How many men are on here just to get laid?

[qunursingstuden (deleted)]

I'm so skeptical of dating sites because it seems that the only men that I get messges from are those that just wanna have S-- and nothing else. Don't get me wrong, I enjoy sex, its just that i'm at the age in which i'm ready for a real relationship. So men, what are your thoughts? If there are any men out there that is on this dating site for something more than sex, message me!

shay

[blueyez54]

`I have to agree with you on that one. You hit the nail on the head. I love being with a man and enjoy S-- more then most things but these dating sites are just not working for me. My S-- is for my one and only not anyone else. Whats the saying " lady in public but wild behind closed doors"

[briansalo (deleted)]

`My personal thought is that you have to kind of make your intentions clear in the conversation, whether it be pretty blatant or slipped in casually... A lot of guys will be honest with their replies I'd assume.

[(deleted)]

`I just chatted with a man a few days ago....from another site. I THOUGHT he was very intelligent and respectful from his emails he'd sent. So we chatted on msn..and what does he do but completely disapoint me when he started in with 'sex chat'.....I told him immediately...I'm sorry, seems you're looking for something else..and I'm interested in getting to know someone for a long term relationship..not for some 'sex chat' or one night stand. And I made that very clear on my profile from the site. Guess sometimes men will try it just to see the response.

[southernfairy (deleted)]

`i get messages constantly on myspace from guys who ask how s----l i am and comment how big my chest is so i must be s----l!ugg yeah where are the men that can carry on a real conversation!?

[mooseuk]

Maybe if BBWs gave the BHMs a chance instead of only wanting to find slim men, they wouldn't encounter this problem as much. The majority of slim men on BBW dating sites are here because they think BBWs are an easy lay.

[(deleted)]

`Ahh..well mooseuk....I am much more attracted to a husky/heavy man than I am to a slim one. That's my preference. Having said that..it's what's on the inside that counts for me. Looks mean nothing...it's his personality that comes first with me. And southernfairy I know what you mean! I get so tired of a man emailing me first thing asking..so what's your chest size?? arggghhhh!! I don't ever ask a man .."so how well endowed are you?"......WHAT are they thinking!!?? Those men get no replies from me.

[loveablefatgirl (deleted)]

`I see where ya'll are coming from. I haven't had any problems with this site really (except that most men that contact me live across the country somewhere else), but on other ones I do get hit on by married men a LOT. And they obviously only want one thing. As for men, I like 'em skinny to big so there's no discrimination here! lol

[austindaniels_PREV (deleted)]

`Seriously, I think that those guys that want to shack up make it harder for us guys that are really looking for a relationship. Thats why I dont like dating sites because guys are already given a bad reputation.

[saucywench_PREV (deleted)]

.I agree with you 100 percent. Its hard findging guys out there who want a serious felationship. When all you got is guys wanting to get laid. Don't they have dating websites just for 1 nite stands? If not they better make 1 so all you real men out there can have a good chance on finding what what your looking for.

[repunzal123]

`I agree. I am sick of people assuming I am an easy lay juust because I am fat! My morals don't get thrown to the wind because I have some extra meat on my bones.

[mooseuk]

repunzal123 wrote: `I agree. I am sick of people assuming I am an easy lay juust because I am fat! My morals don't get thrown to the wind because I have some extra meat on my bones.



And are you interested in BHMs or are you yet another BBW that only wants to find a slim man who likes fat women?

"Don't judge us on our size"

Heh.

[repunzal123]

`For me personality is most important, but I will admit, looks are also a factor, anyone who says they aren't are lying. As far as BHM, I actually prefer a man with some meat on his bones too. When I am with a slim man it makes me feel even bigger and more self-conscious.

[sweetlyperplxin (deleted)]

`Mooseuk, it seems that you have quite the vendetta against women. What happened to personal preferences? So you may find that some "bbw" prefer "slim men". This does not give you cause to classify all "bbw". Also, the exact statement is true in the reverse. I know "bhm" whom only date "slim women". And this is the one that socially is much more 'acceptable' which in my opinon is ludicrous. The media, specifically tv sitcoms, more than happily portray this. (Where have you seen a sitcom with a bbw married or dating a slender man as main characters? I have yet to see this.)

My point is just because I'm larger doesn't mean I MUST date larger men, and vice versa. I am allowed to have my own preferences, and not assume that men look at me and all they see is an easy lay. I have had many bhm assume that fact as well as slender men.

My preference? A man who knows how to treat a lady with respect, be they a bhm or a slender man. Attitudes and classifying people like they need to have labels and fit in specific areas are two things that far outweigh the body type of a man I consider to date.

[mooseuk]

sweetlyperplxin wrote: `Mooseuk, it seems that you have quite the vendetta against women.

Not at all. What I do have a problem with is hypocrisy. The whole "BBW" scene is filled with it. Go on any BBW site and it's all about fat acceptance, not judging us on our size, "just want to be loved for who we are," etc, etc. The problem is that nine times out of ten, a BBW is not willing to even entertain the idea of dating a bigger man - they just want to find a slim man who likes fat women. I've been on dating sites long enough to know what I'm talking about here. It's NOT a minority of women. This is what I mean when I talk about hypocrisy.

Quote: What happened to personal preferences?

Personal preferences, eh? What about realism? I could be a 400lb man who prefers slim supermodel types, that doesn't mean I'm actually going to GET one though, does it?

Quote: I know "bhm" whom only date "slim women". And this is the one that socially is much more 'acceptable' which in my opinon is ludicrous.

Are you SURE about that? Personally, I don't know ANY slim women who go for fat men. You often see slim men with a bigger women, but how often do you see a slim woman walking around with a big fat bloke? NEVER, that's how often, so I think you have that back to front.

Quote: The media, specifically tv sitcoms, more than happily portray this. (Where have you seen a sitcom with a bbw married or dating a slender man as main characters? I have yet to see this.)

Where have seen a sitcom with a slim woman married to a big fat man?

Quote: My point is just because I'm larger doesn't mean I MUST date larger men, and vice versa. I am allowed to have my own preferences, and not assume that men look at me and all they see is an easy lay.

No one said that you MUST. But look at the many BBW dating sites on the internet. Look through profiles and see how many of the same faces you see over and over again. Look at how many of them have been on dating sites for YEARS and YEARS yet are still single. There's something going on there, for sure. I think a lot of BBWs simply have unrealistic expectations, since all this "BBW" stuff became popular they're all thinking that Bradd Pitt or George Clooney is going to walk through the door. So they turn down genuine men with whom they might have a long lasting and loving relationship, so they can stay on a dating site forever waiting for something that's never going to happen.

Quote: My preference? A man who knows how to treat a lady with respect, be they a bhm or a slender man. Attitudes and classifying people like they need to have labels and fit in specific areas are two things that far outweigh the body type of a man I consider to date.

Fair enough.