Breaking that wall...

[scorpionic]

In another, older post on here, someone was asking why thicker chicks tend to act colder when you approach them, and the resounding response seemed to be that these girls are guarded, and have built up walls as a response to a lifetime of teasing, jokes, etc.

My question is, how would one break that wall when trying to approach a larger woman?

I tend to hang around this dive bar a lot, and the friendliness of the atmosphere lets me talk to a large portion of the people that come through. I can flirt with skinny women, older women (I'm a bit of a cougar hunter), and more "average" women without even trying. I don't have to do that creepy walk-up-and-put-my-arm-around-a-stranger (which always seems to make the girl uncomfortable), and I usually don't even offer to buy a girl a drink until we've been talking for a bit. It's just the close proximity of the bar, and maybe meeting over a cigarette.
But when a big girl walks in... when I'm actually actively engaged in trying to get her attention and talk to her, I feel awkward and uncomfortable and I end up completely empty-handed, checking her out from across the room until she leaves.
I just don't know what to say, because I guess I'm afraid of making her feel uncomfortable, or insulted, and falling flat on my face with a chick I'm actually going after. It sucks.

[vikingwolfie (deleted)]

`well i my self having a BBW wife would say just walk up and say hello im in my case Thomas and would like to talk with you if you don't mind and go from there i find that most BBW woman will say hello sure we can talk or they will say sorry im not interested i also find that older woman BBW or not are Leary or younger men for the fact that they mostly seem to want a one night stand or money hope i dont seem like a nut job and hope this post helps

[kn1ght1ngale (deleted)]

`I myself am just anti-social and a bit shy. I have had some say I come off as standoffish. I actually think Im pretty, so self image isnt my major issue. Talking to a complete stranger is. The last guy I dated said I dont demand respect, I act like I expect it, and that scared him. He also said I was one of the calmest, less stressed girls he had ever dated. Thats my gothic nature coming out I guess. Problem is, I never saw myself in that light, until he said something. I thought I was shy and awkward, and here it was I was coming off as cool and aloof! Go figure! He won me by acting different than other guys.. OH he tried the whole compliment thing, heard the lines before, he also tried flowers.. again, cliche'. What got me was when I turned away from him and walked off, and my trench coat lifted due to high winds, and he started picking on me with the darth vader theme song. Not sure why teasing me worked so well, probably because I admire wit and intelligence more than come ons.. but try that maybe? tease her playfully instead of engaging her like a chick. Make her laugh.