Closet BBW lovers

[xmissxlaurax]

`If a guy even attempted that with me - he'd be straight out of the door.

As somebody that loves to socialise, go out and have drinks, I would like it if my bloke would be willing to do that with me.

I don't see the point in being with somebody if you are almost ashamed of the way they are.

[quishraine]

.just be yourself.

[joxford17]

`You're too good for a guy who's embarrassed to be around you. Any girl is.

[phd]

`Here is another way to look at it.

I have never told my GF that i like bigger women. I believe that in our relationship telling her that would be superficial.

Moreover, She is a little bigger and has her own body issues. I would not want to tell her I like bigger women because I would not want it to hurt her.

I guess its another type of closet bbw lover b/c anywhere i go she goes, I even got her a job at my work.

[luvmbignbrainy]

`There are many men in the closet about likeing BBW's. Often they are in so much denial they will marry thin women. This is why web sites with pictures of fat women are so successfully financially. They typical member is a fat admirer with a skinny wife whose entire S-- life consists of looking at naked fat women online and pleasuring himself.

This is very sad. Encourage the men you date to openly express their preference. Don't let them keep you in the closet with them.

[stars00]

if a person is looking for a long lasting healthy relationship, this is definitely not it. Some BBW/ss lower there standards because they think this is it, this is all there going to get, this is all's they deserve. When that's not true! Weight is nothing, size does not matter when it come's to love. And if it does this person isn't worth the time of day. Every person deserves to be loved, not-judged and loved unconditionally fat or skinny. I wouldn't settle for less such as a closet-case:!: BBW or SSBBW lover!

BBW or SSBBW are not to be thrown in to the corner, in the closet or under the rug. There's men and women out there that love us for us! They know where the goodies are at!

[hamiltonbrat_PREV (deleted)]

Closet cases disgust me.

When I discover someone is a closet case, they lose all respect in my eyes. It means that you're too much of a wuss to be an individual. I don't need those kind of men in my life - they're a waste of time, energy, and emotion - emotion that should be spent on someone who has the guts to stand up for what they like.

[twistedlilpixie]

I too have come across such men online. The so called "closet cases" They tell me I'm so pretty and this and that and say they'd love to f*ck me. Its like big deal. Do these men really think that being told we're f*ckable is a real compliment. Most of these men would probably do a goat if there were any near by. I wouldn't be able to be with a man that can handle screwing me but doesn't want his friends/family/ or strangers to see us together. He is too much of a wuss and is not an individual. I may be young and all, but I'm old enough to know I want a real man ( age is not an issue, the maturity level is) not a little boy in a man's body.

I myself really am not one that cares what others think. I wear strange clothes, dye my hair strange colors, into/have tattoo's and piercings, etc. I figure if someone thinks I'm ugly/fat/disgusting, then screw them, they don't have to look at me. Simple as that. I shouldn't be forced to believe that I'm any less desireable or worthy of love, than any skinny/thin/fit/athletic women. I have been told my whole life I'm a fattie. Even by some very close people, family members, which really hurts.

So basically if someone doesn't love me for me and isn't ashamed to be seen with me and proudly display me as their woman, than they're not worth my time. Pretty much any woman can get a man "off". However I have much more to offer than just my body ( however great whomever thinks it is). I don't see anything wrong with the way I look. I believe I'm average to pretty, not gorgeous or stunning ( not fishing for compliments, just being honest). If a man can't stand to be seen with me or happily tell people that we are a couple, then he is not good enough to see me naked or get any pleasure from me. Yeah sometimes its hard to find a man that will actually love bigger and be open about it. I rarely meet any men in real life that will even give me a second glance, yet I'm told on sites such as these or BBW's rooms that i'm beautiful. However after hearing it so many times ( especially since its usually followed up by how they want to meet up and have sex, or something similar) it just begins to fall on deaf ears. So yes I rarely believe that these men that say such things to me are sincere,a nd are just thinking I'd be an easy lay because I'm desperate for male attention. I can take care of myself ( in more ways than one ) thank you very much.

P.S .
I heard this really crappy story from my brother and his friends. He's the only skinny one amoung my immediate family ( my parents and my oldest brother and I ). He tends to only date thin women. However he screwed this "fat" girl. However afterwards him and all his friends made fun of her about how nasty she was and said she looked like the michelan( sorry about the spelling) man naked because of her rolls. He sure didn't have any problem having S-- with her. He said it was because he was hard up and she was willing. I'm just so sick of these men that h--k up with big girls, then once they're friends find out they make fun of them and just play it off. I have seen this happen to a few of my bigger friends ( and even to myself I'm sure, behind my back). It's like that horrible joke..... " what do a fat chick and a moped have in common...............................they're both fun to ride until you're friends find out". This sickens me. I know I've said it a ton, but I'm so freaking P.O'd that we're meant to feel inferior to the thin women and that were worthless because we're not a size 2.



" If you don't like how I look, then look away. OR else just gouge out your eye's... * hands you a spork*....

" Beauty is only skin deep, but ugly is to the bone"

[nicki (deleted)]

`Pixie your comments are awesome and I totally agree with what you are saying...just because being bigger is not "socially acceptable" why do people treat us like lepers...no i may not be a size 5 but you can be assured I wouldn't want to be...you have to look at it in a good light there are actually men out there with the balls to be with the one they love big or not I know there are more closet people then real men but ya gotta give props to the real men...I agree with everyone else if they don't want me for how I am then let me go...never change for anyone only yourself...and to you closeted men, you are missing a whole lot cause I am willing to bet everyone here has more fun and more personality then the skinner chicks simply because we can be ourselves

[jenmis80 (deleted)]

I have to say, this is exactly why I'm so guarded. I had been with a woman for six years because I just couldn't trust guys as far as I could throw them. I knew what I deserved as a woman and a human being, but didn't believe that a man would/could ever deliver it--not a man worth his weight in salt, anyway.

Now that I'm stepping up to bat with regards to straight relationships, I've been trying to maintain the rose colored glasses, you know? Give myself pep talks. I'm gifted, deeply erotic, warm, affectionate, and physically pretty. But after reading this thread, I'm also disheartened and terrified. I hadn't (in all my naivity) realized that there were so many BBW loving men out there who are loathed to admit it, and I am NOT one to take being treated disrespectfully by a man. So it makes me wonder if I'll become so brow-beaten and dissillushioned by this kind of behavior that I'll just stop caring/trying. I don't want to become like that, honest to God I don't, but you bigger women loving dudes need to BALL it up. If you desire me and want me in your life--PROVE it. If you love me--SHOW it. I can promise you, you'll never find a better partner than the likes of the girls on this thread.

Jen

[sassybbwinnc]

I am sure some of you have heard this term. A moped rider is a guy who "loves to ride a moped, but does not want his friends to see him on one". I, personally, can not stand this type of man. I have encountered them in the past and am sure I will continue to encounter them. But, at least I know what to look for. I have my own little "test" to make sure I NEVER go out with one again. First of all, I ask to meet in a public place. That's just good sense in the first place. NEVER meet a man for the first time in a place where you are all alone. It's just not safe! If he just refuses to meet public, then he is OUT! If he does meet you in public, I observe his body language. You can tell when someone is uncomfortable by the way they act. If all goes well, great. If you connect and there are subsequent dates, test PDA's on him. If he won't hold your hand or put his arm around you...I would be wary. It's also always a good idea to just ask him outright! It's a sad but true fact that these type of people exist. But, we don't have to put up with them! Self esteem is something that no one else should ever be able to take away from you. I don't care how lonely I get. I will NEVER sacrifice my self esteem in exchange for something shallow and unfulfilling.

[southernfinery]

`imo it has alot to do with beauty pageants and these so called judges deciding what is and what isn't exceptable in the eyes of all mankind.I grew up watching my biological dad sitting in front of the tv when a beauty pageant came on and drooling at the mouth watching the women parade around.I saw my mom who wasn't a size below 20 have to tolerate it and I saw her cook for us but not eat with us.I listened to my dad putting her down all the time and that included her family.I watched as he didn't ever work or go to church with us or out anywhere with us but he ate what my mom worked and bought and I would listen to her when she tried to rest and he would be pushing himself on her.I heard my dad say so many times he was a preacher but he never lived as one.He only started excepting my younger sister because she stayed slim and married someone with a little money but it didn't last.I saw this man start attending the church his kids growed up going to after we were all grown and living on our own and he never took my mom with him.This man honored ---- and I am sorry to say but it would have been best for all the women in his life if he had been struck blind.It took me a while to forgive and I couldn't do it on my own and it took me even longer to realize my father in heaven was nothing like this man and he didn't care what i weighed.I started praying and my prayer was that father let me see me the way he saw me and now i see myself the way I should have always been able to see me.I pray the same for you my sisters and I hope you all find someone who will love you the way christ loves the church.

[kiaradr (deleted)]

alisha88 wrote: I met a man on the internet a few years ago. He was living in Germany and I was living in the US. We decided to meet up. I was always too shy to stand up and let him see my whole body on the webcam. At the time, I was around 205 now I'm 240! Anyway, I really was very insecure and wondered what he would think when he met me. So when we finally did meet, he didn't act strange at all. He loved me for me! Now, we have been married for 6 months and life is fantastic!

If someone cares about you at all, then what everyone else thinks won't matter!






Sniff sniff...that really touch me.. in my case the same story with another results...

[easilyamusedor (deleted)]

There are a lot of them I met one on another BBw site, he found my old profile on yahoo personals and wrote me there, he couldn't write me on the bbw one because he wasnt a paid member....long story short, we met went out I thought it went really good, I heard from him a couple of more times on the yahoo personals site but then he disappeared, no calls or anything.

The last one I met just wanted to hang out with me at my house, even when I had to go out and split wood, he didn't even get up and offer to help just sat in the house watching tv. Never even offered to take me out.

How to spot a closet BBW lover:

They contact you ( on the basic dating sites ) and show interest but when you look at their profile, they state they want everything but a large person.


They make a big deal about the ONE BBW they dated once and how great it was, it will kind of sound like a person of one race saying to a person yeah I had a friend once who was ( stating a certain race ) so I am not a bigot...haahaahaa

They will take you out to a restaraunt but then they lead you to the back of the restaraunt so you can have some "privacy" yeah right!

[blueeyedgodess]

`haha they are dumb. If you like someone like them, if you don't then don't. I feel sorry for guys who are closet BBW likers its sad that they don't even know what the like. The only person who can make you happy is yourself. No matter what, its your choice so choose wisely. We can't relay on other to find happiness, it has to come from with in. Love you all take care muah!!!