What's with taking ,"a break?"

[wafflemaker (deleted)]

I have tried to understand this over the years as much as possible. Isn't there a certain point you go too far during a ,"mutual hiatus," that it's just irrecoverable? For example.

Years steady married, living together, what have you...You split temporarily. During this point in time it's rough as in the relationship is not exactly... Smooth. So the two of you split, he/she says that because of the distance/combination of events/financial status etc. "Official," is not in the itinerary. This person does not state you're,"working things out," or that you're,"on the market and free to look around."

Don't you think that's time to call it quits? Why hold on to that? Better yet.... Why even come back together when so many questions fill your relationship after that? Suspicion of satisfaction, devotion, sanctity? "None of your business," just doesn't seem to apply.




I don't believe in taking breaks. Why waste your f#$%ing time?

[joanamrf]

I see your point of view, but I myself have been the one to initiate a break in my past relationship. Yes there is a point of no return sometimes...in this case that's why he's my ex, but when I brought it about, it was actually to recollect. I had been living with the guy for about a year when I realized I was losing myself, who I was, and was questioning if I still felt the same for him or if it was just me being so used to him and thinking, "that's just how things have to be." So I did take some time off, went back to my parents house for like 2 weeks and realized I was good, I was still in love, but went back focusing on being more like the me I am... :p

Then again that's how "long" I had my break for...anything longer than 2 weeks I would think is harder to bounce back from and I would see no point for it. Plus it does get into some gray area when it comes to the whole, "ok so am i allowed to date or not?" situation.....its tough


jo

[blueeyesashley (deleted)]

i completely agree as in i don't believe in breaks. its hard enough that your relationship is not working, why not just say what everyone is thinking and break it off. especially if there taking a "break" just so they can go out single.then there's no point in a relationship anymore. its sad but true. :

[iambrandi]

`I don't agree with taking breaks either. I feel like if you need a "break" from the person your with, then maybe you just shouldn't be with that person. Relationships are all about compromise. A mutual give and take with some meeting in the middle. If there are issues in your relationship, work them out. Communicate, truly listen to each other, respect each others opinions even if you disagree, and then try to find some common ground. Sometimes you just have to be willing to bend a bit for your partner. I think you should do everything in your power to talk out any issues and fix them and if they become something you feel constitutes a break, then maybe it's time to move on all together.

JMO.

[callmemissy]

`I personally don't believe in taking breaks either. The reason behind a break is usually because there is a problem. You can't run from a problem and expect it to just resolve itself, you have to work at it. In order to work at it you have to be together. A break is just a long, drawn-out and usually hurtful goodbye.