You say one thing and do something against what you said lol

[theimfamouspuf (deleted)]

Hi people, I hope everyone is doing well today. I was on another dating website today and I was viewing a couple different profiles(always interesting lol). Well interesting enough I saw this one profile where their first profile picture they were wearing some sexy lingerie so I figured I'd see what this lady had to say. When I read the profile she had stated that she didn't want any man to contact her that was looking for S-- and she didn't want to be treated like a piece of meat(wow). I'm the type of person that always says to people to each their own, but when you say you don't want to be treated a certain way and then you dress up in a s----l provocative manner then my question is "do you really expect a man to treat any other way other than a piece of meat?". I never did contact this person because I will respect their wishes not to be treated that way, but if I did the only thing I could do is ask them why they would dress that way and not expect to be treated like a piece of meat. Yes, I do understand that people want to get your attention on a dating website, but I also feel that you attract people according to the way you present yourself to them. I feel if you want respect them you should present yourself in a respectable manner. Me being a man I could never respect someone that come off s----l on a dating profile picture then ask for respect so I do the decent thing and not deal with someone like that. If any of you people have any thoughts, input or stories about this please feel free to add to this one.

[fatuglyguy (deleted)]

theimfamouspuf wrote: Hi people, ..... When I read the profile she had stated that she didn't want any man to contact her that was looking for S-- and she didn't want to be treated like a piece of meat(wow). I'm the type of person that always says to people to each their own, but when you say you don't want to be treated a certain way and then you dress up in a s----l provocative manner then my question is "do you really expect a man to treat any other way other than a piece of meat?". I never did contact this person because I will respect their wishes not to be treated that way, but if I did the only thing I could do is ask them why they would dress that way and not expect to be treated like a piece of meat. Yes, I do understand...


Some years back a lady informed me that just cause she dressed provocative it didn't mean she didn't deserve proper respect. I can assure you I did and still do show ladies respect, no matter the manner of dress, but the ones that get me all f----ered.. are the younger ladies that prefer to be labeled as the "B" word like it's a badge of honor. Please explain that one to me...lol

[theimfamouspuf (deleted)]

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Some years back a lady informed me that just cause she dressed provocative it didn't mean she didn't deserve proper respect. I can assure you I did and still do show ladies respect, no matter the manner of dress, but the ones that get me all f----ered.. are the younger ladies that prefer to be labeled as the "B" word like it's a badge of honor. Please explain that one to me...lol

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I'm never going to disrespect someone for dressing the way they do, but at the same time I don't think someone like that will get respect from MOST men I know personally and I for some reason wouldn't take someone like that seriously from that first impression. My theory on your question would be that in todays society in North America alot of the younger women that I encounter have this fixation of being ghetto or hip hop like. To be called the "B" word in that circle is considered the hip thing(which I'll never understand why anyone would be proud of that).

[terrybogard23]

theimfamouspuf wrote: Hi people, I hope everyone is doing well today. I was on another dating website today and I was viewing a couple different profiles(always interesting lol). Well interesting enough I saw this one profile where their first profile picture they were wearing some sexy lingerie so I figured I'd see what this lady had to say. When I read the profile she had stated that she didn't want any man to contact her that was looking for S-- and she didn't want to be treated like a piece of meat(wow). I'm the type of person that always says to people to each their own, but when you say you don't want to be treated a certain way and then you dress up in a s----l provocative manner then my question is "do you really expect a man to treat any other way other than a piece of meat?". I never did contact this person because I will respect their wishes not to be treated that way, but if I did the only thing I could do is ask them why they would dress that way and not expect to be treated like a piece of meat. Yes, I do understand that people want to get your attention on a dating website, but I also feel that you attract people according to the way you present yourself to them. I feel if you want respect them you should present yourself in a respectable manner. Me being a man I could never respect someone that come off s----l on a dating profile picture then ask for respect so I do the decent thing and not deal with someone like that. If any of you people have any thoughts, input or stories about this please feel free to add to this one.




i actually agree with you,and it is very contradicting when individuals do that.it's like if a woman wears a shirt showing ALOT of clevage and they get mad at a guy for looking at there chest,i mean wtf why wear a shirt showing all the goods then.i completely agree with you and see exactly what your saying my freind.

[luna59]

`In reference to the B word, I feel women will proudly proclaim the word as to show they are strong, up front women. If a man was straight up front, and strong ; he would be called assertive or a leader. Women are called domineering B's. It's a way to turn the negative connotation positive. In my house one of us will call the other " B" and the other will say, "You say it like it's a bad thing" and laugh.

[jeanne2b2b (deleted)]

`I understand the men's response that mixed messages are being sent by a sexy photo and in then the profile stating they want to be respected, you guys are 100% correct, its crazy. In defense of the younger women who have been doing this, they are told in subtle and subliminal ways to be a "real woman of substance" they have to "sell" the goods (their body) to prove their femininity, while they prove their worth as human to be as good or better then a man on the job. (hence the "B" word being projected as a good thing to be). Being 50 has its plus, and this one is accepting and loving myself as I am, because I have lived life and made many mistakes that I learned from. I know that sending s----l images only attracts the "Wolf" in men, (hit-n-run). That being myself will attract other people in my same situation, that we can relate and understand each other. Wanting to communicate again and again. If I see an older women doing the Sexy Photo profile, I just feel sad for her, that she has low self estem.

[theimfamouspuf (deleted)]

jeanne2b2b wrote: `I understand the men's response that mixed messages are being sent by a sexy photo and in then the profile stating they want to be respected, you guys are 100% correct, its crazy. In defense of the younger women who have been doing this, they are told in subtle and subliminal ways to be a "real woman of substance" they have to "sell" the goods (their body) to prove their femininity, while they prove their worth as human to be as good or better then a man on the job. (hence the "B" word being projected as a good thing to be). Being 50 has its plus, and this one is accepting and loving myself as I am, because I have lived life and made many mistakes that I learned from. I know that sending s----l images only attracts the "Wolf" in men, (hit-n-run). That being myself will attract other people in my same situation, that we can relate and understand each other. Wanting to communicate again and again. If I see an older women doing the Sexy Photo profile, I just feel sad for her, that she has low self estem.



Thank you for replying to the forum I wrote, I always appreciate feedback. When you said in defence of younger women doing the sexy pics. I understand that to a degree, but the profile I had view(which I fail to mention the age and physical build) was a lady in her late 30's that was a good bit over weight and it didn't look that great either. I'm not saying that overweight women are unattractive, but I feel you should wear clothes that compliment your build and this person did not do that at all. Even so your point about younger women, I have read many online profiles including some from younger women and never once did I see a younger woman post sexy pictures and ask for respect and not to be hit on. I'm not saying that a profile like that doesn't exist, just I personally never saw a younger women post one like that.

Thanks again to everyone that contributed to this forum and have a great day.

[terrybogard23]

jeanne2b2b wrote: `I understand the men's response that mixed messages are being sent by a sexy photo and in then the profile stating they want to be respected, you guys are 100% correct, its crazy. In defense of the younger women who have been doing this, they are told in subtle and subliminal ways to be a "real woman of substance" they have to "sell" the goods (their body) to prove their femininity, while they prove their worth as human to be as good or better then a man on the job. (hence the "B" word being projected as a good thing to be). Being 50 has its plus, and this one is accepting and loving myself as I am, because I have lived life and made many mistakes that I learned from. I know that sending s----l images only attracts the "Wolf" in men, (hit-n-run). That being myself will attract other people in my same situation, that we can relate and understand each other. Wanting to communicate again and again. If I see an older women doing the Sexy Photo profile, I just feel sad for her, that she has low self estem.



and sometimes i think some women post the sexy photo just to get the guy's attention,to "reel them in" so to speak.LOL because i have seen women with sexy photo's but engaging profiles before.lol