Funny story.

[jjmcclure (deleted)]

I recently met a young lady online and we went on a date. I was upfront with her that I was overweight and she admitted she too was overweight. I had seen her pictures and did not think she was unattractive, when we met I was pleasantly surprised to see her pictures paid her no justice.

We had a pleasant casual date and agreed to get together again soon. I travel a lot for work, so we talk regularly online. During a conversation the other night she blurts out that she has a problem with my weight. No big deal she ain't the first and she won't be the last. BUT, she then proceeds to say if I was under 250lbs she would have jumped me on our first date The best part was when she said she really liked my personality and sense of humor so we could still see each other platonicly. Prior to this I was not angry or hurt but this pissed me off. I think every guy here would agree the "We can be friends" line boils their blood.

When I was not utterly appreciative that she was going to ALLOW me to date her without that pesky complication of S-- she had the audacity to get pissed at me.

This gave me a good laugh so I thought I would share with everyone and maybe bring a smile to your faces too. Also I wanted the ladies to know you aren't alone us guys get crazy s--- said to us too.

JJ

[bigrigd (deleted)]

`crazy stuff

[berryhuggs]

`Agreed.

[bbbbready]

`i agree WTF

[jayduhgr8]

`yea I have been down this same road myself. Talk to someone for a while get to know them and they say "oh yea I like/love who you are" so you think alright cool im doing something right. Then out of nowhere boom "I am not into you like that or I have issues with this"....I mean be upfront if my weight is problem with you then fine we don't need to pal around and act like it is. I would much rather have someone say to my face that they have a problem with my weight and can't deal rather than act like every thing is cool and we're good and then say later on "oh yea I just can't deal". Just makes me think like the weight didn't change in the few weeks we were talking so why say you have a problem now when initially you didn't have one. Just silly.

[toucherpudge (deleted)]

`That doesn't make me laugh, that pisses me off!

Don't waste my time! LOL - if you knew- which I think many people know right away- that it's a problem for you, then just say it. Sometimes it hurts or isn't exactly what we wanted to hear, but honesty is freeing and there's no need to wonder anymore "does she/he find me attractive?!" Also - how is it that there are so many women and men that claim to be open to dating other plus sized people but when you go out on a date with them, they're turned off.

Doesn't that mean you lied about what you find attractive, indicating that you lied in OTHER areas of your profile? YEAH - I wouldn't WANT to be your friend anyway if I was mislead by your profile. Not that you indicated that JJ, but sometimes that is the case- because it's happened to me.

[amberalert (deleted)]

`I'm glad you're able to laugh this experience off instead of remaining really upset over it and let it get to you. She obviously fits into the shallow people category. I mean, people do have their preferences in terms of physical attraction (people like what they like), but if she liked everything else about you I don't see why she couldn't overlook that just to see if it could work. Or at least she could have been honest upfront about what she does like physically. I don't blame you for getting pissed, I would too. Good for you for being upfront and honest with her throughout that whole ordeal.