Is there any real women out there that are not judgemental

[johnwilliams3rd_PREV (deleted)]

hiwayman wrote: `Perfectly capable of taking care of yourselves huh?? Then why do the court systems in every state give all the goodies to you gals and not the men. Your right your just as capable. Until you are standing in front of the judge. Then you act like helpless little girls. Both my ex's made the same claims as you and as soon as the I DO"S were said out came the rolles and robes. So don't try and BS me dear I'm wayyyyyy ahead of ya. LOL



My friend, never as such a small amount of words said so much! Well done!

[johnwilliams3rd_PREV (deleted)]

hiwayman wrote: `Well Warren as you can see by Shndrelee's respionce there are plenty of shallow women on this site. The nature of your disability is no ones buisness but your own. Remember women see men as meal tickets and providers. Even thou they are just as capable of providing for themselves. I wouldn't loose any sleep over them Remember women are just that.......women. LOL
Oh yea Shandreleee howbout checkin my spellin for me. Maybe that will give you something else to do besides slamming the disabled.

A man after my own heart. Now all has been said!

[chellenky (deleted)]

hiwayman wrote: `Perfectly capable of taking care of yourselves huh?? Then why do the court systems in every state give all the goodies to you gals and not the men. Your right your just as capable. Until you are standing in front of the judge. Then you act like helpless little girls. Both my ex's made the same claims as you and as soon as the I DO"S were said out came the rolles and robes. So don't try and BS me dear I'm wayyyyyy ahead of ya. LOL



I have never acted like a helpless little girl and I know a lot of ladires that have not. There are hundreds of thousands of us ladies who have raised children by ourselves without the support of a man. I even told my childrens father that if he made an effort to stay in my childrens lives that I would accept even $5 a month for child support. Anything to make sure that my children respected him and knew that he cared enough about their welfare to help out with the expeneses that went along with the kids. But of course that never happened. He skipped town and never even contacted them. I went before a judge and it never got me anywhere. After over 20 years, I have given up ever getting him to become part of their lives or of getting any back child support. In fact, I dont want it!! I have two well adjusted great kids and I wouldn't trade that for the world. They are better off not knowing a low life like him.
This goes both ways here. There are some bad men out there just like there are bad women out there. My brother has custody of his kids so I know that all the "goodies" don't always go to the gals! I think that you have rather jaded view of the real world. You just need to find you a strong independent woman who does not take any crap! Those are the ones that will stand on their own two feet with or without a man!

[1ofatype (deleted)]

This is an interesting subject, but the question posed in this forum misleaded me a little bit. I feel that you should not be judged for a disability, but at the same time people can be judged on other things as well. It is sad to say it is in human nature for the vast majority people I know in life to judge. I too have been guilty of prejudging people at times(which I guess men are guilty of judging as well), so I try to give everyone a fair shake if I can and always try look past any fault someone may have and get to know who they are. But in womens defense to your question, men can be just as bad at judging on things like being disabled. I feel the question you posed was the wrong one for this subject. Something like this subject should of been called "Why do people judge on someone's disabilities?"

[lo2009 (deleted)]

`All women are gold diggers and looking for a meal ticket? Please....I guess if this is a man's attitude he can't in all good conscious check the open-minded box although I can think of another less flattering one of which I will not mention at the risk of sounding just like those here that make me shake my head and wonder.

[blondnblue00]

`LOL interesting replies to this subject matter.

Its not the fact that one is judging....
We like who we like its as simple as that.Could be tall short big small funny quiet..well you get the idea.We all make our own choices,you cannot make someone like you.By getting annoying because you may like them and they dont like you..Well think about it .....

[easilyamusedor (deleted)]

I spent three horrible years with someone on SSI/disability, he had had a head injury, he abused my son and me and it took me years to get away.

[southernfinery]

`imo poster I believe you may have inadvertently told a certain woman on here that you were interested in about ur condition maybe hoping for sympathy points perhaps but instead you got rejected.Rejection is a painful emotion as it makes us look at every part of our existence.It makes us judge ourselves harshly and usually without merit.I strongly believe that there is someone for everyone and I believe that that someone has already been chosen for you ahead of time itself.We can and do waste valuable time and energy as well as emotion on sidetrips and some even get completely consummed by the sidetrip and give up on true happiness.Is this to be ur story as well?When you meet someone online be standoffish at first and don't give details of ur life.If they are asking for a loan then you may wish to tell them you simply don't have it at this time.I don't think ur income should be discussed at all especially if you are just making contact.Now if you were to continue chatting with a certain someone and you start to feel a little get up in ur step at the mention of their name then perhaps a little lite conversation about hopes and dreams or maybe future plans for your life might be in order.Be who you are and make no apologies for it except to the one who can change it and you.If that woman has kids then just don't become involved with them unless you and her agree that it is time and be sure to discuss ur hopes for your future before that meeting.If the other person listens well then after all this other chatting they will have a firm concept of where you are mentally.Yes there are real ppl out here that don't judge because they know what a devastating effect it can have.

[ving6ftsfbay]

I'm going to talk about a side point of this topic which some have brought up about weather people with mental illnesses can work. I'm speaking of those who have been unable to find medications to significantly reduce their symptoms.
It's a shame that there are so many ignorant people who have probably never opened a psychology book or taken a course who believe that mentally disabled people can work. Those who do not have medications that can significantly reduce the illness can not work in some instances. I have a friend who is a paranoid schizophrenic. He lost his house due to his illogical beliefs about things that happen. He could never keep a job as he would be constantly accusing someone of being out to get him. No company would put up with that. People are expected to respect each other. This is not his fault as it is his mental disease. Fortunately, he trusts some people. So, he can have relationships with people that he trusts, but there would never be a situation where he could work where there would not be at least one person that he thought was out to get him. Companies are only required to make "reasonable" accommodations for disabled people. In his case, there is no way to accommodate him. In fact, before the passing of the bogus disability protection law, disabled people lost 95% of the time. After the law, they lost 98% of the time. These laws benefit the companies (the ones who can afford legions of lobbyists) to make laws "sound" good, but be ineffective. I'm not saying that everyone is actually disabled who are on disability just as not all the people that have "jobs" are actually working vs goofing off, playing video games, looking at youtube. Chronically depressed people who cannot be helped by medications cannot work either. Most of the time, they cannot get out of bed let alone work either at home or at a work site. They spend much of their time trying to convince themselves not to commit suicide. The schizophrenic that I know has a girlfriend as she is one of the people that he trusts. Fortunately, he does trust some people. I understand why someone would not want to have to deal with someone with such a disability. I do not fault people for their personal choice. I do fault people who make fun of the disabled. As time goes on, new medications are created which will hopefully help these people.