How many men are on here just to get laid?

[andriek]

wow, I must be naive, 'cause I didn't know this sort of thing happened here. Though after reading through this thread I can see it now. I am really here to find someone, I am not someone looking for s--. I prefer to know the person before any hanky panky. It is much better to talk and know the person you are with.

Also I like women with bit of meat to them to hold (which is why I am here). Finally I much prefer to hold and cuddle over all.

Just say I am not one of those that are just looking for s--. We may be the minority but we are out there.

[terrybogard23]

mooseuk wrote: Maybe if BBWs gave the BHMs a chance instead of only wanting to find slim men, they wouldn't encounter this problem as much. The majority of slim men on BBW dating sites are here because they think BBWs are an easy lay.




quoted for truth. *nods*

[terrybogard23]

mooseuk wrote: sweetlyperplxin wrote: `Mooseuk, it seems that you have quite the vendetta against women.

Not at all. What I do have a problem with is hypocrisy. The whole "BBW" scene is filled with it. Go on any BBW site and it's all about fat acceptance, not judging us on our size, "just want to be loved for who we are," etc, etc. The problem is that nine times out of ten, a BBW is not willing to even entertain the idea of dating a bigger man - they just want to find a slim man who likes fat women. I've been on dating sites long enough to know what I'm talking about here. It's NOT a minority of women. This is what I mean when I talk about hypocrisy.

Quote: What happened to personal preferences?

Personal preferences, eh? What about realism? I could be a 400lb man who prefers slim supermodel types, that doesn't mean I'm actually going to GET one though, does it?

Quote: I know "bhm" whom only date "slim women". And this is the one that socially is much more 'acceptable' which in my opinon is ludicrous.

Are you SURE about that? Personally, I don't know ANY slim women who go for fat men. You often see slim men with a bigger women, but how often do you see a slim woman walking around with a big fat bloke? NEVER, that's how often, so I think you have that back to front.

Quote: The media, specifically tv sitcoms, more than happily portray this. (Where have you seen a sitcom with a bbw married or dating a slender man as main characters? I have yet to see this.)

Where have seen a sitcom with a slim woman married to a big fat man?

Quote: My point is just because I'm larger doesn't mean I MUST date larger men, and vice versa. I am allowed to have my own preferences, and not assume that men look at me and all they see is an easy lay.

No one said that you MUST. But look at the many BBW dating sites on the internet. Look through profiles and see how many of the same faces you see over and over again. Look at how many of them have been on dating sites for YEARS and YEARS yet are still single. There's something going on there, for sure. I think a lot of BBWs simply have unrealistic expectations, since all this "BBW" stuff became popular they're all thinking that Bradd Pitt or George Clooney is going to walk through the door. So they turn down genuine men with whom they might have a long lasting and loving relationship, so they can stay on a dating site forever waiting for something that's never going to happen.

Quote: My preference? A man who knows how to treat a lady with respect, be they a bhm or a slender man. Attitudes and classifying people like they need to have labels and fit in specific areas are two things that far outweigh the body type of a man I consider to date.

Fair enough.





i agree with you,and alot of smaller women with bigger men have a reason behind it,sometimes the BHM has money or buys the women things,but there are some smaller women who just like BHM though truely,but rare in numbers i think.and i think women are just more picky and selective then men are and that too has alot to do with it i think.alot of women say one thing,and mean another.i have been on alot of dating sites too,and i do agree with you for the most part.

[terrybogard23]

andriek wrote: wow, I must be naive, 'cause I didn't know this sort of thing happened here. Though after reading through this thread I can see it now. I am really here to find someone, I am not someone looking for s--. I prefer to know the person before any hanky panky. It is much better to talk and know the person you are with.

Also I like women with bit of meat to them to hold (which is why I am here). Finally I much prefer to hold and cuddle over all.

Just say I am not one of those that are just looking for s--. We may be the minority but we are out there.




yes,if only more women would realize this.*sighs*

[cookinbubbles]

`just finished reading this thread and was fascinated by all the different thoughts and theories and the way the thread drifted to another subject entirely.
anyway, someone a couple of pages back said to be up front.
Should I have that in my profile?
I ask because i usually tell guys I do not do cyber S-- in the first e-mail A couple of guys disappeared immediately so i figured I was right but 2 got VERY offended. I did keep talking to both but one turned out to be looking for money instead(rolls eyes!) so apparently instant S-- isn't the only thing guys look for. LOL
I was going to revise my profile(again) but maybe not. What do you people think??

And just to say....I could give a crap less what a man looks like, size or face wise. My husband of 33 years who passed away 4 years ago was shorter than me and definitly smaller than me but treated me like I was some kind of S-- goddess that needed lots of attention. He was also not the handsomest man on the block and we loved each other thoroughly(and often)

[ggr1972 (deleted)]

my official stand on this is: I'm looking for fun......but who knows?