not large enough?

[hap12355]

Hey all,

This is my first time posting something and I think this issue is pretty interesting. First of all, I know I am not skinny. In reality, I am a plus size girl. I hold my weight really well. I get approach a lot but seem to not be able to find the guy I would want to be with. So, online dating seems to be the best option. And to add to that, being on a website dedicated to people who are larger is a place I feel most comfortable with. I seem to come across many men that find me smaller and not what they are looking for. It's interesting because I am too small in the plus size world and too large in "the smaller community." For someone like me, it's difficult to date. Any advice. I have read many of the post and you guys give some great advice!

[89shifty (deleted)]

`Difficult to answer, but easy to understand. I guess, the only thing I can think of (sorry for the cliche) is to keep your chin up and to not stop searching for the one you think will complete you.

[southernfinery]

`just smile at the ones that catch your eye and keep your standards.There seem to be alot of players on each and every site on the www. so read between the lines and pls pls pls listen to your intuition.The pause for concern is a reason to leave.Good luck and make sure you are comfortable with who you are before you go looking to add to your little ontourage(ok fine its spelled wrong geezss lol) but you know what I mean right.Keep smiling and keep the faith

[andriek]

`First, I don't want to be labelled as a spelling nazis, but southernfinery you were one letter off, it is entourage. But that is irrelevant to this topic.

I just think it is the people you have met so far. One thing I have come to realized is that we all come in different shape and sizes. And for everyone there is someone that likes that shape and or size. We always think of the right now but it may take sometime before someone comes forward that you are interested in and is back. That was one lesson I have found out myself.

[cookinbubbles]

`Interesting dilema Hap.
I actually found that I am not old enough for a couple of fellas on here who are older than I am.
There really is a great diversity as to what people like or dislike and what catches thier eye. It is what makes the world go around.
Would a be a boring world if all women looked like Barbie and all men looked like Ken.

[southernfinery]

`ok andriek your a spelling nazis lol.yep ya we live in a world where folks want and do judge books by their covers.The never ending onslaught of negativity thrown at the overweight majority of people is based on and in prejudice.There is no sound reasoning for the way large people are treated,be it from doctors,at work,in schools,in the movie house,in hollyweird,or,and not by any means less,family members except to lay it at the feet of prejudice and fear.Now back to the subject at hand oh yea andriek the spelling nazis rofl

[andriek]

`lol hey! boo. lol ok I opened myself up for that

[hap12355]

`Thanks for everyone advice!! Hope everyone is doing well on their search for love and friendship!

[dennene]

`i understand this so much. im in the same position as you. my weight just settled in the right places (in my opinion). i have a big chest, smaller waist, wider hips and thick thighs with a big but. soo im too big to fit into the category of average, but according to certain people, i dont qualify as a bbw :'( u gotta just chill and keep doing what your doing. its not every guy u mee thats gonna like you but i cant guarantee you'll find someone who will

[1957wkw]

hap12355 wrote: Hey all,

This is my first time posting something and I think this issue is pretty interesting. First of all, I know I am not skinny. In reality, I am a plus size girl. I hold my weight really well. I get approach a lot but seem to not be able to find the guy I would want to be with. So, online dating seems to be the best option. And to add to that, being on a website dedicated to people who are larger is a place I feel most comfortable with. I seem to come across many men that find me smaller and not what they are looking for. It's interesting because I am too small in the plus size world and too large in "the smaller community." For someone like me, it's difficult to date. Any advice. I have read many of the post and you guys give some great advice!

It woudn't bother me. I find any size from "a few extra pounds" to BBW attractive. Just don't want a skinny GF or one that is tooooooooo big.

[bluejayway2010]

`What's too big? Just curious... seems very subjective, and as I like to say, from outer space, we're all just specks...

[1957wkw]

bluejayway2010 wrote: `What's too big? Just curious... seems very subjective, and as I like to say, from outer space, we're all just specks...


In my case, I enjoy walking and visiting parks. I would want someone to be able to share that with and that could fit into an amusement park ride and enjoy it. It didn't work out with my last GF due to a deteriorating back since her childhood that won't let her even stand or walk more than a few minutes. But the love was great! :

[pixieskye]

`large enough 4 me! besides me, you will look fat!