BBW/BHM pet peeves

[torontoredhead_PREV (deleted)]

We've discovered over the years that BBW and BHM often are not considered when designing or building things. What are some of your pet peeves?

Mine would include:

1. Hospital gowns! What's up with that?! I go to a hospital periodically for mammagrams, ultra sounds, that colonoscopy I just had and I've never had a hospital gown that was roomy enough in the arms and forget about going around my body. I always end up with two gowns. I take a nightie but they never let me use it.

2. Getting sort of stuck in the turnstiles at the subway. I'm easily humiliated.

3. Sitting at one end of a park bench and watching the person at the other end be catapulted across the park. Okay, okay -- that hasn't happened right -- but it could!!

What are some of your pet peeves about being a BBW or a BHM?


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Jazzy Jane
We don't see things as they are, we see things as we are. ~~Anais Nin~~

[cutenquirky_PREV (deleted)]

I'm with ya on the hospital gowns. I also have to remind nurses that they should use the "large cuff" for my blood pressure or it's not accurate. (and it hurts!)

Restaurant seating--if I sit in a booth my plate is full of b--bs before I even order. lol! So we get a table and my wide azz is hanging off the chair for all to see.

Going to lunch with my coworkers I always get "shotgun" seat. I never ask for it, but I hate that it's assumed that I can't fit in the back with everyone else. It's unspoken.

I have not found a way to gracefully pick up something I dropped. Squatting, bending--it all looks bad. And I like sitting on the floor. But look like an idiot when I try to get up.

What I REALLY miss is...when kissing a guy, I used to be able to feel my hips up against his. Now it's belly-first, which I don't find very, umm, exciting. Does that make sense?

Basically I feel the MOST like hiding. And I'm the LEAST likely to be successful. lol!

[nvme10 (deleted)]

awww quirky! we should get together for lunch sometime and let our boobies fill our plates together and to heck with 'em!

I concur with the hospital gowns - grrrrrrrrrrrrr - but what really bugs me is the twig nurse trying to tell me I'm not that big - PA-LEEEEEZE - I could fit three of her scrawny --- in me and have room to shake!

A gal in my class recently related that she closed her bank account due to the bank having only those sit down windows - but narrow chairs which could not fit her - when asked why she was closing it - she said that they did not accomodate her and explained - the idiot jerk bank person rolled out a secretary's chair. *rolls eyes* - moron. Let's call MORE attention to the fact that her butt would not fit in the chair!

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[purrcat1020]

Other than those things already mentioned, I'll add airline seats to the mix ~ although that's pretty much a given for everyone but for a BBW, airline travel simply causes me more anxiety than I need so I typically avoid it.

Although I fit in movie theater seats, my arms still "bleed" into the seating area on either side of me so I always opt for an aisle seat although I'd rather be right in the middle of a row so I see the screen straight on. Thank goodness for Netflix ~ lol!

Stadium seating ~ forget it! Not only is it painfully uncomfortable but I just can't squeeze my upper body enough to keep from bothering the people on either side of me. Plus getting into the stadium means a turnstile and I'm with Torontoredhead ~ I don't need that humiliat....

And I really miss riding amusement park rides but there's no way I'd fit in any of those. Oh well, I'm barely tall enough to reach the minimum height limit anyway.

I'm sure I'll think of others but these are some that come to mind instantly.

PurrCat (not purring right now...)

[shannon51]

I happen to know hospitals have gowns that are even too big for me, and I'm pretty big, so I refuse to wear some tight thing just to be a joke for the thin girls doing the tests. Either get me the right size, (and no I do not care if you have to go all the way across the hospital to find one) or I'll stay in my street clothes. Once they realise you mean business and aren't the least bit impressed by their thinness, they move their butts pretty fast to get you what you need. I've learned to take no prisoners LOL

I hate seating too, come on, if more than half the US is obese, then we must be the majority in spending money too, fit me or don't get my money. When I was attending college classes, most had those stupid desks made for thin 12 year olds, so I would have to get a real chair (often dragging it down the hallway from another classroom) and turn the desk around backward. It was not only embarrassing, it was ridiculous! I loudly stated that I was paying for an education, not a condemnation of my obesity and if the university did not have the means to accommodate me, then there was no reason to give them money. Suddenly, the desks were gone and we had tables and chairs that not fit me better but also fit the super skinny better because they could pull up closer, and men with long legs, etc., seems very few actually like those stupid desks.

I hate how they make fat clothes with longer sleeves (I have short fat arms) and longer inseams (I have short fat legs and I hate the pants crotch hanging between my knees), petite is too short, average gets dragged on the ground, there must be a better way to size fat clothes.

My biggest pet peeve about being fat, is everybody, but everybody, thinks the obese eat like pigs and don't exercise. Even doctors get in on this. It's so dumb, I know fat people who weigh every portion that goes into their mouths and exercise like addicts, they not only stay obese, they often gain more. On the other hand I had lunch with my skinny daughter yesterday and her normal-sized boyfriend. They both ate big cheeseburgers, fries, two large pops, and shared a huge plate of chili-cheese fries, then went to Dairy Queen and had triple Blizzards. And they were then tired and went home to take a long nap. Yeah, that's why I'm fat, I ate half my lunch and went home and did my exercises, yep, must be true, the obese just over eat and don't exercise. What a crock!

[cutenquirky_PREV (deleted)]

nvme10 wrote: awww quirky! we should get together for lunch sometime and let our boobies fill our plates together and to heck with 'em!


Just think how popular we'd be, too! Plate o' boobies, table six!

[chellenky (deleted)]

My pet peeve is when people say that I have such a pretty face. It may seem like a compliment but really it is not. Yes, I am pretty but my face is not the only part of me that is worthy of compliment!
I work in the trucking industry but I dont get to see the drivers, talking to the driver mainly by radio or telephone. My regular guys know what I look like but when a new driver comes along he always wants to know about me. He will always ask my regular guys and most (but not all) will say " She has a beautiful face".

I have to say that I have to agree with the hospital gowns and the movie and stadium seating! Plus, lawn chairs. I love sitting outside but have yet to find a lawn chair that I feel comfortable in. 8)

[fruitiondelight]

Frankly, I agree with everyone. Shannon opposites for me. I am tall and I have the hardest time finding any shirts long enough the way I want them. When buying women shirts they believe that my torso ends just below my breasts. Hello! What is up with that? I do however, feel for the short and big, my sister is a BBW who only stands about 5' 1" and three quartersLOL . We are constantly making jokes about her T-Rex arms. LOl but the her inseam does not even reach a yard stick. She either drowns or suffocates in clothes and I have to worry about looking attractive as a Jimmy Dean Sausage. LOL

As for the b--bs on the table .... I say PUT IT ALL UP THERE! If they cannot accomodate for our ample breasts then they can dream about having them for dessert.

My pet peeve is when someone (this just happened to me) says boy your butt looks smaller in those jeans. Is this supposed to be a compliment.? I simply replied:" are you trying to say my a** was big before the jeans?"
Maybe it is a thing for the skinny women in my life but I am thankful that my size allows for a** to be born. If I was thin; I would have to do butt thrusts in order to give the appearance that my butt actually does exist.

Another pet peeve of mine which happens less than I really wish is when really hot tottie men hit on me at work and my co-workers look shocked that such an exciting phenomenal woman like myself shouldn't be paid any attention to. I don't know if anyone else experiences the complete look of shock and mortification that I experience when this happens, but all I think is " YEA, THAT'S RIGHT. DAMN I GOT IT!lol "

Frankly, BBW and BBH people are not given the respect and love they deserve. We live on a day to day basis with adversity and move forward. We believe in good things, men, women, etc. Some of us have children or loved ones that depend on us. We make it happens folks. We deserve all the fruits of our labors and it should be recognized.

[didiluv_PREV (deleted)]

Boy you all had me laughing so hard! But boy are you all right. Especially the booth part. If we are going to eat at a new place I always ask if they have tables. Booths just don't cut it. I barely fit in there and after eating I can barely get out.

But what used to really bother me a whole lot was when someones kids look at you and snicker or point at you and say: She's fat!. It's like no s--- sherlock, and what you think cuz I'm fat I can't hear what you just said? Some kids have no manners. Now when I hear them say that I just ignore them or give them my evil look!!

But what I would really like to know is why are some people so against BBW's and BHM? Some people act like if it's a really bad and disgusting thing to be large. And just because we are large they think we are going to die first. Hell some skinny person can be walking down the street and get run over way before a fat person kicks the bucket. I think that when it's your time to go, it's time to go. Only GOD can decide that, no matter how big you are!

[sthrndelight_PREV (deleted)]

EVERYTHING,everyone has said...i too don't even go out to eat much because of the seats or how people look...reckon thats why i became a homebody and my daughter gets onto me all the time...i've settled into staying home instead of going places and enjoying life...but in all honesty,a lot of it is also due to loosing my husband Aug.6th,2005...i still find that hard at times to handle and i know that too plays a role on my outlook these days...sorry,got off the track a little,anyway,i can relate to everything you all said and it makes me mad that i have let society rule my life instead of me ruling it...maybe if i keep reading ya'lls comments it'll make me take a new look on life and get out and enjoy it...before its too late to...thank you all and enjoy your day...

[averagebiggirl]

My biggest pet peev is ...Not being able to find anything in my size. I'm 5'11, 264lbs, and I wear a size 11 or 12 in shoes...(depends on the style of the shoe) It's so hard to find something to fit me. Jeans for us big girls are always so old fashioned looking. They never seem to make anything stylish in my size. I can never find the cute stylish shoes in my size...I can only find the boring clogs...lol.

Here for a good time....not for a long time.

[ladycasey]

You've all hit on some good one.

Hospital gowns and public seating are my two biggest.

Aisle that are barely big enough for two small people to pass without becoming intimately acquainted.

Bathroom stalls so small that you can barely get in and shut the door.

[loveablefatgirl (deleted)]

wow i agree with all of that. being my size and 5'5" buying clothes isn't easy. I had to hem 7 inches off of a pair of pants for work because no pants in my closeminded town would fit. that and they are either too expensive, or ugly as hell. The only store I've found that carries cute affordable plus size clothes is Torrid. Is it bad that i secretly love it when my skinny friends go with me, find something they like...and can't buy it cuz they're too skinny? LOL.

another issue is also the "you have a pretty face" or "you are the awesomest chick ever...but" lines. i even once got the 'call me when your hot' line. (i of course retorted with 'yah but i dont think youll ever have a chance at being hot so no thanks). hate it. i live in a community where the guys just dont accept all sizes. and im kind of stuck here for right now.

on a lighter note, i use my "fat excuse" to get shotgun when i ride with people hahahaha i find it works great. no one is gonna argue with me. lol.

Ashley Jo

[thornbird1]

My pet peeves are with how I am perceived with society in general. Why is it people think it is ok to say things to overweight individuals that they most likely would never to say to anyone else? Why are we called names and snickered at but yet if we were handicapped that would not happen? Why is it when someone gets mad at a person they resort to calling them weight related names instead of jerk or stupid? Why is it fat jerk or stupid pig? I have also have bad experiences with men specifically asking me right off the bat what size my breasts are and I just met the guy! Guys suddenly changing their attitudes when they see your picture even though they assured you that outside appearances do not matter. Guys acting like they are settling for you and doing you some kind of favor?

Listen up! I am an educated, fun, intelligent witty woman who happens to be overweight. I make no apologies for my appearance. I decide who gets close to me and I make it clear that you are not settling for me I'm deciding if you are good enough for me! You want to call me a name then be prepared to be called one back, I'm not going to let you get away with that! If you snicker at me I will question it and I hope there will be a good rationale for your behavior! Any man who is going to be a pervert be ready to be questioned and embarassed because I will expose you to others.

Anyway with our society getting fatter we can only hope that there will be more sensitivity in the future with children who are growing up obese or grew up with parents who are. Until then we all have to stick together and support each other. Take care.

[bigbootieluvr (deleted)]

My biggest pet peeve is I cant find a BBW that's not spoken for or living a million miles away I am moving near Columbus OH maybe my luck will improve I here about BBw parties all the time but never near me PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!!! help I will treat a BBW like the goddess she is if one will let me

brian the big bootie lover