Equality

[graceofangels]

Has anyone else found it hard to find someone who treats with the same respect you treat them or as if you're an equal in the relationship?

In my most recent experience, everything was my fault and I always had to compromise. We'd fight, and I'd be hurt. I'd be told that everyone chooses how they feel so the fact that I was hurt, was my fault.

If something came up where a compromise needed to be made, it was only one sided. If he needed to do something, I was expected to be okay with it. If something came up for me, I was told that if someone was important to me, a compromise wouldn't be necessary.

Has anyone else had this experience?

[sheevaa]

`Not too much in actual relationships. In friendships I've had that, though. I always had to make everything right, even if it wasn't my doing.

Needless to say, they weren't really friends, and we are no longer speaking. You can only do so much:)

[jjmcclure (deleted)]

`Maintaining equity in a relationship is difficult. It's not easy to be a hard --- but I've learned this; you have to look out for yourself in everything you do because no one else will. Its not that people are bad but how can you expect someone to respect your boundaries when you never made them clear? Stand up for yourself and you will find people will respect you much more.