What are your body issues

[stars00]

Like most of you's i to hate my body. It's not lack of trying to get rid of the weight either. I try to lose the weight but it keeps finding me. I am at the point in my life that i am in the process of possible gastric bypass as a last resort.

[maymay22]

Hey All! This is my first time posting since I joined the site last week, But I was reading through some of this topic and I felt the need to reply! lol

I am sexy, yup.. me! size 22/24 and I love every inch of me! and I dare anyone to tell me otherwise! hehe I am proud of who I am on the inside, therefore it shows in my personality! I'm outgoing and fun.. but there are days that I wish I could buy that hella cute shirt that only comes in a size 5..haha..
Embrace your curves ladies! U are all beautiful!

[ajey]

`I agree with Maymay22 I'm all for changing my body for health reasons but if i hadnt have always been big then i wouldnt have experienced the life i have had and i wouldnt change my life for a second i love the way i look most of the time although i do have those days where i look in the mirror and wonder why in the world is my bf with me . everyone has low self esteem for the most part at some time but that doesnt mean you should hate yourself we are bbw we have went through more hell than any other women we should embrace who we are this is making us stronger .

[queenbtat20 (deleted)]

Well I have been overweight all my life. My dad struggled with is weight, grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins...one of my sisters...practically everyone except my skinny Mom. I used to think this was a curse. I would think why the hell do i have to be the fat kid. It has made me stronger!!!! I love every last inch of my body! Granted some dayz i wish i could wake up "skinny"! Like most i wonder what it would be like to b "normal." But i'm not going to change who i am because someone doesn't like the way i look!!!

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[acidiclemons (deleted)]

I used to be ashamed of even showing my face on the Internet.
I met one person who changed my whole outlook on life.
He was the one who really sort of brought me out of my shell, which was odd because he lived so far away. [: Online friendship thing. I so developed a crush on him, though.
Anyway, one day, I was complaining about my weight. ): How I didn't even like looking at myself in the mirror, much less letting anyone else do it.
He said (& I don't remember exactly, but it was something like this): "Why not? It's your body. Be comfortable with who you are. You've got two eyes, a nose, a mouth, t---, t---, t---. Be grateful of how you are & appreciate what you have."

I giggled so much, but I started thinking that he's absolutely right. I should be happy with myself. I still have all my limbs, all my senses. So what if I'm not rail thin? But according to him, I have a nice rack. :] So...pick out the positives instead of the negatives!

[ruthy]

`This is a great topic. I used to be really ashamed of the way I looked. Went on a mad diet after school and dropped nearly all the weight, and nearly all the confidence. This is who I am, if other people don't like it I've decided to let them. I like it. I never thought I'd say that but I do.

[sexysweetdiva (deleted)]

This is my first time posting but I found this topic very interesting and I found it even more interesting that a lot of women are not comfortable with their bodies. If there is something about yourself that you do not like it is up too you to want to change it. I have not struggled with my weight my entire life but I did lose all the weight then gained it back. I can tell you first off that dieting alone will not work, you have to make serious life style changes if you want to lose weight and keep it off. Most people who are overweight remain overweight because we just dont work out daily like we should. When I lost weight it wasnt from dieting alone but it was a combination of working out 7 days a week for at least an hour, watching what I ate and making sure I limited myself to 3 meals a day without snaking during the day. I gained it back because I went from working out 7 days a week to not at all but there is not one roll, fold or curve on my body I would change¦LOL and I am comfortable with how I look no matter how I look whether I am fat, or skinny I just love me . I think people should just get comfortable in their own skin and dont let their outward appearance affect their happiness.

[charliesmile (deleted)]

these kinds of discussions always tickle me.
a lot of the body parts that some girls take issue with (double chins, arms, bellies, etc) are the very things that fat admirers/chubby chasers are totally into

i understand that everyone has body issues, but if you really wanna find love, you have to make peace with yourself and gain confidence.

more than anything, guys are most attracted to confidence.

[goodnightgirl]

`I don't want to be thin, just thinner. I think I would be much happier and more confident.

[brittanyyyerin (deleted)]

Ummmm, lol all I have to say is my --- is way too big. That's my biggest problem. I'm kind of embaressed by it, but surprisingly there are guys that like it. haha

[gathickchic78]

`Although I am 110% comfortable in the skin i'm in, It never hurts to improve there is always room for improvement. So the body part I Hate are my arms and even since started going to the gym they got worse. So if anyone has pointers I could use em! lol thnx

[southernfinery]

`hi gathickchic78 I read your post and saw your question about tips for the arms.I don't know if this is your problem area but it usually affects most women sooner or later.The backs of the arms are always the most problematic areas and according to most therapists you should try using hand weights with your arm extended at an angle like with your elbow pointing up a little beside you and lock the elbow.Just raise and lower you forearm directly out behind and back to the angle.If you don't see any progress you might need a heavier weight.Good luck and gbu..

[selendraco]

I hate everything about myself.
I am not proud, or like the way I look at all.

[charliesmile (deleted)]

selendraco wrote: I hate everything about myself.
I am not proud, or like the way I look at all.


pity.
guys are generally more attracted to confidence than they are to appearances.

[obsequium (deleted)]

I think body image is much more than whether people find you attractive or not. It reaches a lot further than that. I dislike that some people feel that self esteem and self worth are or should be contingent on the opinions of others in any way. I don't believe in garnering positive self image through positive attention is a viable way to address body issues. I hold the belief that if you have body issues, becoming reliant on another individual to fellate your ego and provide reassurance is unhealthy. Self esteem is something that should be nurtured in its own right, and whilst compliments etc surely feed a damaged ego for a short time, it is no way a permanent fix.

I realise this is a difficult thing for many people to do, but detaching your self image from what others think of you is the only way to build and maintain positivity about yourself. Becoming psychologically independent lessens insecurity, co-dependency, strengthens character and finally - something so many people like to mention as 'attractive' - creates confidence which isn't feigned. Not only that but if you know that the opinions of others holds no weight in defining who you are, then when others attempt to push negativity upon you it's much less likely to be effective.

Confidence is tricky. Many people have stated in this thread "confidence is sexy". I think there's a commonly held belief by many women that you should, for lack of a better phrase, fake it. I think this is inherently wrong, as nobody should ever try to be something they're not, and just because you lack confidence doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you. It's something that comes with time. When you learn to accept who you are, instead of aspiring to be something you aren't. When you like yourself because you genuinely like yourself, not because others find you appealing or the perhaps the inverse.

I'm not quite at a stage of total acceptance of myself, but I'm working on it. I'm cognizant of the things about myself I like, and the things I don't. I realise what I can change and what I can't. I may not be quite there yet, but I can honestly say that I'm exponentially happier than when I dwelled on the praise/criticism of others.