Something men should know that no woman will tell them.

[metalman69_PREV (deleted)]

One time I had a friend tell me that I should watch my back with online dating and I asked why. He told me that women have a way of spreading the word about men they dated to each other and if you made mistakes on your dates you would get a bad reputation for it. At the time I did not know what to think about what he had said. When I first started with online dating I used to get alot of responses but after a while they dwindled down to about nothing. I admit what comes around goes around and I did make mistakes on alot of my dates and with women I had dealt with as well. It could be true that women chat with each other about their dates, but that is something I can not prove. What I know for a fact is that there are web sites out there where a woman can rate the people they had dated. I did a web search and came up with a few of these sites(believe me, they do exist). On one site I looked up my own user name and it was toward the bottom of the list, which means if a woman looked on this list I would be one of last people she would want to date. On another site I looked at it showed how women rated you on different aspects of dating like personality, looks, kissing, S-- and etc. When I viewed my profile on this site my looks were rated anywhere from below average to poor, which explains why alot of women will not even view my profile at all. But something you guys did not know, on these sites some women might also lie about you just because they don't like you. The reason I say this is because I was also rated on S-- and kissing, which I am not proud to admit this, but I never had S-- with any woman I ever dating online and I only ever kissed one women I had ever dated online(believe me it take balls for a man to publicly admit that).

All I have to say is if go on a date from the internet do your best to treat all women right, try not to make many mistakes and if things don't work out try to end it on a good note. If you don't do these things you could get a real bad online reputation and sadly to say you are the only one to blame not the women you dated.

[imnlvnv (deleted)]

I would like to say that not all women are that petty and vindictive. For the most part women, BBW's and others, would only do such hateful things if they have been treated with disrespect. William Congreve once warned everyone about a woman scorned. Not our fault some people didn't heed the warning.

[metalman69_PREV (deleted)]

imnlvnv Said,

"I would like to say that not all women are that petty and vindictive. For the most part women, BBW's and others, would only do such hateful things if they have been treated with disrespect. William Congreve once warned everyone about a woman scorned. Not our fault some people didn't heed the warning."

If this person had read my forum correctly they would realize I had never said once that ALL WOMEN do these things,plus how could they say that a woman would have to be disrespected to do these things, they would never know this unless they were on the date with me themself. And also men get disrespected on dates as well, but not all men are going on a rating site to cut someone down, which I would never do. Just because I don't get along with someone does not mean someone else could not. And if you read the bottom of my forum it never said that it was a woman's fault to begin with. All I did was write about something that happens, but I never said ALL WOMEN do that and I also never said MOST WOMEN either.

[imnlvnv (deleted)]

I apologize if I mispoke in my earlier entry. I by no means meant that ALL or EVERY woman would react so disagreeably to a bad date. Nor did I mean to imply that you showed any disrespect during your date. I simply meant that I would like to think that a majority of women would not be that petty or vindictive. I am sorry you were treated poorly, but please don't judge all women on the acts of a few. There are still some very lovely, sweet, kind hearted people out there...just look at me! :lol:

[metalman69_PREV (deleted)]

imnlvnv Said,

but please don't judge all women on the acts of a few. There are still some very lovely, sweet, kind hearted people out there...just look at me!

I also never once said that I blame ALL or MOST WOMEN for a bad date or being disrespected. If you really want a good idea of a disrespectful date please read the forum called "How well should you know your date before seeing them?", after reading this forum you would see how a man could be disrespected on a date.

[shannon51]

`I see he's gone but from his reactions to the posts I'd say he was looking for trouble to begin with and that could very well be why his dating pool emptied so quickly.

I do think it's interesting how some women do form a type of club to 'out' the men they've talked to or dated, it's also like they are looking for trouble and when they find some little morsel to chew on they just get all excited. Most of us I would think do not discuss our dates, our private lives, name names nor go looking for problems, we just get to know someone, date them and go from there. There is never a reason to 'warn each other' we aren't a group of desperate victims who need to be protected from the mean men of the world LOL We are more than capable of figuring out who is right for us and who isn't and date on an intelligent, adult level.

[lincolnlass_PREV (deleted)]

`Oh dear............ (sets about googling self on internet........)

Nope, i am safe, phewwwwwww

But, what sad sad sad times we live in, that there are websites for trashing people like that. I bet that if we started a "talk positively about people" website it would be completely overlooked!

Its a sad fact of life that bad news travels faster!

[southernfinery]

`I love the fact that noone on this thread has a pic up which could be saying that that person hasn't come to except theirself yet which in turn could be the reason for such pain coming across(trying on my physcology cap)....someone said that if a positive site was up it probably wouldn't get noticed and I agree as folks seem to feed on the misery of others and the more devastating the bigger the hunk they take to chew on.It says alot about our nation as a whole to me.Like when you have had everything practically spoonfed to you from birth and out of sheer boredom you dabble into the dark alleys.I wonder how long our society will remain spoonfed?

[hyugabear (deleted)]

`Simple answer, a person who looks at the ratings and Icon and doesn't even bother to read the whole thing is a person who cares only about society's views on things. The person is control by society. "No one likes him so why would I bother to look?" In other words "No one approves this person, I wont approve him/her either"

I jump in and check and make my own mind as long as the person is not on something I do not approve (Illegal activities) I will read the whole thing and and give my own opinion if I feel like it. But I wont just go with the flow and not look just because the others didn't take the time to look.

Just in case my pic is pending approval I have nothing to shy away from in my views XD

[hwyangel1967 (deleted)]

`Don't feel bad. I'm not having much luck either. I would never rate or post anything about someone online. But I just blew off another one that was trying to impress me with his -----, and I told him that if he tied it in a knot I might actually be impressed. Then the one before him insisted that when I met him for the first time,that I would have to make a decision then as to whether I wanted to commit to him for the rest of my life (after only a few phone calls )or I could go talk to someone else. I told him I would choose curtain #2. And so far I have to tell men that: "no, I wont do your dog", I dont care about what you can do when you take your teeth out", and " do your mafia connections sell your medication?' So, If you think your making mistakes, There are a few not to do.

[fatuglyguy (deleted)]

`After reading all of these posts. I got to say. I have been on the receiving end of those vindictive women. It hurt to read that they thought I was a violent man cause I didn't takde her up on her offer. she wanted a stud muffin type to have S-- with while getting me to take her too bars so she could latch onto one. thus I got the bar tab while she got the man... or something along those lines. it's been years ago 2001 to be exact but she told one of the female verses male wbsites and still a lot of ladies believe that over the truth. so no matter what I say or do they run to it and take that over my word.. well so be it but I keep plugging away till the right lady finds me. ty

[cookinbubbles]

`sorry that had to happen to you. Meeting a nice person is hard enough without that kind of road block to top it off.
Good luck...

[southernfinery]

`well the vindictiveness could be seen coming from ither gender and I have noticed quit a few"men"just biting at the bit to get the downlow on the latest conquer of their friends or to tell about their last hot date to their hunting club buddies.Be that as it may one gender doesn't seem to be any better then the other imo.I do believe that alot of folks are used to further the cause of some shallow,money hungry person in order to get them noticed by someone they are truly pursuing but that happens to both genders also from what I've seen.IMO I believe it is a good thing for some to talk about something that has happened to them especially if it is really weighing heavy on their physi.For instance say this woman agreed to meet someone she met online and he tried to take advantage of her or even tried to get her to do something with a buddy of his out of fun.I believe she needs to tell this repeatedly with all names included or nics.If she got away,then whos to say the next will?Also has anyone else seen the news about the "craigs list killer".I mean come on girls we have to speak up and out and if someone is trying to make you feel ashamed about voicing your experience then let them but don't stop because you just may save a life.These guys have been planning on how to lure women out into the open like they are hunting prey well we don't have to be prey because we have a voice.So in short let me say that there are sites that rate women also but i guess because those have been around since oh forever then they don't count lol.Men will lie about having S-- with a woman especially if he thinks that is what his hunting,fishing,college buddies want to hear.It is an individual choice to make concerning how you are to be with a date and with friends because alot of times the two do not know each other.GBU

[fatuglyguy (deleted)]

`southernfinery, yes you are right men can be equally if not more vindictive towards women. In fact some are just low down mean towards a woman that wont do as they say the minute they say it. Some guys (not all), have this feeling that since they are to so called bread winners of the family dwelling that even out of the house they should crack the whip and a woman must obey. I get so angry with these types of manly men that I personally want to tap their noggins with a bat. but I can't they really ned psychological assistance. but not from me....lol

[southernfinery]

`yes fatuglyguy it is a shame for such nonsense goes on.I agree that this type of behavior is a breakdown in the mental and I also believe it is learned behavior passed on from generation to generation.I also believe that no matter how deep the lesson was engraved on a persons physic they still have a choice whether to continue on with the behavior or to abandoned it for something better.I do share your sentiment about tapping them on the noggin especially when such behavior is put on display for the public but like you said I can't.gbu