Shyness

[srgrl]

I am curious to know if anyone else has a problem with shyness like myself and how they try to overcome it. I think its a major obstacle in dating and socializing regardless of size and would appreciate any input.

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[pinkleopardann]

`As a rule, I am not shy; however, I think everyone will be put in a situation where they are uncomfortable. I am not sure if what you are describing is a general statement, or if you are really shy. If you are just apprehensive when put in situations or around certain people, then I wouldn't classify you as a shy person. If you are shy around everybody, then you may have that personality. Incidentally, some people find that to be an attraction.

[saosinita]

`I used to be painfully shy, but going to college changed that in me. I think it takes a certain event or situation that makes for a stronger sense of self. I don't know, least that's what I think. But if it's in your inherent nature to be introverted, I don't see why you should have to be something your not...

[epitaph_PREV (deleted)]

`Im shy. Especially around men. Women not so much. Now online..not shy at all. VERY open and fun. But meet me in person..it takes a good month for me to get over it. People just make me nervous. Alot of guys stop talking to me after I answer there lengthy hellos with nothing more than a smile. I dont know what to say? If they ask me questions..I can answer them alot better. I dont try to get over it. Someone will appreciate a quieter more calm personality. Im not the life of anyones party and never will be. I stand apart and smile and just bask in everyone elses good time. Just how I like it.

[xmissxlaurax]

`I'm a fairly shy person....when it's people I don't really know.

Around friends I'm not so shy!

[krayzee1]

`I am the same way miss laura.

I am shy around people I don't know, then once I get to know them a bit I'll loosen up. I am sorta jealous of the super outgoing people that aren't afraid to just talk to random people.

[xmissxlaurax]

`I will talk to random people once I'm familliar with my surroundings....and when I'm drunk :P

[krayzee1]

`haha. alcohol... the universal ice breaker.

[lovelymissmandy]

`I used to be incredibly shy. It definitely took me a while to overcome it. It happened in high school...just got sick of missing out on certain things...meeting people. I can still be shy sometimes. More around men than women, but it also depends on the setting. I do best in small groups still.

[lilmisskitty]

`I'm shy to the point it's socially crippling. It'd probably help for me to get a bit of professional assistance in the matter but... oh well. I do alright in very small groups of people I know well, or if I'm with someone I'm close to. (They help ease my nerves.)

Otherwise, in unfamiliar places with unfamiliar people, I'm about as talkative as a rock. No wonder I was never able to find a partner in my area, eh?

[jal2112]

.I feel the same way, I like to have a mood that is comfortable accompanied by good people.

[srgrl]

`Thank you all for your posts/responses on this topic :)

[skittish83]

`I am very shy and I think it has a lot to do with my weight. I don't ever get comfortable with people and haven't had a friend in a really long time, probably never had a "real" friend. Anyway, I haven't been able to ever get over it. I hope you have better luck.

[sheevaa]

`I think I did the same as Mandy. I just got fed up with barely any social life and no one to talk to. Plus, it's very hard to find a good man who's willing to do all the work and talk to a wall. I still have insecurity issues now and then but my shell is broken, and I'd never want to go back. Being a joker helps a lot for ice breaking. Oh, of course, yes, booze helps a lot too:P

[nataliemuse]

`I used to be really shy....always afraid I would be rejected...but then I started to think, "What if this guy is the one and I never even tried?" or "What if this guy is really great, just shy as well and only needs me to do something as small as say hello to break the ice?" It was that way of thinking that really got me moving.....I feel victorious just saying hello to someone I think is cute...Atleast put it out there, atleast you can tell yourself that you tried and it was or wasn't meant to be....You never know what you will be passing up....A lot of times, I will try to smile at guys...stand near them...give them the opportunity to talk to me first....but if they don't I make the move....Even if it's on my way out... "Hi, I just couldn't leave without telling you how gorgeous I think you are"....That might be a bit much for most lol....but my point is....THE SQUEAKY WHEEL GETS THE OIL!

Good Luck, Natalie