Younger Men and Older Women?

[terrybogard23]

i like BBW and older women,if i can find an older women that is BBW that is great,but alot of times the age gap seems to be a problem.im 23 and if i find an older women i like,they are always worried about the age gap,i couldn't care less,even when i show them i don't care,there still not interested,maybe it's a problem within thereselfs? i once met a women that was an older BBW,i thought she was beautiful,then she was like "i have children your age".and i couldn't care less,but she seemed to have had a problem with it,maybe they are worried about what people think too? sometimes i think that they think that a younger guy wouldn't like them unless they want something,or they think it's a scam or something.it frustrates me to no end since i have good intentions.

[andriek]

` I can't really speak for them, but one thing I have noticed is that most of the time, with exceptions of course, that most women like someone older than them, I guess and I want to emphase guess, that it lets them feel protected. That is one of the many things women look for in a relationship. Now another guess of mine is that in their minds, and I think you kind of il----rated this, that the idea of them dating someone their childrens age gets to them. It could be a little weird, like if you had a sister and started dating someone her age. I sometimes feel weird with people my younger brother's age.

Also like how many years older is your preference?

[terrybogard23]

wow.you made some good points,i never really saw it in some of the ways you saw it,thanks for the insight. well,im 23 but i wouldn't mind dating someone like in there 40's.but i would also date a women closer to my age as well

[andriek]

`Thanks. And Ah I see.

[cookinbubbles]

`I have just been experienceing this. I have had many hits from men younger than myself. I am 56 and I have had hits from guys as young as in thier 20's and here is why I do not encourage nor enjoy that at all.
1. It feels vaguely incestuous. yes I know its not but....ew.
2. What the heck do we talk about? If I have to explain the jokes or references to comments I make, it gets boring fast.
3. one guy wanted to call me mom! argh!
4. One wanted to discuss his lifes issues. I am not HIS mother either and for sure not a psychiatrist.
5. One fella made it clear that since I was older, my S-- life must be done for and he was willing to revive it for me. Yeah right!
It is flattering, don't get me wrong. But it feels wrong on soooo many levels.

I work with young people, both male and female and no matter how built, or how handsome, or how sweet, the last thing I feel for any of them is a s----l response.
I will go as far as maybe 10 years younger than me but even that feels wrong, depending on the maturity of the guy.

Think Terry, could you h--k up with an 11 or 12 year old? If you just felt horrified, now you know how many older women feel being approched by a man your age. If feels wrong to most of us.

I love going on the forums and discussing issues with younger people and I thoroughly enjoy talking with and working with younger people than myself. it makes me feel younger but to date or have S-- with someone way younger just feel wrong.

[mizcurious3 (deleted)]

`I have been at both sides of the spectrum. When I was 19, I dated a guy that was 30 years old. We didn't figure out each others ages until maybe the 5th date. By then age wasn't an issue. He assumed I was maybe 23 and I assumed he was maybe 25. But we had so much fun together. We dated for 2 years, and then he moved. So age wasn't an issue even then. Every bbw is different and for me personaly, dating an older man won't give me any more sense of security then dating someone younger then me. When I was 21 I dated a guy that was 18, not because he was hotter but because he was smart and I could have a serious, interesting conversation with him. And again I didn't know how old he was till maybe 2 months into knowing him. Age for me is not a priority. I don't say: "Hi, I'm Yuli. I'm 22. How old are you?". I know some people do, but that's their own personal taste. So, there's my two cents on age. : )

[89shifty (deleted)]

cookinbubbles wrote: `I have just been experienceing this. I have had many hits from men younger than myself. I am 56 and I have had hits from guys as young as in thier 20's and here is why I do not encourage nor enjoy that at all.
1. It feels vaguely incestuous. yes I know its not but....ew.
2. What the heck do we talk about? If I have to explain the jokes or references to comments I make, it gets boring fast.
3. one guy wanted to call me mom! argh!
4. One wanted to discuss his lifes issues. I am not HIS mother either and for sure not a psychiatrist.
5. One fella made it clear that since I was older, my S-- life must be done for and he was willing to revive it for me. Yeah right!
It is flattering, don't get me wrong. But it feels wrong on soooo many levels.

I work with young people, both male and female and no matter how built, or how handsome, or how sweet, the last thing I feel for any of them is a s----l response.
I will go as far as maybe 10 years younger than me but even that feels wrong, depending on the maturity of the guy.

Think Terry, could you h--k up with an 11 or 12 year old? If you just felt horrified, now you know how many older women feel being approched by a man your age. If feels wrong to most of us.

I love going on the forums and discussing issues with younger people and I thoroughly enjoy talking with and working with younger people than myself. it makes me feel younger but to date or have S-- with someone way younger just feel wrong.

1. It's not vaguely incestuous, you just don't want to feel like a pedophile LOL
2. Agreed, sure, older women are attractive, but dating? Naw, can't do that if we have little to nothing in common.
3. LOL would you rather be called "baby girl" or anything of the sort? haha
4. It's healthy to learn about one's issues in life. It avoids the "America's Most Wanted" scenario really early.
5. Back to #1, that's why it feels wrong. When you was 20, he wasn't born, when you turned 35, he just graduating from kindergarten, etc...

All of your reasons are valid reasons why some older people hesitate in making or prolonging relationships with younger people. Though I hear that more from women, considering women don't want to be the mom and men think younger means they still got it.

[pindersa]

`well as a ssbbw i try to date guys around my age i know that they say age is nothing but a number but thte truth be told i want someone who is around my age for the mere fact that i wanna grow old together not you start off and leave me behind. i have an uncle who lives in africa and he was 70 and married a 26 y/o y i dont know by the time she is 40 he could be dead and then what. well i have babbled on and by the way im 29 lol.

[cookinbubbles]

`shifty, you nailed it right on the head, making some of my points more valid than I did. THATS why I love coming on the forum and discussing things with younger people. Discussing only. Making friends, yeah.
I do believe friendship can bridge an age gap.
Pindersa, you made a good point I hadn't even thought of.

[sheevaa]

`In my opinion, I think it's an instinctual thing for a lot of women as well. I will date a younger guy, but 23 would be the youngest I would go, unless he was exceptionally perfect for me, lol.
For older guys though, I would go up to about 35ish. I'm 27, hehe. No, it's not fair to the younger guys who have it together, but that's my preference.

I would prefer to keep it to around my age range though. Too much older, or younger and there can just be too much of an experience gap.

[terrybogard23]

you guys made good points,thanks for the comments.but there have been times were me and an older women get along perfect and have tons in common,but the age thing was the only problem.age is just a number to me,it all matter how well you click with a person in my opinion.and who knows,an older person could out-live there younger partner,you never know...but the age gap is always the women's problem not mine.then this one time i met an older women and we were actually going to meet,but she lived kinda far out,so it is never right.

[carmelnurse (deleted)]

`Hey im new here and have dated someone much younger then myself. Im 37 and hes 20. It was fun but alot of issues came into play. I dont know if i ever will again

[fatuglyguy (deleted)]

`Well I view it as the song said, "Older women make beautiful lovers... Older women know just how to please a man." And I truly believe that to be true.

[ilovebiggirls11 (deleted)]

I'm definately into both BBW and older women. Its an interesting combo

[vikingwolfie (deleted)]

`well i have dated older women and we talked to one another just fine but i have been told im an old soul i would never gate some one under 25 it would feel like i was a chester but like i said i have dated women much older then me and had a great time with it i do find that older momen do worry that a younger man might stray but that can be over come