Younger Men and Older Women?

[1lindalou (deleted)]

only in the past few years has it really become acceptable for an older woman to date a younger man. Men have done it for centuries, but when a woman does it she is considered desparate. Men think of scoring a young woman and displaying them like trophies to their friends. I prefer guys around my age or a little older. Why? The walk down memory lane thing. I like sitting with someone and saying, "Hey do you remember back when?" I find as I get older I take more trips down memory lane.

[terrybogard23]

1lindalou wrote: only in the past few years has it really become acceptable for an older woman to date a younger man. Men have done it for centuries, but when a woman does it she is considered desparate. Men think of scoring a young woman and displaying them like trophies to their friends. I prefer guys around my age or a little older. Why? The walk down memory lane thing. I like sitting with someone and saying, "Hey do you remember back when?" I find as I get older I take more trips down memory lane.



lol i do agree,but that's just the thing i think i am pretty mature for my age(25 now) and i can talk about old stuff.i love old movies and music,i research old events.i may not have been born in the times,but i know of it.im not completely clueless.im 25 but i am aware of the likes of someone like Buster Keaton for example.LOL

[cookinbubbles]

`LOL Buster Keaton! How the heck old do you think us older gals are??
Terry, I hope you find your older gal because you just seem so determined that its what you want. You sound like such a nice guy in all your posts and when ever we have talked that who ever you do find will be a lucky woman.
A word of advice...don't tell an older woman you can talk about "old" stuff. Us "older" ladies don't exactly like to be reminded that we ARE older.

[nicki (deleted)]

`I don't know if it is so much age or maturity that becomes the problem...I would have no problem dating someone younger if they didn't act like a child...then again men of all ages are like kids(just kidding don't chew me out LOL)...I have always went for older guys cause I have always been ahead of my age...but if I met someone younger and liked them then age wouldn't be an issue...now at 30 I don't see me dating someone 19, I mean its a little too Mrs. Robinson for me but a few years younger would be fine

[sizei (deleted)]

`I used to be totally against it but have realized over the years that it is the person that matters and not their age.

[cdnbbw]

`When I was younger I was always interested in older men, now that I'm 31 I notice younger guys a lot more. To be honest I like a wide variety of ages and it really does come down to the person.

[terrybogard23]

cookinbubbles wrote: `LOL Buster Keaton! How the heck old do you think us older gals are??
Terry, I hope you find your older gal because you just seem so determined that its what you want. You sound like such a nice guy in all your posts and when ever we have talked that who ever you do find will be a lucky woman.
A word of advice...don't tell an older woman you can talk about "old" stuff. Us "older" ladies don't exactly like to be reminded that we ARE older.



haha aw thanks cookin much appreciated.hey i know your not old. and thanks for the advice,always appreciated and always means alot coming from you. yes and older BBW would work just perfect.

[terrybogard23]

cdnbbw wrote: `When I was younger I was always interested in older men, now that I'm 31 I notice younger guys a lot more. To be honest I like a wide variety of ages and it really does come down to the person.



i agree i do like older woman but it really is the person that counts in the end,and that they are of legal age of course.LOL

[swmodarlin (deleted)]

I think for everyone it's different. I know for myself, at 40, I want to date a man who already knows who they are. I don't have the time nor the patience to help someone discover themselves. I know at 20 or so, we have all thought we knew who we are, and in some cases it's true. But if the majority are like me, it's taken a few years to figure it out. It's one thing to be on the journey together and be taking similar steps.. but it's a whole other animal to try to converge two different paths. I'm the mother of a grown son and now have a grandson. and like cookinbubbles and other have mentioned there's a common knowledge that helps people grow together.. I was formed by the 80's and Star Wars and Star Trek. When I laugh about neon green suspenders and what a good looking woman Boy George would have made, I want my partner to get it. If I say "where's the beef?" I don't want them worried that I'm saying there are size issues... because that's not the case. Being raised the way I was, not only was I formed by the 80's, but the 50's, 60's and 70's as well. I can flip from Elvis to the Violent Femmes on a whim. As i grew into my adulthood I found myself attracted to Country music, back to my roots as iw were as I was raised on it. So for me, I've got a difficult enough time finding someone around my own age that has that commonality with me. But to try and date someone in their 20's no matter how mature they are just does not seem feasible for me. Then there is the fairness of it all to the younger man. Let's say we find that common ground to build something. I don't want any more kids. I've raised mine and I've moved into the grandma arena. I'm not looking back, and more likely than not, that 20 something man is eventually going to want kids. I know it's not the case for some, they don't want kids and it's not an issue. But I know there are a lotta mama's outthere that will want grandkids and not full grown ones from someones previous relationships. For some it's doable.. But personally, for me, there's just nothing in common. for the most part. and there's got to be something in common to build something lasting in my opinion.

[iridescence]

I know where you're coming from. I'm 23 and I recently met a 42 year old woman who has three kids. She looked in her late 20's or early 30's and we got on amazing. Same interests, same humour and the same sort of history in our lifes.

When we first started talking I mention about how I felt with things like S-- and relationships, how I was 19 before I found a girl I trusted enough and about my general life. She was realy shocked about just how much we had in common. We'd go out to have drinks, go drunken bowling, go for meals. She's actualy lesbian so nothing wouls happen but the age was no difficulty at all. Her partner and kids actualy thought we dated or were up to something because she'd always talk about me to her family and we'd always be together. Not to mention we could just look at eachother and know what eachother is thinking. So she said that if I had met her before her partner she'd have gone for me. And she was the one that brought it up.

It's not the age thats a problem, it's just compatability. So just wait untill you find someone you realy click with. Lets face it, age is just a number. Relationships are about Laughter, Love, and being able to make eachother smile with nothing but a look.

Older, Younger, Bigger, Smaller. None of that realy matters when you feel happy to be arround someone. Just have to hope they feel the same

[nicki (deleted)]

iridescence wrote:

Older, Younger, Bigger, Smaller. None of that really matters when you feel happy to be around someone. Just have to hope they feel the same



That is a very true sentiment! I have finally learned to accept that very recently ...I used to have a problem with dating younger men cause society views it as different, then I thought to myself when have you ever listened to what society say lol... I now go by the person themselves if we have things in common and if I am happy with it... why should we let others choose what is best in our lives, they don't have to live it we do and live it I intend to do :D