Why do women always lie on there profiles?

[theimfamouspuf (deleted)]

Interesting topic there bud and one I can relate to as well. Yes, you are right, there are alot of women that lie on their profiles. But not every women lies on their profile and there are men I know personally that lie on their profiles too. We are just as guilty as they are sometimes and I'm not saying you lied on your profile, but then again I don't think I'd read some man's profile I don't know since I'm not into men. Yes I did go on a couple dates a years or two back with women like you descibed and as you said it was exactly that lol. I had a total of three women I dated that said looks mean nothing and when I met them in person that was not the case one bit. I will say this, I could have 10,000 pictures of myself posted online and that still never justifies physical attraction in person. I'm sorry to tell you this bud, but it is our nature as human beings to be visual as long as we have eyes that are able to see. This is why no one should believe anything they hear unless they know or feel it to be true and be careful to believe what you see because you or others might just be creating an illusion of something that will never exist. Best of luck in your search for what you're looking for. I always tell people "I'm Looking for a needle in a hay stack", but I'm also careful not to stick myself with that needle when I find it.

Have a great day all .

[nicki (deleted)]

`I would like to think everyone would be honest with their profile...if you aren't honest how can you expect to find what you may be looking for...if your looking for a LTR say so, if you are looking for --- say so...honesty will make things go much smoother and cause less disappointment...I choose to be honest I am looking for friends but will accept more...what bugs me is people who don't read your profile or preferences...which by the way you should fill out...honesty is always the best policy, even though there are loads of men and women here who don't know what that means lol

[theimfamouspuf (deleted)]

nicki wrote: `I would like to think everyone would be honest with their profile...if you aren't honest how can you expect to find what you may be looking for...if your looking for a LTR say so, if you are looking for --- say so...honesty will make things go much smoother and cause less disappointment...I choose to be honest I am looking for friends but will accept more...what bugs me is people who don't read your profile or preferences...which by the way you should fill out...honesty is always the best policy, even though there are loads of men and women here who don't know what that means lol



I agree that you should be honest with your profile, I also personally know alot of men if they were honest with their profile they would not get a single date or what they were really looking for. I'm not saying it right at all to lie and I'm not justifying anyone's actions for that, but I will give you a little insight why someone would lie. For example, I used to be friends with some guy, we were friends a long time ago and had a falling out and the reason why was because he was one of those people that had to lie to get what he wanted. If you were to look at this man you'd have to say he wasn't what most women would call ugly nor was he something women view as ------ or one night stand material. This man was only out to get laid, but his drawback for telling the truth was when women looked at him they viewed him as relationship material and didn't want to have a one night stand with him. So what this man did was lie to every woman he encountered and said he wanted a relationship and "the real deal" and he had a habit of being an opportunist(which means he made his opportunities through other people and sometimes at other people's expense or loss). He had what most women that got to really know him would call game. He was a player because the way he was looking he could not get what he wanted if he was 100% honest. What ended our friendship was the fact that he imposed on two of my dates with women to try to get with them and he had to lie to me as well and try feed me that B.S. about him wanting the real deal. Come on now, I understand that he did what he did to get women, but to lie to your best friend and try and take away his dates is not cool, so I no longer with him or other people like that. What I think this man should of done was try and change his image so he could of gotten what he wanted without lying, but what he did worked so well he felt no need to change. I guess he was always jelious of me because I never had to lie to get what I wanted, but if anything I should of been jelious of him because of my image I had problem finding something long term. If this is true then we can also kind of blame our own human nature of shallowness for creating people like that. I hope this give you people an idea why someone might lie and I'm not saying lying is ever the right answer.

[witchyrose]

nicki wrote: `I would like to think everyone would be honest with their profile...if you aren't honest how can you expect to find what you may be looking for...if your looking for a LTR say so, if you are looking for --- say so...honesty will make things go much smoother and cause less disappointment...I choose to be honest I am looking for friends but will accept more...what bugs me is people who don't read your profile or preferences...which by the way you should fill out...honesty is always the best policy, even though there are loads of men and women here who don't know what that means lol



I agree with you, reading the profiles would make it less of a waste of time, but again, it goes back to the visual nature of who we are. To me, it's far more impressive to have been contacted by someone who took a few moments to read my profile and tell me they truly wish to get to know me as opposed to someone who responded based only on a pretty photo I took of myself.......

[nicki (deleted)]

`I agree completely I want to be wanted for more than what meets the eye...beauty fades, but honest love and integrity lasts forever!!!

[disableddan]

`I have to agree with you folks.... Let me tell you about a little encounter I had, a few years back. i used to spend a lot of time in the yahoo bbw chatrooms, and hit it off with one woman in particular. We chatted back and forth for several weeks, finally agreeing to meet. I was completely honest with her, posting a photo I'd taken less than a month prior, telling her the weight from the bathroom scale that morning, my exact height, the fact that I had a bit of a belly, and I was no Harrison Ford by any means. She told me in turn, that she was about the same weight, 220 pounds, and sent me a pic (which turned out to be at least 10 years old).
I drove from the western 'burbs of Detroit to about 40 miles west of Chicago, and when I got to her front door, she heaved her (conservatively estimated) 550 pound bulk off of the love seat she was using like a chair, waddled to the door, and immediately started berating me for being a 'fat slob'.
I didn't say another word.... just walked back to my truck in the driveway and roasted a perfectly good set of snow tires pulling out of there, driving the 500+ miles home and decided no more long distance trips to meet anyone. When I got home, she was in the chatroom telling everyone how fat I was. Gee, missus kettle, looked in a mirror lately?
Be honest, folks.... don't be that idiot.

[nicki (deleted)]

`Sorry you had such a bad experience...see why honesty is best people...I am honest and open I don't have all details on my profile cause everything about my life is not an open book, but if asked I have no problem saying...why set yourself up to lose?...i try to keep pics recent and info up to date...I understand about distance being an issue I live 50000 miles from everything LOL...keep up the search though and don't let that one rotten apple spoil the bunch for ya

[theimfamouspuf (deleted)]

disableddan wrote: `I have to agree with you folks.... Let me tell you about a little encounter I had, a few years back. i used to spend a lot of time in the yahoo bbw chatrooms, and hit it off with one woman in particular. We chatted back and forth for several weeks, finally agreeing to meet. I was completely honest with her, posting a photo I'd taken less than a month prior, telling her the weight from the bathroom scale that morning, my exact height, the fact that I had a bit of a belly, and I was no Harrison Ford by any means. She told me in turn, that she was about the same weight, 220 pounds, and sent me a pic (which turned out to be at least 10 years old).
I drove from the western 'burbs of Detroit to about 40 miles west of Chicago, and when I got to her front door, she heaved her (conservatively estimated) 550 pound bulk off of the love seat she was using like a chair, waddled to the door, and immediately started berating me for being a 'fat slob'.
I didn't say another word.... just walked back to my truck in the driveway and roasted a perfectly good set of snow tires pulling out of there, driving the 500+ miles home and decided no more long distance trips to meet anyone. When I got home, she was in the chatroom telling everyone how fat I was. Gee, missus kettle, looked in a mirror lately?
Be honest, folks.... don't be that idiot.



I'm sorry to hear you went through all that. I can relate with that as well too. I met a women online almost a year ago and had dealt with her for a week. She wanted to see me real bad, but I was honest with her upfront and told her I had a shoulder injury and had put on a good bit of weight since the picture she saw and told her my body was terrible at holding excess weight. In other words this person was warned up front not to expect some great looking man. Well she was so convinced she would hit it off with me that she came here anyhow and when she got here she wasn't so happy, but she was warned not to. Since that and other dates I've had I will never believe anyone that tells me that looks mean nothing. By the way, this lady in person was not all that great either, but at least I was willing to give things a chance, she was not after seeing me on sight. Also since then I've been going to the gym on a regular basic and I'm in much better shape ever since my shoulder healed up and I was able to get back into a routine again. One last thing I should mention, this person confessed to me after the date was about over that they never read my profile at all and just strictly went by my pictures at the time they contacted me. Sorry again to hear about your situation because I know the feeling.

[disableddan]

`Oh, hell, Nicki, I don't consider that idiot typical, by any means. i'm still coming to bbw dating sites, after all I just won't go more than 50 miles anymore, and if I go anywhere, it'll only be after seeing that person on a webcam. i'm in poor health to begin with, so the days of long road trips are in the past.

[terrybogard23]

nicki wrote: `I would like to think everyone would be honest with their profile...if you aren't honest how can you expect to find what you may be looking for...if your looking for a LTR say so, if you are looking for --- say so...honesty will make things go much smoother and cause less disappointment...I choose to be honest I am looking for friends but will accept more...what bugs me is people who don't read your profile or preferences...which by the way you should fill out...honesty is always the best policy, even though there are loads of men and women here who don't know what that means lol




i completely agree with you.i am always honest on my profile.as you say somethings peole shouldn't know(or maybe they can find out once you get to know them etc) but they should atleast be honest about the basic information.im always honest,telling the truth about everything.the truth will indeed set you free,lying on the profile will just lead to complications in the long run.but i do agree it is a double-edge sword,guys lie on there profile too,it does indeed go both ways.LOL and your right if you want LTR say you want LTR,i always put LTR.i once met this girl on a dating site that said she wanted LTR,i messaged her we started talking.then she says she just wants a one-night stand with me,and i was like "what?!?!?!".then i just told her that wasn't what i was looking for her but we could be freinds though.LOL she was pretty and i was attracted to her,but just wasn't into the situation she wanted.lol