simonp12
simonp12
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If you go out expecting to find something, you'll be disappointed when you can't find it.
It's the same with love and relationships - if it's meant to be then it will happen.
Just enjoy life and wait for your perfect partner to come along, after all aren't the best things in life worth waiting for?
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abbwfan
abbwfan
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Some BBWs are more successful than others at finding / attracting nice guys. In some cases this boils down to attitude. Are you: happy, confident, fun to be with, forward looking, etc...or are you: angry, depressed, B----y, no fun to be with, and / or constantly dwelling on the past? Do you smile, or pout, more? Do you tell your new BF more about yourself, or more about your old BF? Do you think of yourself as being attractive, or do you tell yourself-and others-how: stupid, ugly, etc, you are? Do you seek reality-a nice guy who may also be overweight, under rich, etc-or do you advertise that you are searching for a rich, slim, handsome, Prince Charming? When a nice guy does approach you, do you open up to him, or do you push him away? When a nice guy comes along, do you give him the attention he deserves, or do you care for, respect, cater to, etc, your houseplants more than you do the nice guy? When you get a nice guy, do you build a real life together with him, or do you try to squeeze him into some fantasy land script of yours...trying to live out a Barbara Cartland novel, or Days Of Our Lives episode? Do you accept that he loves you, because he says he does, and he treats you like he does...or do you try to make him jealous to prove that he loves you...according to The Code Of Cartland? You send out vibes. If they are attractive vibes, you will attract someone nice. If they are not attractive vibes, you will not attract someone nice. Worse yet, you might attract someone not so nice.
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kpoprubrub
kpoprubrub
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I thought I found my perfect match. Nice, loyal, caring guy. Good education and traditionally minded, or so he told me. He was going to school in another city so we lived apart for the first 2 years of our marriage, but nevertheless we talked on the phone everyday and saw eachother often and everything was good.
I move in with him and find out a couple months later he's been having love chats with another woman. I told him to stop and also told that woman to stop messaging him and he promised he wouldn't do that anymore.
My mother was dying in the hospital and we would stay with her all day-- as soon as I leave the room I see he is searching for that woman. She had been ignoring him and he was making secret accounts to contact her. Basically she didn't want anything to do with him after I told her to stay away. Even the day after my mom died I still saw he was sending her unwanted messages. Seems she was more respectful of our marriage than him.
Not to mention the ---- he is looking at. I am not a prude or anything but some of that stuff is just disgusting and ILLEGAL and he watches like 50 videos a day-- fine, but we have a completely sexless marriage. I could accept his low S-- drive, but after that online romance and the perverted ---- obsession and can no longer accept.
He always said he wanted kids-- I said I wanted a child and suddenly he tells me "No you can't have one." I don't know who this guy is. He is not the man I married that's for sure. It's scary to think about what's really going through his mind. After 5 years together I feel like I don't know him at all. I felt like I had a happy and wonderful marriage, but now I feel our relationship is so fake. I thought I had won the jackpot, but I was mistaken. I feel stupid for putting so much faith and trust into someone. From the outside everyone thinks I am so lucky; A big girl who found herself the nicest cute guy, and for a long time I agreed with them. But they don't know what goes on behind closed doors.
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