Why some men have a problem saying I do.

[thisisme2at (deleted)]

Another person had brought this up in another forum so I figured being the "I don't care man" I am I'll give you the answer with backed up facts and figures that I just got done researching on the internet. Someone had stated "I don't understand why some couples are engaged for 2 years or more" and I hope this explains a good bit of the possible reason for that. Marriage in the United States from our governments view point is not to them considered a religious ceremony, but rather a legal binding contract. When any couple gets married the actually marriage license is sent off to a government office and is stamp and signed by a government employee. The stamp used on that license is exact same stamp use by cooperations. So when you say I do you are at that point forming a coorperation in the governments eyes. A lot of people believe in marriage for religious reason, moral reasons and to land the person you think you want to be with the rest of your life with as a way to secure them, but there the kicker. In the United States(as well as a few other countries) men have no real benefits out of getting married. Other than tax breaks and favored hours at certain jobs, it is a bigger risk than what any benefit could ever pay off. The divorce rate in the United States is over 50%, this means at least one out every two marriages end in divorce. Over 70% of those divorces are bought on by the women. Know reasons for this are to take custody of kids, realized they made a bad choice or even to take half of what a man owns. In divorce court the women usually highly favored for being handed over child custody, half of what was accumulated during the marriage and alimony as well. Researchers have linked this to the fact that women spend on average over 70% of the money in this country and if courts favored men it is speculated that not as much money would be spent, in other words to translate this it's all about the oh mighty dollar. Money talks and everything else walks. In other words if a man does not have a prenumptual agreement before the wedding he is at risk of losing half or more of what he owns and has accumulated during the marriage and also at risk of losing his kids, paying child support and alimony as well. A lot of men don't want to take that risk so they'll hold off on saying "I do" as long as they can. I personally am not saying marriage is right or wrong, it's a matter of what makes you happy and it's a matter of choice too. All I'm doing is stating the facts and risks for men involved with marriage and if you men(and richer women this can apply to you as well) want to take that rick and it makes you happy then I'm not one to judge you and say stop what you're doing.

The only opinion I gave in this article was do what make you happy and we all have choices so in my opinion marriage is a choice. Everything else stated here is pure statistical facts and anyone disbeliever are more than free to do something like a google search and you WILL find that nothing I wrote here was a lie.

[evegrey]

`There is such a thing as a marriage certificate. I did this years ago when i was married...we kept it to ourselves and did not even file it with the state. When i got my divorce i served him with asseveration papers which basically means he did not do his husbandly duties by me as set down by god. Anyway..it worked for both of us...and I hope this helps someone else down the line. You have to look at your state and county laws though and see what they allow in regards to marriage certificates....

[thisisme2at (deleted)]

evegrey wrote: `There is such a thing as a marriage certificate. I did this years ago when i was married...we kept it to ourselves and did not even file it with the state. When i got my divorce i served him with asseveration papers which basically means he did not do his husbandly duties by me as set down by god. Anyway..it worked for both of us...and I hope this helps someone else down the line. You have to look at your state and county laws though and see what they allow in regards to marriage certificates....



This is true, some states you can get away with that, but some states for example when I lived in Pennsylvania had a law(at least back 20 years ago) that if a man and woman were a couple and lived in the same house hold for over 7 years they were automatically considered married in the state's eyes. I don't know if that law has changed or not. I still believe the best protection for a man(or even some women) is a prenup. Thanks for that info and have a great day.

[jessicavm04]

`In Texas if you live with someone for more than 6 months...your considered a married couple