fat fetish

[itshard2behuman (deleted)]

so. apparently this amazing nice gentleman i met has a fat fetish. i didnt know this existed. i thought men joined these sites cause they are attracted to women with curves. i didnt know jiggling a woman's fat and encouraging her to sit on him and smother him with it would get him off. i didnt know that guys like that existed. well. now i do. and. when you aren't particularly comfortable with your body and all its jiggly gross fat, its hard to uh get into that sort of thing. so. are there lots of men like this out there? have any other ladies had similar experiences? and if so how do you feel about it? i appreciate any feedback whatsoever! thanks!

[jokerspd (deleted)]

.new to the group(Chicago).

[samsin]

.Hi

[nekochannya (deleted)]

`I know of the fetish... and I particularily avoid it like the plague.... I had two experiences... and it was not pretty. It was the biggest turn off ever. Scarred my brain like there was no tomorrow. Clothes got half way off before they got back on. Its not funny when the guy bites your nipple and starts to move his head like a dog with a newspaper chewtoy just to see the darn thing jiggle... not nice... *shivers*

[skywalker03 (deleted)]

.Hey am happy i am on this site maybe i can find love and see what happens

[skinnysub (deleted)]

`Yes, I am one of these, but I try not to make it overbearing. Some women do like it, but it is like anything else, up to the person. I think that tact is important here. I cannot understand why one would be opposed in general to it, but I understand personal discomfort in regards to it.

Anyway, it's a damn hassle frankly, to have to be careful to not go too far. I like the things I like, and I can't help that, so I hope that women will be understanding or at the very least be honest and tell us how you feel. I would feel terrible making someone I was being intimate with uncomfortable.

Also, and please understand this comes from genuine confusion, why it is a bad thing that someone likes your body as it is, even though you may be uncomfortable with it. I don't know I shouldn't have stayed up all night, but I am curious to hear your opinions, and share.

[rosaliehale123 (deleted)]

`Im only speaking for myself when I say this but for me I would prefer the man to have a fat fetish. I would know that he loved my curves and I wouldnt feel embarrassed, uncomfortable or ashamed about being larger. I wouldnt be thinking in the back of my head "oh no did he just see that jiggle, or omg did he just touch my stomach etc" I would feel alot more comfortable if I knew it turned him on how I looked.

But then I would probably be thinking is he with me for me of just because he likes my size :(

[southernfinery]

`sounds like a catch 22 --I mean he's into your fat and your fat but you don't want to be reminded of your fat especially in the middle of expressing your ------ity.Hmmmmm well let's see for me personally I can't see carrying on a conversation with someone that's just into my fat.Ok granted it is part of me but even though it is what wraps itself around me,it still remains so little of what makes me me.In the words of someone wonderful"if all you see is my fat and all you want to feel is my fat then you never wanted me at all" GBU

[olaleye840 (deleted)]

`I agree completely with rosaliehale123 i wouldn't mind being with someone who has a fat ------ however it would always be in the back of my mind and i would wonder if i ever lost weight would he still be with me :/ so I guess it's a toss up.

[kywildflower (deleted)]

`OMG, I'm loving this forum crapola...not saying this is crap, but...ummmm...yea, I like this. Wish I would have discovered this site a long time ago!! ANYway...

I used to think that I knew about things...even considered myself somewhat educated even in matters such as this; but, dang, I didn't know any such ------ existed...not REALLY. I know there is pretty much a ------ for everything, but they actually get off by jiggling your fat?!?!? That's amazing to me lol. Where have all the fat jigglers been my whole life is all I'm saying!! I would have had a heck of a lot more confidence in myself, if I had known that the man I was with really got into FAT (no pun intended ). I wouldn't have been so preoccupied with worries of whether or not my body was repulsing him...

[southernfinery]

`ok so let me see if I fully understand what ya are talking about in terms of a fat fetish.Of the fetishes I have heard about(notice my skating technique)they all seem to be about certain things for instance say a guy has a foot ------ then that guy is only interested in your feet and that is where he spends his time when he is aroused because it IS your feet that got him excited.Yes he will take you shopping or may just pick up a few pair along and along but they will be shoes.So you become his own personal foot geisha and I honestly think if they could get the color to stay in the skin and the feel of the flesh while it is alive to remain then they wouldn't bother with the whole woman.Ok so now we are talking about fat right?This guy wants to see your fat move as in jiggle and wiggle and he wants you completely naked while this is going on right?He wants to throw your hanging breast from hand to hand and roll them all over his head while he is slinging them,with his teeth, from side to side like a dogs chewtoy.He then wants to bounce your stomach around in his hands while he watches the belly going up and down or from side to side.He also walks a little behind you so he can watch your butt wiggle and jiggle.What Woman would tolerate such disrespect and belittleing.This kind of stuff is why these guys go to whore houses and your telling me that there are some women that are willing to do this for free?Ok I need to ask something else,when this guy is doing this to your body ,which part gets you all worked up,the slapping or the jiggling?Oh and make no mistake about it he is going to start smiling and even laughing a little at some point into the ------ episode,so how will you not take that personally and exactly how will that aid in boosting your self-esteem or confidence?I'm sorry ladies but I don't think you have ever been at the recieving end of such nonsense and if you had then you wouldn't want anything else to do with that guy and you would understand fully why the ladies of the evening charge for these services.I think you can do alot better then becoming an object to play with for some cheap ------ frolicking guy.

[kywildflower (deleted)]

`lol @ southernfinery. I know that you were completely serious as you wrote this, but I haven't stopped laughing since I read about it last night. I think it's as absurd as any ------ is, although I know that everyone has one (at least to some extent). There is SOMETHING that gets each and every one of us turned on, whether we want to admit it or not.

No, I cannot honestly say that I've ever been at the receiving end of any such fetish. In fact, I do believe that I admitted to never even realizing such a ------ existed. I also think that what I said was, "I would have had a heck of a lot more confidence in myself, if I had known that the man I was with really got into FAT (no pun intended)." Nowhere in my response does it state that someone slapping and jiggling my fat, while smiling and laughing, will boost my self-esteem or confidence. I simply said that a man actually turned on by fat would have made me less worried about my body repulsing him.

It's all about finding the right person and making sure that person's interests coincide with yours, ESPECIALLY in the bedroom.

[southernfinery]

To all the newcomers welcome to the site.I hope you enjoy your time here.Yes ky.w.f I did borrow a term(self confidence) from your post but I also borrowed from the other posts as well like when I said chewtoy,that came from nekochannya and she did have an experience with that. I agree with you inthat my post was comedy laced but and make no mistakes about it,that was done on purpose and I am thrilled you actually got it. Let me add something that I forgot to add earlier and that is that we all want and need to be excepted as we are and if we get to be loved then that is icing on the cake.To allow your body to be treated with the upmost disrespect says alot about how one views themself but it doesn't say anything about confidence or the value of human life.These fetishes can get out of hand quick and you could get hurt.If you like cracking whips and dressing like someone out of their mind then you go right ahead but don't expect me or any other sane person to believe it has to do with something as innocent as personal perference.It has to do with your mindset and how much pain it takes to make you feel something.When you see someone's eye hanging out then you talk to me about perference.When you witness someone so out of their mind from being tied and bound that they can't comprehend anything your saying and you have to give them drugs to get them back to a state of reality before you can treat their injuries then we will talk about personal perference but not until then.These fetishes have nothing to do with a little smack on your butt or tieing you to a chair or bed to tickle you with a feather duster,these fetishes go way beyond that straight into the bowels of hell because it is about torment and nothing about pleasure.An attempt to try to make me feel stupid or not significant would be a total waste of time and energy..GBU

[olaleye840 (deleted)]

`as far as being on the receiving end of any ------ not just fat... I have no incite to the world of fetishes I'm naive about such things and honestly chose to stay that way till the time comes. I see no reason to judge a guy on his ------ interests. That being said if I had ever experienced anything like what southernfinery has described... HECK NO!!! I would not want to or even consider being with a man with a fat fetish. However since I have not and know of no one who has in my personal life been with someone with such a fetish, I have no problems with people and their "interests" as long as no one gets hurt. All I can say is let your personality speak for what type of person you are and want to be.

@southernfinery- enjoy your posts and hope you continue to lend your insight and opinions! God Bless

@kywildflower- welcome! I only joined the site about a month ago and have had nothing but pleasant experiences (a few a little gross) but fine all the same. I hope you find what your looking for from the site! God Bless

[kywildflower (deleted)]

Thanks a LOT for the welcome, olaleye840!!!

As for finding what I'm looking for from this site, I was just curious and checking things out, so whatever happens is good!

Good luck to you in your quest, as well...

-kywildflower