Why Men Choose BBW's

[seeguide_PREV (deleted)]

I was talking with a female friend of mine the other day and we were talking about BBW's and why men choose them. She is a BBW herself. She claims that there is something wrong with a guy to choose a BBW rather than a thin woman. "Guys have something mentally wrong with them if they want to date a BBW" is what she is saying. I completely disagree with her. For one BBW's are much more beautiful than a thin or even average woman. Big women have more self-confidence in themselves and are more apt to giving and recieving love and compassion. I'm not saying that thin women do not have any of these qualities, but larger women have alot more going for them. They are persevering, confident, enthusiastic, romantic, sensitive, educated, intelligent beautiful women. What are your thoughts on this subject?

[ssflbelle_PREV (deleted)]

Thanks for the lovely compliments. However it does get a bit creepy when the FA (fat admirer) is so much into the body size of a super size bbw that he can't see the health risk that might exist for her. At least that is how it was with my ex and I. I had gotten to a point where my health was a major issue and he was opposed to my losing weight. I lost some weight anyhow (and am continuing to do so) and then lost him. Oh well! That is life and thus the reason I am here. I am hoping that there are FA's out there in this world that can appreciate a once former super size bbw who is trying to become just a bbw.

[seeguide_PREV (deleted)]

I appreciate your response. This is very true what you say about health risks associated with being large. I believe that if wants to lose weight due to her health I'm all for it. Would rather have a healthy BBW than an unhealthy woman in my life.

[shefflad]

im not in any way that bothered if a girl is a BBW are skinny as a bone more bothered if we get on are not .i came on this site well im not going to lie im fineing it hard to get a date im a bit shy with girls i work and i have a kid so thats why i join the site and a lot the girls on here look hot to me as well lol

[hippyhound (deleted)]

Its simple for me I just find larger ladies more attractive and the only issue is with larger ladies believing the negative issues that society push's on them to conform with the media stereo type.

[fruitiondelight]

I have to agree BBW's are persevering, confident, enthusiastic, romantic (definitely romantic), sensitive, educated
intelligent beautiful individuals. Thank you for saying so. I think too that BBW's are subjected to alot of crap. As a BBW I don't know how many people I have heard ask their friends why the good looking man I am with is dating me. (obviously or not they think I won't hear or respond to them) It always seems like it is a girl half my size stating this absurd question, who then also acts shocked at the fact that I turn to address her and say, "because obviously I'm a lot more beauty to look at" LOL.

I also, find that as a BBW alot of sweet men feel that we are tough and hard individuals. They forget to romance and compliment us. Everyone wants to think that their significant other only has eyes for them.
Do skinny women have something over me because I am a BBW? I don't really think so. I think that the skinny women out there who have a problem with men dating BBW's are obviously devoid of character and talent. On the other hand a BBW who does not believe that she is worthy enough to have a man respect, cherish, and love her has to dig a little deeper into what is really going on. As women we are beautiful people and worthy of great things no matter what the size.
Sorry, I didn't mean to be long stated....thanks again.[/list][/quote][/list]

[bigbadboyjohnny]

I choose a BBW because they are confident. This my main reason. The second is I simply am attracted to them, I don't like skinny women.

[sthrndelight_PREV (deleted)]

thanks for the sweet words about BBW'S and SSBBW'S...as a BBW myself i find it hard sometimes to deal with what society puts on us...i too find it hard to think that a man would rather be with me than a barbie type so to speak...i'm not ashamed i'm a BBW but i do hate what others say about us...i was a member of a site a year or so ago called "plenty of fish" and my god,if you've never heard of it or been on it then let me tell you this,you probably don't want to...the things people said about us they called us.FAT PEOPLE was horrific...i was amazed that humans would talk and treat other humans in such a way...do they think their words don't hurt or bother us?...i'm one that doesn't like to hurt people and surely don't say bad things about their weight,height or whatever...we all have opinions yes but does that give us the right to say hurtful things?...i mean,if its not your preference so be it but why belittle,just don't look or say anything...anyway,i just had to put my 2 cents worth in here too.lol...sorry,i got long winded too.lol...i just get carried away sometimes...you all have a wonderful day...

[shilokw_PREV (deleted)]

sth
delight............I don't understand why you should find it hard to understand how a man would rather be with you than a so called 'barbie type'. You sound like a very kind hearted woman and again......beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Everyone has their own preference on what they like. Men AND women. Thin AND large. That goes for looks and personality and there are 'similar differences' in every size. The thing is that people should just understand that and not critize each others preference.

You are very right that some need to keep their opinions to themselves when they don't like ones looks or disagree on what another finds attractive. It's senseless and hurtful to be so verbal in that way. Not to mention pretty dang ignorant and down right stupid.

I can definitely appreciate a man that has a TRUE love for the larger form, because I am large. But let's be fair and realistic. As for BBW's being so much better at certain feelings, thoughts, actions, confidence, etc. than thin women, do you really believe that? I think it all depends on the individual, thin or large. I'm not defending thin women above or against BBW's, or vice versa, I just feel there are all kinds in all sizes.

I do get my feelings hurt and do get aggravated at the acceptable prejudice that society has, and so openly shows, for larger people. But I try sooooo hard to turn the hurt feelings and aggravation into nothing but pitty for those people that just don't seem to get the point of life.

These are only my thoughts and my way of dealing, so I hope I've not offended anyone.

[meshepeshe]

For me it's a very old ------- memory of perhaps of a time when
the Earth Mother Godess was a main deity.

'Venus of Willendorf'


Perhaps in all men's minds this memory still yet exists.

Modern society has thrown everything out of whack.

Honestly speaking - I find larger women more pleasing as do many men
even if they are not out in the open about it.


Aosda

[sthrndelight_PREV (deleted)]

shilokw wrote: sth
delight............I don't understand why you should find it hard to understand how a man would rather be with you than a so called 'barbie type'. You sound like a very kind hearted woman and again......beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Everyone has their own preference on what they like. Men AND women. Thin AND large. That goes for looks and personality and there are 'similar differences' in every size. The thing is that people should just understand that and not critize each others preference.

You are very right that some need to keep their opinions to themselves when they don't like ones looks or disagree on what another finds attractive. It's senseless and hurtful to be so verbal in that way. Not to mention pretty dang ignorant and down right stupid.

I can definitely appreciate a man that has a TRUE love for the larger form, because I am large. But let's be fair and realistic. As for BBW's being so much better at certain feelings, thoughts, actions, confidence, etc. than thin women, do you really believe that? I think it all depends on the individual, thin or large. I'm not defending thin women above or against BBW's, or vice versa, I just feel there are all kinds in all sizes.

I do get my feelings hurt and do get aggravated at the acceptable prejudice that society has, and so openly shows, for larger people. But I try sooooo hard to turn the hurt feelings and aggravation into nothing but pitty for those people that just don't seem to get the point of life.

These are only my thoughts and my way of dealing, so I hope I've not offended anyone.



thanks so much for the comment...i reckon i'm just my worst critic sometimes and it does annoy me that people can be so rude or downright mean towards bigger people like myself and others...i just hate to see people hurt and try my best not to hurt anyone...i'm sure you didn't offend anyone but i wanted to thank you and now that i have i'm gonna try and get some sleep..you all have a wonderful morning or evening wherever you are...

[shilokw_PREV (deleted)]

meshepeshe wrote: For me it's a very old ------- memory of perhaps of a time when
the Earth Mother Godess was a main deity.

'Venus of Willendorf'


Perhaps in all men's minds this memory still yet exists.

Modern society has thrown everything out of whack.

Honestly speaking - I find larger women more pleasing as do many men
even if they are not out in the open about it.


Aosda


Why do you think it is, that many men out there aren't open about it? If they aren't open about it, then they aren't 'true admirers/lovers' of the large woman. In my opinion, that type of man can stay in their closets. How can a large woman be comfortable about her size with a man that isn't comfortable about her size?
I'm glad there are men like you out there. You are a true admirer of the larger woman and can appreciate the fuller form the way it should be appreciated.

[meshepeshe]

shilokw wrote: meshepeshe wrote: For me it's a very old ------- memory of perhaps of a time when
the Earth Mother Godess was a main deity.

'Venus of Willendorf'


Perhaps in all men's minds this memory still yet exists.

Modern society has thrown everything out of whack.

Honestly speaking - I find larger women more pleasing as do many men
even if they are not out in the open about it.


Aosda


Why do you think it is, that many men out there aren't open about it? If they aren't open about it, then they aren't 'true admirers/lovers' of the large woman. In my opinion, that type of man can stay in their closets. How can a large woman be comfortable about her size with a man that isn't comfortable about her size?
I'm glad there are men like you out there. You are a true admirer of the larger woman and can appreciate the fuller form the way it should be appreciated.



I suspect you're right on that call,It's always a good feeling for one
to know what She/He wants out of life's loves,likes,and blissful ----s.
Guess there is all sorts of closet types afraid of being trounched by the
peer pressure of sheeplike judgemental people.

No matter if you're big or small,short or tall,weird or plain,

its the soul that counts,along with half closed smiling eyes,and
laughter that remains in our memories and hearts.

[shilokw_PREV (deleted)]

meshepeshe wrote: shilokw wrote: meshepeshe wrote: For me it's a very old ------- memory of perhaps of a time when
the Earth Mother Godess was a main deity.

'Venus of Willendorf'


Perhaps in all men's minds this memory still yet exists.

Modern society has thrown everything out of whack.

Honestly speaking - I find larger women more pleasing as do many men
even if they are not out in the open about it.


Aosda


Why do you think it is, that many men out there aren't open about it? If they aren't open about it, then they aren't 'true admirers/lovers' of the large woman. In my opinion, that type of man can stay in their closets. How can a large woman be comfortable about her size with a man that isn't comfortable about her size?
I'm glad there are men like you out there. You are a true admirer of the larger woman and can appreciate the fuller form the way it should be appreciated.



I suspect you're right on that call,It's always a good feeling for one
to know what She/He wants out of life's loves,likes,and blissful ----s.
Guess there is all sorts of closet types afraid of being trounched by the
peer pressure of sheeplike judgemental people.

No matter if you're big or small,short or tall,weird or plain,

its the soul that counts,along with half closed smiling eyes,and
laughter that remains in our memories and hearts.





That's a shame that grown adults are still childish enough to hold back, or otherwise, because of peer pressure. I know about 'staying young at heart', but that's going a bit too far with it. LOL.

[meshepeshe]

shilokw wrote: meshepeshe wrote: shilokw wrote: meshepeshe wrote: For me it's a very old ------- memory of perhaps of a time when
the Earth Mother Godess was a main deity.

'Venus of Willendorf'


Perhaps in all men's minds this memory still yet exists.

Modern society has thrown everything out of whack.

Honestly speaking - I find larger women more pleasing as do many men
even if they are not out in the open about it.


Aosda


Why do you think it is, that many men out there aren't open about it? If they aren't open about it, then they aren't 'true admirers/lovers' of the large woman. In my opinion, that type of man can stay in their closets. How can a large woman be comfortable about her size with a man that isn't comfortable about her size?
I'm glad there are men like you out there. You are a true admirer of the larger woman and can appreciate the fuller form the way it should be appreciated.



I suspect you're right on that call,It's always a good feeling for one
to know what She/He wants out of life's loves,likes,and blissful ----s.
Guess there is all sorts of closet types afraid of being trounched by the
peer pressure of sheeplike judgemental people.

No matter if you're big or small,short or tall,weird or plain,

its the soul that counts,along with half closed smiling eyes,and
laughter that remains in our memories and hearts.





That's a shame that grown adults are still childish enough to hold back, or otherwise, because of peer pressure. I know about 'staying young at heart', but that's going a bit too far with it. LOL.



abit too far eh ?

never been one to stay abit too near


These days when it seems everything is questionable, misunderstanding
can surely spark one's mind to pondering.

I could not possibily narrow my likes and dislikes down to only a
Physical/Visual plain when it comes to my relations with a woman,
or anyone as a matter of fact.

The non physical aspect of people together is like a tinging of souls,
when it happens,it's nature at it's best.

Ahhh, the physical/visual side of it all ~ There are men in sooth that
perfer a more waif-like woman,or perhaps the 'enhanced'
Pamela Anderson type,while there be others pleased as punch at a
thirsty moment to be in the close company of a large-framed,full-figured,

Woman

with thick shapely well turned legs,eyes that could illuminate the twilight,
and breas.........**** +

Damn, I either got off topic,or too far into it.

Perhaps it's best to strive towards happiness.