How well should you know your date before seeing them?

[lonelyguy1989]

To me i don;t mind when we meet, I am comfortable to meet at any point.

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[t74]

I am always honest about my size right up front before I meet anyone and I always offer them an out if it isn't what they are looking for so that we can both move on and not waste each other's time. There have been times though where guys have still insisted on meeting me and then I never see or hear from them again after that. I think that maybe what I am telling them is too hard for them to believe so they insist on meeting me just so they can check me out in person out of curiosity.

[terrybogard23]

i talked to a girl online for three weeks.i felt i knew her by then,we planned on meeting,but we never did cause she ended things for unknown reasons.she said i was into it more then she was,but deep-down i felt that wasn't the ENTIRE reason why she wanted to end it,i felt like that was a cop-out,then again,maybe that was the true reason she wanted to end it,but i felt that it wasn't.i will never know the true reasons why she ended it(she didn't go into much detail)but feelings can be wrong i can say that much.i thought she was the onewe got along pretty good,she seemed to like me,we talked online alot and even on the phone,and she still burned me.i kinda saw signs early on it may not work(her being busy all the time,her being alittle bit of a jerk and insensitive at times)but i looked past all of that and still got burned,i truely tried to make it work as best as i could,did all the right things,still got screwed over.so that goes to show you things could be going well and you could still get your heart crushed out of the blue.

[princessadriana]

Webcam is one of the best things ever. It's not all that flatering so the person on the other end of that wave gets to see you just how you want them to, and when you finally meet, they knowwhat to expect and may even be pleasantly surpised at what's in front of them. That is on the physical appearance. As far as intentions...i say never leave things open on your profile. Don't have sentences that can lead to suggestion or assumtions. Be direct and honest. Like, "looking for someone to spoil", now of course that is going to be a popular man on the site. While his idea of spoiling is a hard ---- anda back and foot rub after, her idea might be a shopping spree and spa day with dinner after. and because both notions are rather selfish, nobody will actually bring it up and continue to assume they have whatthey want in the bag. Then after meeting, it's a mess!! Ahahaha Just be careful what you say and always keep your pics recent, as well as have webcam!


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[charliesmile (deleted)]

personally, i believe the only real way to get to know someone is to spend time with them in person.
that way, not only can you engage in real time conversation, but you get to know each other's little quirks.

i don't think the question should be "how well should you know your date before meeting them?"
i think the statement should be "you should know your date well by meeting them."

[fatuglyguy (deleted)]

I am for one that it's not a date conversing with a friend online. it's not a date till you both can agree on a location that is mutually acceptable to you both. Cause as I see it and have done if you can't meet the person you maybe wont like each other in person. I met a sweet lady sioem years back from an online dating service and she fell deeply in love with me till we met. then it all fell apart. I didn't do anything differnt from be myself how ever she had designs on my bank account and I didn't realize it till I moved away from West Memphis, She had stolen some $500 from me for her dope. that I didn't even know she used.
Needeless to say I tried everything I could to get my money back but it was too late she had spent it and I was just out of luck according the the local county cops.

[jillieebean]

I have to say I agree with the talking to someone a while first part. I seem to get jilted when I try to tell guys that I need to talk and get comfortable with someone before ever agreeing to meet in person. I dont even like to give out my number too soon to anyone .. Id rather see if we click just chatting on internet before i give out anything personal.. Is that so bad?

[fatuglyguy (deleted)]

jillieebean wrote: I have to say I agree with the talking to someone a while first part. I seem to get jilted when I try to tell guys that I need to talk and get comfortable with someone before ever agreeing to meet in person. I dont even like to give out my number too soon to anyone .. Id rather see if we click just chatting on internet before i give out anything personal.. Is that so bad?


I'm inclined to agree, I've been burnt by several ladies from online dating and it's not a good feeling to meet someone for a real date just to see them walk off with another guy within a feww seconds of meeting me. but it does happen. and I know the ladies have met with the same pain in one form or another.

[thisisme2at (deleted)]

`I personally am not into the LDR thing. I feel if you're in a good area with enough available single people then you should date locally. If you're in an area that doesn't have a lot of single men and women then there maybe a reason to go that route, but again it's like most things in life, a risk. If I do meet someone what I tend to do is what I call a mutual meeting rather than a real date. All I do is maybe meet them for quick lunch, at a bar and grill type place or a coffee shop that way there is not a lot of wasted time and possible money involved. The best part is you and the other person can decide from that point if you want to engage in a real date if you both click .