her breasts and body felt against me through our clothes.

I have been attracted to larger ladies ever since. In my personal opinion, thick women look better in lingerie, (and out of it), are more fun, are much nicer, and quite honestly, are much better in bed. I love a woman's curves, and larger breasts and tummies and butts, and hearts.

As far as I'm concerned, larger women are the best!