So confused

[fatgiirlzrocqk]

Im kinda madd.. Okay lonqq story short.. I had S-- twice widd my ex best friends ex..&& before yu judqe me she didn't even like him && I did..come to findd out I qrew up wid him..he's a skinny dude he always calls me and wants to do s--- wid me he told me he loved me ..he always checks up on me but he says he dosent want to date me.. He likes biqq women.. Im jus confuse to the point were... if I talk to another man he'll qet mad..but yet he says were jus friends shud I jus iqnore it or leave him or alone or wat shudd I do?

[southernfinery]

`dear princess I can imagine ur confusion over all the mixed signals coming at u from him.If I may ask a question and I promise u I am not being judgemental.Did this young man like to kick it with u more before ya had sex?No I am not going to say what ur grandmother would say but I mean ur a very pretty young girl so why would you go into that deep part of the emotional side of life without fully knowing how this young man saw you?You gave urself to him in a very very emotional way and I don't think he has responded like you hoped he would.I am so very sorry but I must say something else also.Pls pls don't get mad or hurt but I think he is ashamed of being seen in public with you especially by his friends of the male persuasion.Pls be careful around this guy and pls pls use protection everytime.Pls pls don't be his beckon call girl either.

[sheevaa]

`I agree. I know it's hard when lot of guys pass you by because you're a big girl. You can't just give it up because of loneliness, though. You need to keep your self-respect and love for yourself, or you'll never be happy.

I've been down that road, and it sucks. Thinking a man is into you because he'll screw you, but he'll never take you out in public. It's humiliating, and I wouldn't wish that on anyone. There's nothing wrong with a booty call. But make sure you know what you're getting yourself into if you do.

[kajirajasmin]

`I not longer do mixed signals...its a wast of time...........I'm pretty direct and this is something I expect from someone I'm dating or someone I'm friends with...........if I sense any funny business.....I'm out............I find it interesting that most guys that date big girls don't expect them to leave cause they feel our choices in a mate are limited....so they take advantage of this by attempting to keep us in confusion............if he cant get with the program..get rid of him ASAP....the D...ain't worth all the stress..............

[flameofsuzaku]

`Honestly, I think you need to just talk to him. I pretty much went through the same thing not too long ago. I was foolin around and it was what it was, but when i wanted more he backed of and pretty much stop talking to me. I know the nights get lonely and you like him, but if he isn't willing to commit for one reason or another then you need to stop giving him what he wants. If he's a good friend to keep regardless of this whole situation and would still be the same even without the S-- then stay friends. If he's gonna be a douche then drop him, he wasn't a true friend anyway.

Dang... I need to take my own advice.

[anainthestars (deleted)]

`I think you need to clear it up with him. If you're just a friend with benefit, then he needs to not be so jealous and controlling...it sounds like he wants you all for himself but you have no say in anything...or maybe he really likes you but he feels ashamed to be with you? I'm not sure...but if this is hurting you, you need to set guidelines that are also good for you...he can't have it all, you have the right to have it all too...

hope this helps a little

[ssbbwprtypoizen]

`I would leave him alone.there is not a shortage of men.its about confidence .I have never had a problem getting the man I want I'm gorgeous and worth it and I make damn sure the man knows it

[ssbbwprtypoizen]

`I would leave him alone.there is not a shortage of men.its about confidence .I have never had a problem getting the man I want I'm gorgeous and worth it and I make damn sure the man knows it