How can a guy (me) tell when a lady is interested in him?

[chilatin (deleted)]

I'm a huge dork when it comes to knowing if a lady likes me. I don't know if she's being nice or she likes me. Ladies, your input would be very helpful. Could give an example or two, i.e., the woman looks at guy, approaches him, touches his forearm etc...

[sheevaa]

`Oi, I have the same problem, my friend. I guess you just sometimes have to put yourself out there and hope for the best. There's no tried and true method, since everyone is different.

If you do, and it works, let me know, so I can get over my cowardly ways and ask out a guy I like, too:P

[southernfinery]

`for one she acknowledges' you by looking directly at you.Then she looks away but shyly or indirectly peeks at you again.This is initial contact as in your appealing to her eyesight or maybe she has noticed you before but wanted to wait till she knew a little more about you before making the first move by flirting a little with eye contact.Now in order to keep her interest you must bring some conversation even if it is about something so common as weather.It will give you both an opening to speak to each other and a way to dialogue a little.You may make the next move by leading the conversation but never into discussion about s----l anything unless she is a prostitute then the whole weaather thing needn't be a consideration lol.Also pls don't jump straight into"when can we go out"when she must leave.You can ask for her number or give her urs but only if you have had enough time to establish some dialog(oops).If you think it best to give her ur number then make sure that you add how that it would be your pleasure if she would consider calling you sometime(anytime as far as hours are concerned) because she has your attention and you hope to capture hers or something like that.No I am not an old romantic hehehe.The old ways of speaking to ladies still works wonders and so does gentlemanly gestures.gbu......

[andriek]

`ah I see, I am like chilatin. I never know when someone is interested in me. I feel like I am denser than depleted Uranium when it came to that.

[southernfinery]

`^^^^^^ ur silly lol but cute nonetheless(now aam I looking directly at you by acknowledging u?)

[andriek]

`huh? what?

[southernfinery]

`I was just using you as an example,hope you didn't mind.

[andriek]

`oh ok, sorry I didn't pick up on that

[terrybogard23]

i agree with the OP.im never sure either,some things are obvious like physical contact.but sometimes im not sure if a smile and wave is an opening,or the women just trying to be nice.

[katsunrise (deleted)]

`It can be difficult sometimes. The easiest way to tell? Look back on past conversations. Do you always go out of your way to talk to her/him or do they start conversations too? How long do your conversations last? Who usually ends the convo? If she ends it after about 5 minutes with some lame excuse like "oh, i have to go" then chances are she's not into you. But if after like half an hour of talking, she says something like "oh, i have to go. My friend wants to go to dinner." Look for a specific reason. She might be lying, but that's less likely if she gives a legit reason.
Which is the next aspect. If she says something like "I'll talk to you later" then that's a good sign!
Physical contact is good. If she's constantly fussing with her hair/ outfit, that's a good sign.

[obsequium (deleted)]

`
Well, some people are naturally defensive and will mimic the behaviour of someone that is not interested, ie not look at you, have their body facing away from you etc.

For the most part, though, there's a few things that are easy-ish to pick up on. Mirroring of body language, looking at your eyes for prolonged periods, inadvertently drawing attention to her.. assets.. IE playing with a necklace or some-such. If you have great difficulty I would research body language in a little depth. Some people are dismissive of it, but I believe it to be a fairly accurate depiction of someone's feelings when read properly. It is easy to misinterpret though.. so be careful. I wouldn't want anyone ended up getting maced on account of some bad advice.

[cookinbubbles]

`I agree with you obsequium. body language is something that people do unconciously and can very clearly indicate true feelings.
i recall an incident in my marriage when things were going badly and every time we argued, my husband would cross his arms over his chest.
I thought he was just trying to be intimidating but I later read that it is a sign of protection: he was protecting himself, which was true because he hated any confrontation and always took it as in indicator that the marriage was somehow over.
Body language is fun to watch on talk shows. You can sometimes tell how a guest REALLY feels about the host just by watching the body language.

[aboardwalkgypsy (deleted)]

`I have a few key ones I know me, my friends and sister use... but not all.

*She always answers texts and calls from you but blows them off from others when WITH you.

*She is either super quiet or super talkitive (adreniline rush perhaps)

*We fidget! Our hands, sleeves, hair, clothes, purse, phone, etc.

*Either smile at you and look you directly in the eye OR can't look you in the eye when you try to talk ot them.

*Always looks nice when you see her. We will do little things to try to look good for you. If you stop by to pick something up really early and she is wearing lip gloss... she probably likes you.

*Finding reasons to touch you, your arm, nudging you, a hug (but be careful, this is also a sign fo really good guy/girl friends) if you are new to each other this probably means they are interested

*If you ask them to hang out or if they are interested in doing something and their response is, "Um, maybe I don't know I will have to see." That means they aren't because if you are interested in someone, you'll want to spend time with them. Unless you intimidate them of course.

*We are usually pretty obvious. Unfortunatly with men, if we are not yelling it at you and holding a sign you miss it... that or you look at little things that aren't signs and assume we like you when we don't.

Now tell me, how do you know a GUY is interested? lol

[hwyangel1967 (deleted)]

`Usually you can tell if she smiles when she see's you.

[jennifer182]

You could always say "hey, are you interested in me?"...seem's to usualy work for me :D

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