What are your body issues

[mzwillownwolfie]

Hello ladies. I am Vikings Mistress and wife.. and I have to say I agree with him.. You must love yourselves . I am over 400 lbs and my baby love every part of me and we have fun everyday.. He is a wonderful man who cares about all bigger woman becuz he knows how to appreciate them.. so no worries Body size doesnt matter.. it is how you feel about yourself in your heart and how you put yourself out there.. and if I can find someone to love you , you ladies can...Thank you for listening to what I had to say ... and remember the bigger the butt the better it is when he grabs ahold lol..

[vikingwolfie (deleted)]

grinz thank you baby and your so right

[thatonechick]

I've been a big girl all my life, even at my smallest in high school I was 180 LBS and now I'm currently 300 pounds. It's always been hard for me to lose weight and when i go lose it I gained the weight back and a few extra pounds. Through the years I've come to realize that being a big girl doesn't make me ugly. I love my body but it is hard with todays media. I seem to always love myself until I go to the clothes rack. My wide shoulders, small waist, and huge hips make it hard to find clothes to fit me everywhere so most of the time I leave the store depressed and mad at myself thinking "Why can't I just be like everyone else?"

[southernfinery]

`noone and I mean noone should be like everyone else.You loose your individuality when you try to 'fit in' because you loose some of your identity.I know you are familiar with the term'can't get something for nothing' ? well that's what happens when you try to fit in imo.You are a unique being created by the skillful hands of the almighty and noone has the right to try to make you feel sorry for that but this is exactly what the enemy does.He seeks to steal,kill, and destroy.When he comes on like a flood and you feel yourself sinking in self-doubt and being overcome with depression and/or thoughts of hurting yourself then please call on Jesus.He will save you from yourself and from the enemy.He cares about everything that affects you and about everything you see as not significant.Jesus will push back the flood and at the same time he will hold you firmly in place.Jesus will protect your mind from the onslaght of negativity the enemy bombards you with.He will let you see yourself the way he sees you if you ask him to.Just ask him for his help,ask him to save you.He is waiting with arms outstretched waiting patiently on you.gbu

[simplyfran (deleted)]

I use to be thin/slightly thick & then gained a lot of weight two septembers ago & has been packing ever since.
I hate my weight, but I believe I am pretty on most days.
Body, My arms are small and not big or flabby, my legs are okay but my stomach protrudes a bit & I find It highly irratating (apple shape)... I'm working out, lifting, cardio, dieting & only losing in my arms/ legs.

I like my face sometimes, I hate tending to my hair & my black heads get the best of me...

But everything can be worked out! Just need to stay on track and remain positive.

[wafflemaker (deleted)]

simplyfran wrote: I use to be thin/slightly thick & then gained a lot of weight two septembers ago & has been packing ever since.
I hate my weight, but I believe I am pretty on most days.
Body, My arms are small and not big or flabby, my legs are okay but my stomach protrudes a bit & I find It highly irratating (apple shape)... I'm working out, lifting, cardio, dieting & only losing in my arms/ legs.

I like my face sometimes, I hate tending to my hair & my black heads get the best of me...

But everything can be worked out! Just need to stay on track and remain positive.



Don't look down on yourself that much. My goodness that's alot of problems to find with who you are on the exterior. Trust me when I say this. Noone is without a physical appearance that's worth investing in. You may be chubby, but chubby is what's up! You're a cute girl, stay positive. It is the best feature about someone worth appreciating. ^-^

[simplyfran (deleted)]

wafflemaker wrote:



Don't look down on yourself that much. My goodness that's alot of problems to find with who you are on the exterior. Trust me when I say this. Noone is without a physical appearance that's worth investing in. You may be chubby, but chubby is what's up! You're a cute girl, stay positive. It is the best feature about someone worth appreciating. ^-^


Haha, I guess... I mean I just responded to the thread... But I guess youre right.

[brentm1987]

`Agree with the wafflemaker :D

[wynslove (deleted)]

`I have been a big girl since I was born. lol. My momma even says that I was just a belly & a head when I came out of her. In school I was teased, bullied, pulled pranks on & generally humiliated by everyone. Even the teachers didn't seem to give a c*ap.
I was ed when I was young & turned to food for support & comfort. Food didn't care that I was fat or not pretty enough, smart enough or whatever else I wasn't enough of at any given time. I'm 39 yrs old & the only dream I've been able to keep alive inside me is to one day love someone & have him love me back, fat & all.
I won't get the surgery because I don't like all the complications that could arise. I eat healthy, for the most part. lol. The only thing I seem to have a hard time with is exercising. I have arthritis in my both my knees & find moving around a bit difficult. Of course my social phobia doesn't help matters because I hate to be in public. The looks, the sly remarks that are said just loud enough for you to hear.......
I don't hate my body, I HATE how others react to it. =( Like life isn't hard enough to deal with.....

[teri24ns (deleted)]

`I have been a big girl since I was born. lol. My momma even says that I was just a belly & a head when I came out of her. In school I was teased, bullied, pulled pranks on & generally humiliated by everyone. Even the teachers didn't seem to give a c*ap.
I was ed when I was young & turned to food for support & comfort. Food didn't care that I was fat or not pretty enough, smart enough or whatever else I wasn't enough of at any given time. I'm 39 yrs old & the only dream I've been able to keep alive inside me is to one day love someone & have him love me back, fat & all.
I won't get the surgery because I don't like all the complications that could arise. I eat healthy, for the most part. lol. The only thing I seem to have a hard time with is exercising. I have arthritis in my both my knees & find moving around a bit difficult. Of course my social phobia doesn't help matters because I hate to be in public. The looks, the sly remarks that are said just loud enough for you to hear.......
I don't hate my body, I HATE how others react to it. =( Like life isn't hard enough to deal with.....

*** I WROTE THE ABOVE POST UNDER A DIFFERENT NAME. IT'S STILL ME THOUGH & THAT'S HOW I THINK. IT'S NOT MY BODY I HATE... IT'S HOW SOCIETY & OTHERS REACT TO IT & MAKE ME FEEL LIKE SOMEHOW I'M DEFECTIVE, OR LESS THAN HUMAN. I WISH IT WERE DIFFERENT, BUT IT ISN'T. AS LONG AS I WORRY ABOUT WHAT EVERYONE ELSE THINKS OF ME...........IT WILL NEVER BE DIFFERENT. SO IN A WAY I GUESS I TRULY DO HATE MYSELF. THANKS DADDY FOR TEACHING YOUR LITTLE GIRL SHE'D NEVER AMOUNT TO ANYTHING... I GUESS I MADE SURE IT CAME TRUE ***

[shinigamigurl]

I don't have any issues with the way I look at all. I've never been on a diet. I've never yo-yo'd or try to change my appearance either. In fact I would HATE to be on a diet. I do have major issues with the way others' see me though.

I'm at my biggest now...and I've just broken 200lbs. But when I was in the Army everyone thought I had a eating disorder because THEY said I looked anorexic...I was about 120 at 5'4", of course I was nothing but muscle then. I gained a lot of weight after I quit and started going to university just because I could never eat a real meal...I worked full time and went to school full time AND was still drinking like a fish. Then I got pregnant at 35 lost my little angel at 37 weeks and 6 weeks later I was pregnant again- this was when I really started gaining. But I've never seen any thing negative about my body.

I wish that more clothes would be made for big girls, I wish people would look at me and ONLY see a fat girl...but never once has it occurred to me that "I WANT TO CHANGE". Maybe it's because I don't see myself reflected in other people's eyes- I don't use someone else to make my standards. I've always just done what I felt was right for me.

I would have to ask everyone who posted that they thought negatively about their weight one question:

"IF you were on a deserted island where there was no one else but you- would you still think that you're fat and hate your body?"

Maybe YOU don't really hate your body as much as you think. Maybe it's what other people think that's your main concern. 'Being healthy' doesn't always mean the same as thin. And just like having a low weight doesn't mean healthy at all...I know a LOT of bone skinny girls who are nothing but bone and fat- not a muscle on their body. Is THAT healthy? I don't think so. And I would like to remind all you girls who are determined to lose weight that it's not a one time deal...it's a LIFETIME COMMITMENT. Once you get to your target weight there is no stopping. There is no magic number that will let you live with out dieting and exercising your whole life. In fact most women who were big then lost- usually gain back more when they stop dieting and exercising.

It's a cruel cycle...that can only make you feel worse. The best thing you can do for yourself is start honestly looking at your life and making changes that YOU CAN LIVE WITH. Sure you can live with exercising 30 mins a week for the rest of your life...sure you can live with cutting out ice cream and cakes for the rest of your life- BUT you cannot live the rest of your life eating 3 tiny meals that are only salads. Be honest and take baby steps, live with moderation and be happy with the way you turn out.

[rollingrock]

brittanyyyerin wrote: Ummmm, lol all I have to say is my *ss is way too big.


Your *ss can never be too big in my opinion.

Rollingrock

[rollingrock]

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[alessandrofire]

I think you are gorgeous, Curvycrystal.

[kpoprubrub]

`It's so weird. I feel I am beautiful when I look in the mirror. Actually I think I am gorgeous. It's just when I go outside and I see how other people look at me... Maybe I am oversensitive and shouldn't care but I really get a feeling of disgust from other people which makes me withdraw. Why not be by myself where me and my mirror think I am pretty?
My main issue is my midsection. I see a lot of you ladies have good proportions but calling me an apple shape would be a compliment. I think I have something similar to Cushings (I can't afford insurance or doctor's consultation so I am only speculating) I have really low energy and other health issues. I try to be healthy... I eat well and exercise everyday but this dang stubborn middle fat. I wouldn't mind being big if I had good proportions. my husband tells me he hates my stomach and tells me "cut it off" and he does a sawing motion to my stomach quite often.

he says he likes big girls and says he hates skinny-- yet he is a big fan of the most waiflike skinny actresses. He says he likes bigger girls but sometimes when I am on the plus size websites he is complaining about how fat the models are and other times (at the right angle and right lighting) talking about how wonderful they are and if I looked like them he would chase me everyday-- pfft Classic example of a man who hasn't a clue what he wants or likes.