why?

[biginvt_PREV (deleted)]

Why is it that iam alone... finding someone in vermont is a hard thing to do.... why is it that i havent been on a date in 2yrs or have had anything else in that 2 yrs? it seems to me vermont men dont like bbws.Help need a date lol

[nightwhispers28]

Join the club. At least it's two years for you and not ten years or more like me. I'm only 33 and not getting any younger Good luck finding the right guy there.. and when you do, send his twin down south here will ya?

[mrkrinkle420 (deleted)]

Sorry to here about the lack of men for you two. I'm a bbw lover from Wisconsin and would luv to meet some goregous women like you.

[curvyvirgo (deleted)]

Trust me, this is an issue everywhere. I live in a beach town where it seems that if you don't have the itsy bitsy teeny weeny bikini body, then you are out of luck. That is why I joined the site. I decided that I don't need to change me, just the place that I am looking!

[generalc540_PREV (deleted)]

Ladies don't feel too bad as a BHM it is like trying to walk through a mine field trying to find a date, and to make my maters worse I live in a rural part of Texas so that even limits my options even further.

[rolypolybhm4u_PREV (deleted)]

well, They sure don' know what they missing then booth tou ladies are realllllll lookers

[rolypolybhm4u_PREV (deleted)]

lie wise here too general. I also live in rural texas so I understand

[1whitekitten (deleted)]

Hi everyone....I sympathise with you.....and if its any help....I shut men out of my life for many years.....from choice....as a Doctor ...Pianist/Organist for an International Company ..I was so sick of the 'men' who wanted only to hang on to my public image..(.not bragging just telling you the way it was...)....NONE of these 'men' wanted to get to know me.......So I decided I would look for someone special...No luck ...untill I realised that maybe that was the problem.....
Men really do not want or are attracted to "Women on the prowl".....
so I relaxed.....and stopped looking....they found me....??? but were not what I was looking for..I am too well known in Aus...so I shall now re-locate...to the USA....and hope that there I can just be 'me'
so my suggestion is to both Men and Women....STOP LOOKING...
go out with girlfriends ...mates...relax and just be yourself and I am sure you will find what your looking for.....in the meantime Take Care be happy.....and Good luck....

[eyesofblue459 (deleted)]

I feel for you. I have been thinking the same thing about me. I love where I live, it is a small town in Oregon and I have a great job. But I have been wondering if I am ever going to meet someone locally. I don't know of any BBW admirers even in the same county as me.

I have had some offers for casual sex, but that is not my thing, I want to actually be in a relationsip with someone. Imagine that!

[roughsexmakeit_PREV (deleted)]

Stop feeling bad for yourself!! You need to find confidence in your curves and everything!! When men see your confidence, they'll want you more because you're a positive person to be around.

Also, I find the more you ignore a man, the more they want you lol It's the game of Seduction. It's tough.

[heartofgold (deleted)]

I find the more you ignore a man, the more they want you

While I cannot speak for all men, as for me I do not like being ignored one bit. That is one sure fire way to get me to not want you.

You may be onto someting regarding the allure of confidence, but as for me I tend to be accepting of people just the way they are.

I think it is more just a matter of finding the right guy at the right time, and at the right location. This may require that you be very pro-active. I tried looking at some of the profiles from within this thread, but too bad none from Minnesota. Otherwise I would have sent one of you an e-mail by now.

Good luck to all of you in your search!

[hiwayman (deleted)]

The older a man gets the more causious he gets. When he is young he has a lot of romantic fantacies. But after the kids,divorce,and ruined in court he starts looking at women in a whole different lite. She no longer is the best thing that ever happened to him. She can mean the end of him emotionally and financially. So he is VERY carefull about who he will "date". Her attitude will be looked at more closely. As well as her reputaion from previous relationships. Male bashing is common place now a days. Men are sick of it. They are also sick of constantly hearing how tough these single mothers have it. Men have it just as tough. I gave up dating years ago.Instead of complaining about the lack of men in your life. Maybe you should atart looking as to why?? I know a lot of men my age that have givin up on dating. The consequences for chosing wrong can take years to overcome if kids are involved.

[nightwhispers28]

Ah but Highwayman, the same can be said for women too. Women become tired of the man that doesn't seem fulfilled with life with her, or doesn't appreciate the little known things she does to help improve his or his kids lives. Women in this day and age want the love and committment of a man that understands what it's like to raise the kids while they are working(if they are stay at home moms mind you). And if they aren't, they want to have a guy just tell em to sit on their tush after work and shuttling kids to extra curricular activities or spending evenings with babies and spit up on their shirts and simply say, you relax and I'll handle this. Yeah, some say I'm living in rose colored glasses, some say I'm an idealist but no.. I'm just a woman that wants the same things everyone else does too. I want to live in a world of love and of reality peacefully intermixing with each other. Is it really possible though or am I simply dreaming of a long held ideal by most women and maybe even some men? That's the question I'm still asking.

I think all in all though all of us, men and women want the same things, it's just a matter of perception and the ways to achieve it for each of us in our own way. I would crave to have a family of my own, to be able to get into bed with the man who is my husband, or someone who I know I can tell anything to and still will love me back and won't turn his back on me when times get tough. That's I think what women want.

To me it gets really easy to walk away from a marriage, a relationship, even a friendship when things annoy you or when you find you cant communicate anymore. Sometimes, it's meant to be, yes but other times I think people do things so casually they think it's not worth the effort or the time to invest to see if they can make it work.

That.. is why I've held out most of the times. I seem to attract the married men for some unknown reason. I don't get out to meet too many people and am fairly shy when out and about but in some way I seem to be an open book to most people which I'm glad for. They seem to trust me enough to tell me almost anything even though some things just shouldn't be said LOL

I don't know.. I just want to have someone to share things with, to enjoy the nights with and to simply coexist in an otherwise lonely world with.

Are there any left that just wants the same things too?

[luvmbignbrainy]

It's not just large people who are lonely. Go to one of those conventional dating sites and you will see lots of desperate people of all sizes. I get winks and whispers from lots of thin women --they seem not to believe me when I tell them I have no interest in a skinny woman.

I can also relate to highwayman's comments. My ex-wife is mentally ill and made my life and my son's life hell for many years as well as ruining us financially. I am very skittish of getting involved with anyone and I have a long list of red flags that scare me off. Sad and probably unfair but that's the way it is.

[silkee (deleted)]

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Here is a poem I wrote,wanted to share it!~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~




"Heat Of Passion"

Do you love me?
Show me
Do you ache to touch me?
Ask and you shall receive

Does your heart race
when you think of me?
Come to me
and let me calm it.

Do your hands tremble
when your body craves me?
Let them wander
slowly across my skin,

Do I give you a fever that
you find hard to control?
Let me satisfy you
and release the fire deep within.

I'm in your mind,
body and soul
You can have me
hold me tight and don't let go!