Photos, Guys? Seriously.

[ggr1972 (deleted)]

well....if you're like me, you know that the ones that only care about looks will dismiss me as soon as they see me.

And the ones that are looking for personality might try me anyway...

as for the op's pov.....i'm guessing she feels that women who don't post pics are doing the same thing.....or is it just us guys?

[randshadow]

Hi all.

[bstressfree (deleted)]

My personal view on the subject.
My avatar could almost be a picture of me. I know that to the right eyes I'm a very attractive man. Conceited? Not in the least. Due to self esteem issues I never accepted compliments about my looks and actually felt that anyone telling me that I was attractive was being dishonest, just telling me what they thought I wanted to, or needed to, hear. I was probably 45 years old before I could see it myself. I'm not interested in contact with people who are attracted to an image of me first. What I hope to share with a very special friend or two comes from very deep within and requires conversation and shared honesty with ultimate goal of a very special friendship. I would prefer to begin with ideological attraction unencumbered by physical attraction.
If you know your own inner beauty and actually stumbled upon the special being who shared your own psyche....your spiritual doppelganger, how could you possibly find the physical image to be anything but the most beautiful person you've ever seen?
I have no problem with eventually sharing images privately. I do feel that posting pics online is actually a somewhat careless thing to do. You could possibly be providing an adept thief with an image to go along with all the info they might already have on you.
There are myriads of legitimate reasons to refrain from posting pics. Limiting yourself to only those who do, could very well be your loss and someone Else's gain. Then again if the physical image is that important to you, then someone who feels differently would probably not be a good match.
I'm much more dismayed by those who don't put the effort into completing their profile, really putting who they are 'out there'.

[southernfinery]

`^^^^^^^ ever heard of lifelock?If you have ever seen celebrity apprentice then you saw Joan Rivers and that crew doing a commercial for lifelock.Soooooo can I ask a personal question like are you married? I know that I am still wiping off the seat of my britches from falling off the turnip truck but honey Ray Charles could see your ring glowing from behind that veil.I'm just saying is all so no offense intended.Also on a more serious note,is their anyone on here that honestly believes you can find your double in the AVATARS? come on now man please back away from the smoking bowl or bong or pipe,ok lol (yea I know I said serious but I just couldn't do it,I tried really I did)...

[bigrigd (deleted)]

`I prefer pictures I like to see who Im talking to that way when I do meet the person I know what I should expect. Why not be upfront from the beginning. To be honest the avatars things are creepy looking and I wont talk to someone with no pic. It makes me feel like they got something to hide or something.

[blznskies]

Alot of people, men and women, are married, or in a relationship, and too worried about showing themselves. This is not true for all, but some. Just know that you will get many many more replies, with a pic. thanks.

[wafflemaker (deleted)]

`I don't care who sees me. I'm the kind of guy wherever I go, I don't mind if I'm noticed. If I'm there, why be embarassed? I came to this site with clear intentions. And that was to be seen. I'm not shy about my body, unfortunately the staff didn't approve some of my pics because I wasn't wearing much. But whatever! I'm not shy about who I am. And I LOVE BIG GIRLS! ^_____^

They're the sweetest, sexiest, best kind of girls to be with! _

[joanamrf]

bstressfree wrote: I'm not interested in contact with people who are attracted to an image of me first. What I hope to share with a very special friend or two comes from very deep within and requires conversation and shared honesty with ultimate goal of a very special friendship. I would prefer to begin with ideological attraction unencumbered by physical attraction. ....etc, etc

This is understandable and I agree with you, its great finding someone you can have good conversations with, discuss politics, recent scientific discoveries, world events, life experiences and w/e else floats your boat, and I've had the pleasure of having some of those, but the ultimate truth is at least 90% (IMO) of people base attraction mostly on looks. I mean...there has to be some physical attraction. I had a friend who really didnt care about looks much, ALL her boyfriends I met were all different than the last, I mean she didnt care if they had like one eye, if they were short, tall, fat, skinny, but she just didnt like crooked teeth. So despite how cool, or nice the guy was...she couldnt bring herself to be with someone with crooked teeth, at least not yet (lol) its about preferences.

And I'll be honest and say I'm like that too, I'm not too picky, but there has to be some physical attraction, maybe how you dress, or maybe the way you wear your hair, or how you keep your 'stache trimmed lol...idk something...and I as well do not reply to people who dont have a photo! I posted a pic of myself, you at least could do the same

bstressfree wrote: I'm much more dismayed by those who don't put the effort into completing their profile, really putting who they are 'out there'.....

this as well I agree with, I need to know about you if i'm going to try and talk to you and post what you're looking for in a match people! lol how are we supposed to know if you might be interested if we don't know what you're looking for :

jo

[rx420 (deleted)]

I just joined and posted a pic

[2findu (deleted)]

I post my picture. But when it comes to any personal sites if a woman has no picture, then I'm not interested. And I would expect a woman to feel the same way if a man has no picture.

[ggr1972 (deleted)]

`fine..will post a pic.....but i warn you.....and babies crying or fruit bruising from being around my pic is all on you!!!

[shinigamigurl]

`I think that people saying "I'm not interested in contact with people who are attracted to an image of me first." are trying to lie to themselves- no matter what we do or what we say...attraction ALWAYS starts with the visual, and it doesn't even have to be a picture because a profile does give the reader a 'mental' picture of who you are.

And if the visual aspect wasn't important than why even come onto a site saying you like 'big girls' or 'big guys'? Isn't size a visual as well?

I think everyone should get a chance to see whom they are talking to- and I couldn't even imagine talking to someone I can only take his word on about EVERYTHING including his looks...because well, people lie all the time.

And even if your personality is perfect but your looks aren't what you think are all that- THERE IS SOMEONE OUT THERE THAT THINKS YOU'RE BEAUTIFUL! But you have to be able to help yourself a little and put up a (truthful) good description of who you are and what you're looking for in your profile. What I really hate are all the men that just put "I'm looking for a big girl" or something like that- you might as well just put "LOOKING TO GET LAID".

[jared44]

`From a different and brutally honest perspective, we live in a vain society, both with our own self image and in the image of the person we are with. There are always exceptions, but in general, people of both sexes are attracted visually first. It's human nature. Does that mean that is the only thing to look at in a person? Sh*t no. But it does mean that the visual is important. Of course there are counterpoints to any arguement, but this is just my take on it. Food for thought, though, everyone on here is looking for people of size, no need to be ashamed:)

[ssbbwloverinnv (deleted)]

`The cartoon avatars are cute, I have one on my profile, and tried to make it look as much like myself as possible. But I think also having an actual photo up goes a long way toward someone being interested when they are viewing your profile. Whether that is vain or not, I can't say, although it definitely helps.

[sheevaa]

`Well, I gotta go with those that say the pics matter. They do. If I meet someone in person, their personality will make them better or worse looking to me. Online though, just going through a profile. The only indication of first attraction is the pic.
There are some guys that have such an interesting profile that I would contact without it. Generally I prefer to see who I'm talking to.