Why are are some BBW lucky in love and the rest aren't?

[brunoghia (deleted)]

wakened wrote: `I really like what both brunoghia and cookinbubbles had to say.
I've been constantly getting down about myself because i haven't found that person, and instead of just enjoying life for what it is I'm letting the fact that I don't have anyone to share it with ruin it.

If it's meant to happen, it will happen, right?



Back in the day they used to say, "If you're not with the one you love, love the one you're with."

[xbubblyx]

cookinbubbles wrote: `Dear irishangel, I don't think it has anythign to do with being BBW. The fact is women out number men and so that gives men the advantage of being able to be pickeir that they need to be. Also, look around. There are plenty of thin women who aren't hooked up with a man either.
While men in general are scarce, the forever kind are even scarcer. Society has made a long term relationship a disposable commodity so many men and women go from relationship to relationship, and the bad people leave a trail of broken hearts behind, which makes it that much worse for the next person.


This right here ^^^^.

While women outnumber men, finding a REAL man is scarce, and doesn't have a whole lot to do with size.

But for me, it's not 100% that I can't find a guy not looking for some booty or something serious, but getting serious freaks me out at the same time. Forever is a long time. And I believe in the promise of marriage. When I marry, I fully intend on keeping my word with God and I want a man who believes the same, not someone who would walk out on me because we argued over the temprature of the house. I'm still young though. Not even nineteen a half and not ready for marriage, I just look at the big picture. But the deal is, guys my age are annoying, but older guys are more experienced and smart. but more likely to want to start life when mine's just beginning. So that's where I'm caught. I can't find a happy medium.

[dennene]

brunoghia wrote: Have fun, stop looking, and what and who you need will find you. It's not about your size, it's about what you do with it.



i agree. its sounds so cliche but love comes when your looking for it the least. and as for dating sites, we all know what we are potentially getting into when we join them.

but what i've found is that it is women with more than average self esteem issues that end up s--- outta luck. the majority of them end up meeting desperate losers with equally low self esteem.

i used to have terrible self esteem and all i got were guys who were ready to treat me like s---. i took some time to just chill from relationships and breath and i met someone i really cared for. it didnt work out but it doesnt mean that it was because of my size or this time, my self esteem. it just didnt work out.

just something to think on love

[nicki (deleted)]

`Its just not BBW's that have the problem of finding someone, "normal" people have the trouble too, its just harder to find someone because not everyone appreciates the value of the person inside the big body they do not want...some BBW's are lucky enough to find love, never give up hope that you will find the person for you...ya gotta kiss a few frogs before ya find a prince...love is sometimes an unlucky for the big little old and young...and sometimes where you live is the problem because there are not many people around

[lookinforlove93 (deleted)]

brunoghia wrote: Have fun, stop looking, and what and who you need will find you. It's not about your size, it's about what you do with it.



My problem is no matter how hard I try (which is kinda condescending of what we're talking about) I just can't stop looking or stop thinking. I don't know how to. I thought I had found "the one" and it ended in heartbreak. Now, all I can do is think about what I had and that I don't have it anymore. As in, I finally knew what it felt like to have someone there, and now all I am is lonely.
I don't know if I just don't have the genetic makeup to turn off my brain or what..but it's getting increasingly hard for me to sit back and stop trying!
Especially when I see everyone else finding love, to get back to the original topic. But, i've also experienced that when you're single, all you see are happy couples. When you're in a relationship, all you see are happy singles.

[luxxy (deleted)]

`if there is some secret to find Mr. Right, I would like to know it...cuz honestly I stopped looking and caring if I find him or not a while ago...I havent had the chance to really fall in love with someone...I would like the experience..eventhough there is a good chance I end up heartbroken

[bellafem (deleted)]

`I feel like at the very least a lot of bbw will have better luck online. Not that I have any experience either way, but there is a lot more people to connect with than in many people's daily lives.
But yes, I do understand how ur feeling and it sucks. :/
If you are thinking of giving up my suggestion would be to try to not to cause u may regret it later but then again I dont know what you've gone through.
Best of luck for all of us I suppose

[joanamrf]

I'm not saying I have the greatest of luck but I dont have major bad luck. (yet!) And it has nothing to do with being a big girl, in my honest opinion it has to do with personality and with being confident (not over confident either) and what you put out there. When meeting someone I can tell when they're insecure and uncomfortable, and that in itself makes me feel a lil uncomfortable too, making for an uneasy, uncomfortable situation. Also along the lines of appearance, I'm not saying you gotta be all dolled up but wear/put something on that makes you feel comfortable, nice, and sexy...if you feel good about yourself, others will notice.

jo

[doublecyclone]

irishangel30 wrote: Why is it so easy for some BBWs to magically find their soulmate while the rest of the BBWs spend half their lives searching for theirs?
IrishAngel30

Now, wonder about the other side of the coin. I've know men that admired the BBW and spent YEARS pursuing them, doomed to failure after failure. Its personality. If you find a guy that admires your body for what ever reason, but not the rest of you, he won't stay. Furthermore, how many guys have you rejected? I'll tell you now, there are as many admirers as there are BBWs. That doesn't mean they'll get along, or love at first sight. Have you ever been approached? Have you ever approached a guy? Most BBW admirers are geeks and nerds. As such, they are HORRIBLY shy. Just as much as you are.

tl;dr, Did you miss the forest for the trees?

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[phatgirl36 (deleted)]

`Well this site is my last hope on finding my mr. right if this doesn't wrk i've already got my cats picked out....lol

[thatgurl4you24]

i understand what you are saying iam about to be 27 and iam single and have been looking and nothing i guess its because of my looks .......theres so many big gurls out here that are happy and have a wonderful man where does it leave the rest of us are we ever going to get that happy and have someone to love us and live happy ever after ?????/

the lost gurl peaches

[1957wkw]

`Well I'm a nice guy that's never been married and I'm not having much luck either. I've been on at least 6 sites for the past two years now (with a lot more users than this one) and can't seem to find anyone even willing to talk to me online within 40 miles. I was surprised at that comment above about more women than men? Always thought it was the other way around on these sites. I did get into one nice relationship but it didn't really work so I'm still looking. And yes I'm shy and a little geeky too like doublecyclone said above. Wish someone would approach me. (that was the whole idea behind that cooky shirt of mine in my profile). And the one BBW gf I had last year did contact me first!

[amberalert (deleted)]

`I think that love just doesn't have a timeline. From my experience you'll never be successful if you go searching for love, it has to find you. It'll happen when you least expect it to. Love is supposed to be a natural thing, not something that is forced.

All of my friends are married and/or have kids, and I am the only person I know that is single at 24 (almost 25) in my life, and I'm fine with that because I know when the time is right, someone great is going to come into my life. That doesn't mean I'm not gonna get out there and meet new people and wait for things to happen, but trying to make love happen just doesn't work.

My suggestion would be to just get out and try new things that interest you and meet new people. Be yourself, and don't rush anything. I'm the most comfortable being friends with someone first before getting into an exclusive relationship with them. There's no reason to rush anything based off of your age. Just enjoy life and the adventure it contains. =)

[ggr1972 (deleted)]

"losers?"

wow.....gotta wonder what the response would be if a guy said that he was trying to find a good gal hidden in all of the losers?

[wlasi47]

You know I met my Mr. Right 30 years ago. we have been married for 28 years now. I am not sure if was destiny or fate or whatever you want to call it that we should meet.
My suggestion is to just be you, be proud of you, do what makes you happy and content. Go to clubs you like, chess, reading, libraries, things that appeal to you. Do what you like and there will be a man in there somewhere who will find you.