Would being slender make you a good looking person?

[vikiz123 (deleted)]

Losing weight doesn't make you more attractive, nesseacarily... But it can make you feel more attractive, which is the most important part of doing anything you do. Some people want to GAIN weight because it will make them feel more attractive and it's an individuals own peroagtive. I hated myself for so long because of my weight but now I know that i am okay with my looks and I take myself for who I am, mo matter how much I weigh. I could wake up tomorrow a hundred pounds lighter and I don't think I'd nessiscarily jump up and down in happiness because I no longer even define myself by my weight. I love my face and so many things about myself but my body is my body and I take care of it, eat right for the most part, and dont put focus on inches or pounds because I don't want to drive myself mad anymore. I'm happy and no amount of weight gain or loss would change that. :)

[escaa (deleted)]

Amen to everything you just wrote vikiz. I've struggled with my weight my entire life. I've gone through so many periods of depression because of my weight. In school, in public, and with my family I would constantly be ridiculed about my weight because I was so much larger than everyone. I had that mindset that to be happy I had to be skinny. And it only made it worse when people would say "oh you have a pretty face, but..." insinuating that because I was bigger I could never really be considered beautiful. I've tried so many diets and pills to lose weight, but of course nothing would work for me. I was constantly beating myself over the fact I couldn't lose the weight. But then a light bulb went off and I realized what the real problem was. I was so worried about societies opinion on me that I never stopped to think of how I thought of myself. I'm glad to say though that I'm finally at peace with my body. I love and embrace every aspect of my being because I am beautiful and I deserve it. Everyone deserves to feel beautiful and comfortable in their own skin not matter what size they are. As for dieting and exercising, I do it for myself and not for anyone else. Although I accept myself and my size, I want to keep my body healthy and fit. If I do lose weight in the process, then so be it, but no matter what, nothing and no one can ever change who I am and how I feel about myself.

[psycheward (deleted)]

`^^ OMG girl, you are so beautiful. If you want to lose weight, or work out, fine. But you are so gorgeous, don't ever think you have to lose weight to be beautiful. You already are.

[thisisme2at (deleted)]

`I know this much, going from 360lbs to 235lbs by eating better, exercise and resistance training made a world of difference for me. I'm religious about my workout routine and eating habits, not for everyone else, but myself and myself alone. Too many people feel they have to change to attract someone, to a good degree this is true, but a life long change should be for you and you only. What happen if you get the man or woman of your dreams from losing weight and getting in better shape? Then what? Are you going to let yourself go? I see a lot people do that. What happens when the person you changed for is gone? Usually the change is gone too. I disagree about confidence being everything. To some people it might be, but not to me. I once had a man say to me confidence is everything and I asked him "who are you speaking for when you say that?" and he said, "everyone". Right then and there I punch that SOB in the mouth and he said" why the f##k did you do that" and I said, "because I don't feel it's everything to me and you tried saying it is everything to everyone". I reason I feel that way is because if you're like me and have a naturally small frame, narrow shoulders, a wide face and problem areas with fat accumulating them you will tend to be viewed the same way Jabba the Hut from Star Wars was with exception that you don't have the money or fame that Mr. Jabba did. To end it off, is confidence everything? I guess that depends on who you are. Is it everything to everyone? Hell no, I'm living proof of that. My whole point is no level of confidence will do you any good if you have absolutely nothing on the outside to offer to the person your interested in, the only thing it will do for you at that point is give you the ability to move on and not care.

[rosethorn87 (deleted)]

I'd say it depends on the person for example I'm skinny as a rake and don't feel attarctive to women at all yet both my exs were big women and they loved how slim I was, yet they both insisted they needed to lose weight no matter how much I said I was happy with how they were, over all super skinny girls dont turn me on I prefer curves on a woman.