Why Men Choose BBW's

[shilokw_PREV (deleted)]

meshepeshe wrote: shilokw wrote: meshepeshe wrote: shilokw wrote: meshepeshe wrote: For me it's a very old ------- memory of perhaps of a time when
the Earth Mother Godess was a main deity.

'Venus of Willendorf'


Perhaps in all men's minds this memory still yet exists.

Modern society has thrown everything out of whack.

Honestly speaking - I find larger women more pleasing as do many men
even if they are not out in the open about it.


Aosda


Why do you think it is, that many men out there aren't open about it? If they aren't open about it, then they aren't 'true admirers/lovers' of the large woman. In my opinion, that type of man can stay in their closets. How can a large woman be comfortable about her size with a man that isn't comfortable about her size?
I'm glad there are men like you out there. You are a true admirer of the larger woman and can appreciate the fuller form the way it should be appreciated.



I suspect you're right on that call,It's always a good feeling for one
to know what She/He wants out of life's loves,likes,and blissful ----s.
Guess there is all sorts of closet types afraid of being trounched by the
peer pressure of sheeplike judgemental people.

No matter if you're big or small,short or tall,weird or plain,

its the soul that counts,along with half closed smiling eyes,and
laughter that remains in our memories and hearts.





That's a shame that grown adults are still childish enough to hold back, or otherwise, because of peer pressure. I know about 'staying young at heart', but that's going a bit too far with it. LOL.



abit too far eh ?

never been one to stay abit too near


These days when it seems everything is questionable, misunderstanding
can surely spark one's mind to pondering.

I could not possibily narrow my likes and dislikes down to only a
Physical/Visual plain when it comes to my relations with a woman,
or anyone as a matter of fact.

The non physical aspect of people together is like a tinging of souls,
when it happens,it's nature at it's best.

Ahhh, the physical/visual side of it all ~ There are men in sooth that
perfer a more waif-like woman,or perhaps the 'enhanced'
Pamela Anderson type,while there be others pleased as punch at a
thirsty moment to be in the close company of a large-framed,full-figured,

Woman

with thick shapely well turned legs,eyes that could illuminate the twilight,
and breas.........**** +

Damn, I either got off topic,or too far into it.

Perhaps it's best to strive towards happiness.





Whatever your likes, dislikes. Where ever your heart takes you. What ever pleases you for the moment or duration. Here's to happiness! :-)

[meshepeshe]

shilokw wrote: meshepeshe wrote: shilokw wrote: meshepeshe wrote: shilokw wrote: meshepeshe wrote: For me it's a very old ------- memory of perhaps of a time when
the Earth Mother Godess was a main deity.

'Venus of Willendorf'


Perhaps in all men's minds this memory still yet exists.

Modern society has thrown everything out of whack.

Honestly speaking - I find larger women more pleasing as do many men
even if they are not out in the open about it.


Aosda


Why do you think it is, that many men out there aren't open about it? If they aren't open about it, then they aren't 'true admirers/lovers' of the large woman. In my opinion, that type of man can stay in their closets. How can a large woman be comfortable about her size with a man that isn't comfortable about her size?
I'm glad there are men like you out there. You are a true admirer of the larger woman and can appreciate the fuller form the way it should be appreciated.



I suspect you're right on that call,It's always a good feeling for one
to know what She/He wants out of life's loves,likes,and blissful ----s.
Guess there is all sorts of closet types afraid of being trounched by the
peer pressure of sheeplike judgemental people.

No matter if you're big or small,short or tall,weird or plain,

its the soul that counts,along with half closed smiling eyes,and
laughter that remains in our memories and hearts.





That's a shame that grown adults are still childish enough to hold back, or otherwise, because of peer pressure. I know about 'staying young at heart', but that's going a bit too far with it. LOL.



abit too far eh ?

never been one to stay abit too near


These days when it seems everything is questionable, misunderstanding
can surely spark one's mind to pondering.

I could not possibily narrow my likes and dislikes down to only a
Physical/Visual plain when it comes to my relations with a woman,
or anyone as a matter of fact.

The non physical aspect of people together is like a tinging of souls,
when it happens,it's nature at it's best.

Ahhh, the physical/visual side of it all ~ There are men in sooth that
perfer a more waif-like woman,or perhaps the 'enhanced'
Pamela Anderson type,while there be others pleased as punch at a
thirsty moment to be in the close company of a large-framed,full-figured,

Woman

with thick shapely well turned legs,eyes that could illuminate the twilight,
and breas.........**** +

Damn, I either got off topic,or too far into it.

Perhaps it's best to strive towards happiness.





Whatever your likes, dislikes. Where ever your heart takes you. What ever pleases you for the moment or duration. Here's to happiness!



We can always hope it is longer than a moment Alot of smaller
moments within a larger moment ain't bad either.

[shilokw_PREV (deleted)]

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Whatever your likes, dislikes. Where ever your heart takes you. What ever pleases you for the moment or duration. Here's to happiness!

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We can always hope it is longer than a moment Alot of smaller
moments within a larger moment ain't bad either.

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LOL. As said before, you do have a way with words and I dig your way of thinking!

[catalanguy_PREV (deleted)]

I've always loved BBW. I find them very attractive,giving,nice, and loving. Wish I could meet one near San Francisco. Dave from SF. can be reached at (removed)

[partner4bbw25]

well what i feel is though nature dosent have to do anything with it .. but BBWs are NATURE's best creations .. i just love them .. adore them .. listen to them .. keep watching them .. whenever i can .. and however ic an .. LOL ..

once again LOVE U ALL BBWs .. Rock the World .. as u always doooo ..

Love N Luck,
Raj,
INDIA.

[pokerguyakqjt]

Hi all, first post here, and this topic caught my interest.

I can't speak for anyone else, as I'm sure there are some men who prefer BBW over other women, just as there are some people who prefer one race over another, or income, or age, or lifestyle, etc. Personally, I just adore women. ALL women, and BBW fall into that category just as much as any other "classification" of any other group of females would. I love BBW because, well, they're women, and I love women. Period.

[semisweet123]

I thinks it's pretty similar to what women look for in a man.

Some women I know love bald men(Sean Connery) and a lot of women love men with a little weight on them as well. To me, it all depends on his sense of humor. You have to be with someone who can make you laugh, laugh at themselves and just laugh at life in general.

A lot of people are downright cruel to overweight people. Look at poor Kelly Clarkson. She wasn't even that large and she was put through a meat grinder.

Myself, I am trying to lose weight for my health. I have lost 50 pounds so far by just cutting back and going to the gym. I will always be full figured. Even when I was thin I was that way. I feel if someone isn't attracted to you for who you are and what you look like, then he can find someone else. Be happy in your own skin and it will radiate out.

[shanac]

I think people are people, whether they are big or small. The reason larger women and men may, overall, be more compassionate is because of the hardships they have had to experience as a result of their weight. I was thin once, for a few years, and my goodness...people were noticeably nicer to me and took me more seriously. Understanding the hurt of being judged harshly for how I look has made me more aware and sensitive to other people's feelings.

[onemadclown (deleted)]

I'd have to assume that there are as many reasons as there are men to have them...I've met some guys with some disturbed preconceived notions about BBW's, and tried to take advantage of what they perceived to be weakness of self-esteem. Similarly, I've known fellas who are 100% authentic, fetishistic lovers of the large. On the whole, I guess I'm uneasy with both of those propositions...the first is obviously bad, the purview of manipulative s---heels (usually with a self-esteem deficit of their own). On the flip, I worry that by fetishizing someone's size, you are objectifying that single aspect of a person, and possibly failing to fully recognize their other qualities.
Personally, I wouldn't say that I am exclusively attracted to any particular "type" of woman, at least not physically. I've found myself attracted to women of all shapes, sizes, races, etc. I'm more turned on by the mental qualities of a person...every woman I've ever had a thing for has been smart, funny, real, compassionate and sweet (if deliciously sarcastic), but beyond that, completely unique.
All of that said, I think its perfectly healthy to appreciate (just not obsess over) the qualities that big people tend to share. Hugs and cuddling from we of the larger persuasion are infinitely better, for we are a snugglicious people. Nothing feels more delightful to the touch than a woman with curves. Sexy. And to top it off, due to dealing with the various slings and arrows of an often critical society, BBW's and BHM's are often more open-minded, compassionate, and understanding people. Did I mention our snuggliciousness?
So all in all, I think we should all just love people, and not get too ---- up on one trait.

Unless of course you happen to have a fet--- for pseudo-intellectual, smartass fat guys, in which case you should feel free to objectify me at your earliest convenience.

"What gets us into trouble isn't what we know, it's what we *think* we know that just ain't so." ~Mark Twain

[creolecutie2u_PREV (deleted)]

I won't say that BBW have more self-esteem and capacity for compassion then their thinner counterparts, that's too much of a generalization. Those are personality traits and have little to do with the physical attraction certain men feel toward women of larger proportions, and I think everyone has a hangup concerning body image at some point in their lives, so it's a bit unfair to belittle slimmer women in order to make us appear more self confident.

In any case I think the reason some men are into full-figured women is because thy simply are. it's how they are wired, they can't help who they're attracted to. Sort of how some men like Latina women, others prefer blonds, and some like D-cups.

I think men on a more realistic level find themselves attracted to curvier women, but as society has taught a disdain for fuller shapes, and glorified the waif, men have learned to accept thin as beautiful. Unfortunately an overwhelming amount of men deny their natural inclinations in order to be with what society has dictated as being attractive.

As long as a man isn't a Chubby Chaser I'm alright with him, same as I won't ever stay in a relationship with a man who only likes me for my cup-size. I think thin women have it just as bad when it comes to men who go after them solely on the basis of their appearance; height, shape, and so on. CC's have a bad name because the norm isn't to favor only BBW's.

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semisweet123 wrote: I thinks it's pretty similar to what women look for in a man.

Some women I know love bald men(Sean Connery) and a lot of women love men with a little weight on them as well. To me, it all depends on his sense of humor. You have to be with someone who can make you laugh, laugh at themselves and just laugh at life in general.

A lot of people are downright cruel to overweight people. Look at poor Kelly Clarkson. She wasn't even that large and she was put through a meat grinder.

Myself, I am trying to lose weight for my health. I have lost 50 pounds so far by just cutting back and going to the gym. I will always be full figured. Even when I was thin I was that way. I feel if someone isn't attracted to you for who you are and what you look like, then he can find someone else. Be happy in your own skin and it will radiate out.



I to am trying to loose wieght for my health. 60 lbs so far. My last boyfriend liked me the way I was and made me feel beautiful but I worried that he wouldn't want me if I lost weight. I'll always be a big girl (5'10") so I'll always be bigger than many women I know.

GUYS: What if your BBW honey lost a bunch of wieght would you loose interest??

[ni3mand]

onemadclown wrote: I'd have to assume that there are as many reasons as there are men to have them...I've met some guys with some disturbed preconceived notions about BBW's, and tried to take advantage of what they perceived to be weakness of self-esteem. Similarly, I've known fellas who are 100% authentic, fetishistic lovers of the large. On the whole, I guess I'm uneasy with both of those propositions...the first is obviously bad, the purview of manipulative s---heels (usually with a self-esteem deficit of their own). On the flip, I worry that by fetishizing someone's size, you are objectifying that single aspect of a person, and possibly failing to fully recognize their other qualities.
Personally, I wouldn't say that I am exclusively attracted to any particular "type" of woman, at least not physically. I've found myself attracted to women of all shapes, sizes, races, etc. I'm more turned on by the mental qualities of a person...every woman I've ever had a thing for has been smart, funny, real, compassionate and sweet (if deliciously sarcastic), but beyond that, completely unique.
All of that said, I think its perfectly healthy to appreciate (just not obsess over) the qualities that big people tend to share. Hugs and cuddling from we of the larger persuasion are infinitely better, for we are a snugglicious people. Nothing feels more delightful to the touch than a woman with curves. Sexy. And to top it off, due to dealing with the various slings and arrows of an often critical society, BBW's and BHM's are often more open-minded, compassionate, and understanding people. Did I mention our snuggliciousness?
So all in all, I think we should all just love people, and not get too ---- up on one trait.

Unless of course you happen to have a fet--- for pseudo-intellectual, smartass fat guys, in which case you should feel free to objectify me at your earliest convenience.

"What gets us into trouble isn't what we know, it's what we *think* we know that just ain't so." ~Mark Twain


I totally agree, getting into any extreme is usually a bad thing to do! I, as a bbw, do find it comforting though to know that there are admirers(^_^). It's a nice change to hear people talk about how beautiful we are: balm for a burned soul .
I also wanted to let you know that I deeply appreciate the hilarious paragraph about objectifying you !

[briansalo (deleted)]

Personally, I think there's nothing wrong with guys who prefer a larger figure... Humanity as a whole has been pushed in a certain direction in the terms of what's attractive by the media and whatnot; and it's never had a good reason to think against it; so those who prefer a larger figure are looked at a little oddly, but it's always been that way with people who are courageous enough to look outside the norm.

But hey? at least we know what we really want and who we are; which seems to be something of an epidemic these days.

[briansalo (deleted)]

yaoigirl wrote:
GUYS: What if your BBW honey lost a bunch of wieght would you loose interest??

It's an issue that varies from person to person; however, in the end you should love them for a little more than their physique Like do you feel attracted to them as a person or their body?

Personally, I'm a person who finds many different sizes attractive... however smaller sizes aren't -as- attractive... but still up there... and I find if a bond between us has been formed, it won't really matter what size she is

[browneyedgirl45_PREV (deleted)]

Brian- for as young as you are you sure are knowledgeable about life and such. You seem very sensitive to a persons needs and actually has given me some hope. I am a former regular size person, now a BBW due to a long illness and horrible divorce. But honestly, I don't like myself the way I am and I really want to get back down to size. However, I've never really been skinny, just proportioned, round, but looked good. My question is, how do you think I should represent myself to these men. Should I be looking for someone who wants a BBW? and what happens when I lose weight?? I am scared he won't love me anymore. Or should I just wait till I loose the weight, then find someone......... yes, I am way older than you, but I have found out that I still don't know men like I thought I did....... help....need advice

signed sincerely....
di