Does education matter in a relationship?

[metalman69_PREV (deleted)]

I feel education should matter. I have met women that have college,high school and trade school degrees on-line. The ones I tend to get along best are the ones with high school or less. I'm not saying I feel I'm idiot, just when I deal with more educated people a lot them think I'm talking out of my butt . My education background is a high school degree, very little college and some trade school(which I never finished). I am mostly common sense oriented, which means most of my knowledge is from what I have learned in life. I have met women with masters degrees that I would talk to and they would make me feel like a total moron until we would go out in the real world and they don't have enough common sense to handle a lot of everyday situation. Then again, I have met women that have no real education and I tend to have a lot in common with them. If you are school educated I feel you will have a lot more to talk about with someone of the same nature, but if you are life educated you will have more in common with someone with common sense. Sometimes they do say opposites attract, but only if they little of both common sense and school education. I, myself will sooner stick with someone with common sense over a college degree. Remember, this is only my view point.

[songlily33_PREV (deleted)]

Your right metalman. Education can play a key roll in how we relate to one another.
For instance, have you ever seen two highly educated people on the side of the road with cell phones in their hands talking to an auto club because they have a flat tire.
Now, me, I grew up not only in the south but also in a very small community. I may not have a college education but one of the first things I learned in high school driver's ed was how to change a tire!
What is the point to all this rambling. I am really not sure if education can create a problem in a relationship but I do know that if I am with a man who can not even change a tire or any other million little common sense chores (although the dirty sweaty work just flips my switch anyway ) then he is not the man I would like to have around my home.
Good topic and I hope a lot of people chime in on this subject.

[tropicalbreeze]

Sorry guys....but "education" is important to me as well as fixing a flat........

[luvmbignbrainy]

Excellent topic. I do think education is an important matching item. I have tried to be open minded, but I seldom find I have much to discuss with people who have only been to high school. Someone who has learned a trade can have quite a lot of interesting things to say --examples are cooks and chefs and people in health care.

I may be educated, but I can certainly change a tire or a fuse. You may be thinking more about social class than education. I can't afford to hire people to do all my dirty work for me.

[prplecat_PREV (deleted)]

Personally, I think that formal education matters less in a relationship than having an approximate match in terms of basic intelligence and values. There are a great many "educated idiots" who made it thru a degree program, but can't do ANYTHING else, God help us. There are even more folks out there who are very well read and self-educated, can do a great many things, but never get that degree. My dad had two masters' degrees, and hated "educated idiots"...his term. *hehe*

[hiwayman (deleted)]

Well if an education is so important then explain why the divorce rate in this country is over 50%.??? If their so smart why can't they keep their marrages together??

[averagebiggirl]

Education can play a big part in a relationship. People tend to gravitate towards others with the same interests or educational background. It's not that they are being stuck up...it' just that they have more in common.

Believe me....I"ve gone out with very intelligent guys, along with some of thier friends. Sometimes, they would start to discuss things that were totally over my head. I know that they didn't mean to exclude me in the conversation....but, I just felt like a total idiot. ( Who wants to feel lefted out)

Here for a good time....not for a long time.

[adipocere_PREV (deleted)]

Persoanlly, I don't care if you know how to change a tire, as long as you know how handle a problem without getting your jammies in an uproar and solve it as quickly as possible. (I know how to and have changed tires BTW.)

I don't have a lot of formal education but I do read extensively. So I'm well versed on a lot of different subjects. I can also relate to many different people from many different educational backgrounds pretty well.

What's important to me isn't the amount of education a person has, but that their curiousity, questioning, and thinking skills at least match my own.

I've met people with Master's degrees who couldn't keep up with me intellectually and I've met auto machanics who were a lot more intellegent than I am.

However, if someone doesn't have, at least, the basics down, they are going to get on my nerves, alot.

[heavens]

Okay, and this is only my opinion also, but it seems like common sense and an education are both good things. I think it's the personality of the person and how they portray what they know and also their communications skills on how it comes across to others that matters. You can have a college education and common sense but, if your a jerk who thinks they know all it won't matter. I personally won't like you. Same goes for uneducated smart people. You have to have a good personality either way you go. Thats my opinion and I'm sticking to it!! lol

Judge me not
and let me be
dont go by
what you "THINK" you see

[ladycasey]

Common sense and education both matter, no matter how open minded we might try to be. That doesn't mean if you are really attracted to someone, you can't overcome these difference, anymore than you can any other difference. It does mean you have to work harder to find a middle ground.

Frankly, when it comes to a choice between common sense and education, I'll take a chance on a man with common sense over a man with a degree.

[ladydreadhead_PREV (deleted)]

I've been married 3x. Yup, I said 3x. My first, a high school graduate. My second, 2 Master's Degrees and since we divorced a PH.d. My third didn't finish high school. I have a Master's Degree in Social Work. What I've found, at least in my relationships, is that the man with the most education, was also the one that lacked common sense, and he also had HUGE emotional problems. So coming from a "professional" I look for someone that gets me. Someone that's intelligent doesn't mean they have a sh** load of degrees.
Fee

[meeisdee_PREV (deleted)]

I had the "un"privilege of meeting a man with a degree in physics, two master's degree (one in geophysics) and another in something else and couldn't hold down a job. He was a lunatic and that is putting it mildly. He honestly believed some of the weirdest junk and simply couldn't function in society with normal people. He probably should have been in a looney bin somewhere.

Then there's people like my uncle, a sworn schizophrenic (however that's spelled) was a druggy most of his life, neglected and abandoned his children, and was divorced 4x and managed, somehow, to get a Ph.D. in Psychology and is now a psychologist in the school system. He's "hid" his schiz. from the Dept. of Education (somehow) and feels that he's doing the world a favor. However, he has to close his door everyday at the same time and have a meeting with an invisible person or else this invisible person will drive him insane. But yet he's got a bachelor's degree, a master's and a Ph.D. and yet he's the craziest of 'em all.

So...what is an education if you're still a nin-com-poop?

Anyway, I'm a work in progress. I've been attempting my 4 year degree for the last 18 years and I'm about finished (finally). I'm in my senior year of Business Administration. However, not before I tried to pursue a degree in Music first. lol. In fact, homework is sitting in there on the table waiting. What will I do with my degree when I get it? Probably just chalk it up as another lesson learned and still do what I know for a career.

By the way, I'm an ex-truck driver of seven years, not only can I change a flat tire, but I can back an 18-wheeler around the world if I need to and outdrive (or drive just as well) as my male counterparts without wimping out in the process. I know how to change a fuel filter, do a complete pre-inspection on a truck, and know how to handle the rough and tumble truckdrivers. However, I also know how to be a lady when need be and know how to fit in with a crowd of a hundred as well. I currently am a secretary to a Vice President and manage to "hang" with people with lots of education and still blend in the crowd.

It's all in the personality and some people, unfortunately, aren't capable of anything except waiting on others to take care of them and make them happy.

That's my 2 cents for what it's worth!

Dee

[afternoondelite_PREV (deleted)]

Intelligence and education are not always equatable. I find that the person who strives to learn, whether it be through formal education or through life in general, is the person that will achieve a fuller life. Someone who choses to live their life in ignorance is someone to fear. Life gives you something to learn from everyday, so do it. A person doesn't have to go to an institution of higher learning to be respected. Learn your trade, job, or skill well and take pride in it. I come from a small WV town. Drop out rates are still high. I was one of the only kids in my family to obtain a degree. Does that make me better? Hell no. That only means that I made different choices. My father was an Iron Worker. He worked damn hard every single day. He was honest and had real integrity. He worked with his hands and provided for us. He was not college educated but was very insightful and wise. I respect him immensely. Some of the engineering students that I went to school with could do a six page calculation but couldn't figure out how to work a doorknob to get out of a room. (jk)

I believe that most people do relate to those who have similar backgrounds and experiences. Education takes up a huge amount of our lives. It is a socioeconomic divider in our society. It's not uncommon to seek out someone who can relate to you.

BTW.... If you can't change a tire.....read the freakin manual, it's in the glove compartment.

[creolecutie2u_PREV (deleted)]

Education can factor in a relationship when it's not balanced and when the people involved in said relationship us their levels of education to either belittle the other, or impress his/her partner. Although scholastic education is important to me for financial purposes, I would rather be with someone who has very little academic training to someone who has a doctorates and no social education.

We tend to focus on the formal education of someone as though that in itself is the best indicator of compatibility, but ignore the importance of beliefs, etiquette, and family training. So in short, I think combined both Social and Academic education can affect the health of a relationship.

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