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1ofatype
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![]() Posted: Post subject: Why would people choose their friends based on their looks? |
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This is something I have been wondering about for a long time now. By no means am I saying everyone does this. I can understand being in a relationship choosing someone for their looks because most people I know want to be physically attracted to the person they are with. What I don't understand is why someone would have to look a certain way for someone to be friends with them. Shouldn't friendship be based on common interests, respect and personality? My question is why do some people have to be physically attracted to someone to be their friends or they feel others have to be physically attracted to them to even give them a chance to get to know that person? I would appreciate any comments or answers to this forum.
Thank you for taking your time to read this forum and have a great day.
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gracesorrow
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![]() Posted: Post subject: Good question |
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I don't really have an answer for you. I know that, in US society, there is a pretty big stigma attached to being fat. People tend to assume that overweight people are lazy, unmotivated, and dull. They don't usually expect there to be much inside the outer packaging, and often average people are embarassed when in public with very large folks. It attracts attention. People stare. It's a crying shame, because most of us are just like everyone else, with our own quirks, gifts, and personalities. I choose my friends based on who they are, and care little about what they look like. Aside from the need for some physical attraction, I choose my lovers the same way. No one looking at the men in my life could really accuse me of going for looks first. Anyway, just my 2 cents, but there you go.
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1ofatype
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Thank you for your reply and insight to my question. What you said hold true to a good extent, but I think it is more than just weight people can be judged on. But you are right for the most part, I think it is some form of shame, but who knows.
Thanks again and have a great day.
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indyapple
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`I don't think I've ever chosen my friends based on what they look like - sure I feel sometimes that chubby girls can relate more to my issues and what not but it would never be a requirement for being my friend. I choose my friends because they're fascinating people regardless if they're skinny or chubby or pretty or ugly...everyone deserves a chance to be my friend. The truth is that I'm sort of awkward in social situations right at first anyway and tend to gravitate to the friendliest looking person in the room...but if you're nice to me I'm going to be nice to you no matter what you look like.
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indyapple
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`I don't think I've ever chosen my friends based on what they look like - sure I feel sometimes that chubby girls can relate more to my issues and what not but it would never be a requirement for being my friend. I choose my friends because they're fascinating people regardless if they're skinny or chubby or pretty or ugly...everyone deserves a chance to be my friend. The truth is that I'm sort of awkward in social situations right at first anyway and tend to gravitate to the friendliest looking person in the room...but if you're nice to me I'm going to be nice to you no matter what you look like.
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chellenky
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I dont think that I have ever chosen friends based upon their looks but I know that this has happened to me a few times. There are some people who are out there who are shallow and will judge people by their looks, whether it is their weight, their facial features, or even the color of their hair rather than taking their time to get to know the person. It does not only happen to bigger people. It happened to me even when I was skinny. I know that I am not the most attractive person in the world but I do have my sense of humor, my wit, and my personality going for me (at least that is what the voices in my head tell me!!!!)
I personally do not discriminate. I have friends who are bigger and I have friends who are skinny and I have friends who others may think are not so attractive but to me are the most beautiful people in the world. If I meet someone who treats everyone they meet with respect and a smile, that is the person that I will try to find a common interst with and become friends with. Someone who is judgemental, disrespectful and who holds themselves above another is not worth my time anyway!
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