Is this wrong?

[terrybogard23]

im currently a BHM,i've been trying to work out more and eat healthier and take vitamins and the like,i think i have been losing alittle weight though.anyway,i am attracted to BBW,i think BBW are more attractive in general and i want a BBW women.but i myself want to be smaller for health and genetic reasons,but i want my women BBW,is this wrong? i know a women can be BBW and still live a healthy life,but i feel bad for this.i like smaller women too,but BBW is what i perfer,but is this wrong since i myself don't want to be a BHM for the rest of my life? i feel kinda guilty and wrong,but i can't help what i like. if i get with a BBW and she looses weight eventually,i will still love her and be with her,but i would perfer her BBW.and im also aware some people can afford to be over-weight more then others,but with my family history of specific health problems,it wouldn't be good for me to be overweight forever.

[andriek]

`Well if it is for health reasons, that is always a good thing. As for anyone you meet. I would say that is their choice. I mean it is still their body so if they want to too then that is ok, and if not don't be discouraged. I mean you have made the choice for excellent reasons.

[terrybogard23]

andriek wrote: `Well if it is for health reasons, that is always a good thing. As for anyone you meet. I would say that is their choice. I mean it is still their body so if they want to too then that is ok, and if not don't be discouraged. I mean you have made the choice for excellent reasons.




yes i agree,kinda forced.LOL i want to be healthy,i want my women healthy too,but i want her BBW at the same time,kinda crazy,but meh.LOL but i know a women can be BBW and be healthy too i think.i hope it all works out.i wouldn't stop her from losing weight or anything,i just would perfer her to stay BBW cause i like it,although that sounds kinda selfish on my part if she wants to be thinner that is.

[cookinbubbles]

`If you fall for a woman, and she falls for you, neither one of you will stay the same for ever. In a long term relationship, many things change, hair, butt size, stray nose hairs, out of control eyebrows, chin whiskers on women, all are some of what the human body both male and female face as they age. If you love some one you love them for ever. Sickness and in health, chubby or not, etc.
Healthy is good.
A nice strong hefty woman who eats right and gets plenty of exercise is not more unhealthy than a thin woman and if you meet the right woman, you would have a partner in getting healthier.
Besides, do you think all BBW want to be a BBW? Most would die to have a thinner body. Not necessarily model thin, but smaller than they are, just for healthy sake and to move around easier and in older womans cases, less pain from arthritis.

[mizcurious3 (deleted)]

`I'm gonna agree with cookinbubbles on this one. Love is a strong emotion that can change even the most stubborn of them all. Don't get me wrong, I know in real life love doesn't always come out victorious. (We can hope though. Lol)


And terry, maybe you say this because you have never been in love. You have never felt love for one person, that feeling that doesn't go away. That feeling your SUPPOSE to feel when you get married, but most people don't anymore. That idea that makes you selfless when it comes to your loved one. Makes you put their feelings and wants before yours. Maybe once you do experience it, your feelings will change. Or maybe they won't. I wish you luck in your quest to lose weight though. And in finding that special someone. : )

PS. Very good subject. Made me think. Haha.

[terrybogard23]

mizcurious3 wrote: `I'm gonna agree with cookinbubbles on this one. Love is a strong emotion that can change even the most stubborn of them all. Don't get me wrong, I know in real life love doesn't always come out victorious. (We can hope though. Lol)


And terry, maybe you say this because you have never been in love. You have never felt love for one person, that feeling that doesn't go away. That feeling your SUPPOSE to feel when you get married, but most people don't anymore. That idea that makes you selfless when it comes to your loved one. Makes you put their feelings and wants before yours. Maybe once you do experience it, your feelings will change. Or maybe they won't. I wish you luck in your quest to lose weight though. And in finding that special someone. : )

PS. Very good subject. Made me think. Haha.



LOL thanks.o i've been in love,so i know what love is.but i admit i haven't experienced true love in ALONG time this is true.im just attracted to BBW so i wanted my women to stay BBW,but that is kinda selfish though.but i am working on it. i came to the conclusion and my weight has to be one of the main reasons i don't get dates.i mean.im charming,i have a nice personality,im funny,i don't judge people,im nice,i look pretty decent i think,and im tall.

[terrybogard23]

cookinbubbles wrote: `If you fall for a woman, and she falls for you, neither one of you will stay the same for ever. In a long term relationship, many things change, hair, butt size, stray nose hairs, out of control eyebrows, chin whiskers on women, all are some of what the human body both male and female face as they age. If you love some one you love them for ever. Sickness and in health, chubby or not, etc.
Healthy is good.
A nice strong hefty woman who eats right and gets plenty of exercise is not more unhealthy than a thin woman and if you meet the right woman, you would have a partner in getting healthier.
Besides, do you think all BBW want to be a BBW? Most would die to have a thinner body. Not necessarily model thin, but smaller than they are, just for healthy sake and to move around easier and in older womans cases, less pain from arthritis.


your very wise,and thank you for the insight,i love seeing others point of view.thank you very much.

[southernfinery]

`ok try not to get upset but speaking from my heart,I don't think you know what you really want right now.I know you probably know what you don't want,based on what you've said thus far,but I think you would profit from focusing on what you like about urself and what you would like about a potential mate.You said earlier that you like bbw's but you like smaller women also.You said you want to lose it for ur health due to the genetic lineup of your family but that you wanted ur mate to be a bbw unless she was a small woman and well then you would like her to.See what I mean about needing to focus.Imo the reason you want ur mate to be a bbw or a smaller woman is due to your ----ing after women in general.You see right now it seems as though your one hormonal bulge and you just seem to want some attention.

[kimmykimyo]

I don't think it's wrong at all.

[jerrythedriver (deleted)]

`terry , to your question (is this wrong) lets try this one.
the way that i will answer this is what would i do.
i only date larger women , i define a larger woman as being fuller figured or voluptuous
like a size 8 to 18 , thats just how i define . and everyone does so differently.
yes there is a reason why, whenever i dated a smaller woman , they were cold , detatched, dispassionate and distant . they were never attracted to me and as soon as they had someone better lined up they left! i was a fool to ever become intamate with them , oh dont misunderstand me the S-- was wonderfull , but it was an emotional hell that i would not wish on my worst enemy . so i dont trust skinny, slender, or supermodel types.
so i dont waste my time or theirs and besides who wants to go bangin around in bed with a woman that you are worrying about hurting next time down? its like they say GO BIG OR STAY AT HOME.

[sadisticsimba (deleted)]

`Being healthy is never wrong, if a woman cant love you because of your physique, no matter what it is, then they probably shouldn't be with you.

As for the losing weight thing, good luck, in the last 4 months I've lost 60lbs, now at 160, never felt better. I find myself able to do things i never could have imagined doing before as far as athletics go, and just all around I feel more confident, so good luck with losing weight!

[ricofederico (deleted)]

This is not wrong at all. In fact, this is perfectly normal. The difference between likes and preferences is slight, but for someone who knows what they want, it can be dramatic.

I am the EXACT same way as you, terrybogard (in case you read this). I like to work out, and when I'm hard into my routine, I get cut in all the right places. Ironically, I se---lly prefer fat girls to skinny or average girls! I get a damn h@rd on when I think of the curves, man! And yes, this is a s----l preference, because other than the physical attraction, you can find the rest of your personality traits in anyone regardless of size. Anyone who asserts otherwise is not thinking clearly.

In my experience, this is a completely normal desire. It does not mean you do not know what you want; in fact, this non-stereotypical behavior means that you are mentally healthier: precisely because you are being honest with yourself, and others, about the apparent irony of the "contradiction" between your desires and state of being!

You know what you want and are not afraid to ask for that. This is NOT an example of "Do-what-I-say-not-what-I-do"; rather, this is a perfect example of "I like people like you, do you like people like me?"

Put another way, you know what you want. You are not admonishing or recommending adverse behavior in another if they do not choose to engage in that behavior. Rather, you are being OK with who you are while also being OK with what makes you attracted to another. This is an ideal state of affairs in any relationship.

[charliesmile (deleted)]

mizcurious3 wrote: And terry, maybe you say this because you have never been in love. You have never felt love for one person, that feeling that doesn't go away. That feeling your SUPPOSE to feel when you get married...

*you're supposed

sorry, but that error was bugging me.

[ricofederico (deleted)]

I thought I was the only one who prized proper spelling, punctuation, and grammar on this site. FYI, charliesmile, you forgot to capitalize the word "sorry" in this line of your response:

"sorry, but that error was bugging me."

=)

j/p dude

[charliesmile (deleted)]

ricofederico wrote: FYI, charliesmile, you forgot to capitalize the word "sorry" in this line of your response:


i'm aware. but that's my typing style. like e.e. cu m mings, i guess.