How are you going to take rejection?

[metalman69_PREV (deleted)]

Again, as I say, I'm no expert in this subject. But, for the amount of times I've been shot down I should be. In fact, this is not going to be much of a subject today. From my experiences with chatting and dating if someone is not interested in you they will about 90% of the time just blow you off or ignore you completely and never tell you why they are not interested in you. The way I see it, there are many more people out there, so why dwell on one person? I don't get mad or even, I just do the best thing by moving on to someone else and never bothering that person again that I had dated. I would like to hear how some of you people feel about rejection, how you deal with it and if you have a better view point.

Thank you for your time and please respond if you dare lol.

[meeisdee_PREV (deleted)]

but not many people responded. Could be because so many of us do not like to "think of" or be "reminded about" the negative things in our life.

To answer your question - each of us, including yourself, are looking for something different in a person. Each person brings something different to your life and sometimes they mesh - and sometimes they don't. Handling this type of rejection seems hard at the time, but if you could look deep inside your soul, you might find a little piece of you that says, "I'm too good for her"....or "she's not the one for me"....and nature just sort of takes it course.

About 2 or 3 years ago, my husband announced his displeasure with my being a BBW. He married me being a BBW 5 years earlier, so I thought I was 'safe' with him. However, somewhere in midstream, he changed his mind and now dislikes BBW's...or at least my size BBW's. He likes BBWs who are smaller BBW's I guess. Anyway, he tells me that he's not attracted to me and for the next 3 years I am treated almost invisible. He withholds all affection and attention and I begin to blend in with the furniture. All the while he's lost total interest in me and nothing I can do or say will change his mind.

An emotional abuse of sorts takes over while I do everything to win over his affections, he gives out just enough to keep me here...keep me still.

But when someone is constantly telling you, reminding you, trying to convince you that your ugly and unattractive, eventually you start to believe them. This, in and of itself, is one of the worse kinds of rejections. Someone you think is "safe" has a change of heart and then you are blind-sided when you accept the reality that you will never be what that person wants you to be.

It's when you try to to force something to be there that's not there is when you get into trouble. Here I am 10 years later, with 10 years of my life wasted on someone who is incapable of loving me like I need to be loved. If I would have listened to that inner voice, I wouldn't be here right now.

The secret to rejection while "searching" for someone is to listen to that still quiet voice. Listen.....you will know why that person is rejecting you. Perhaps it has nothing to do with you at all - but themselves.

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