Virgins

[katfm89 (deleted)]

I'm still a virgin, and I'm happy as can be It's about perspective, I think. I want the emphasis of the relationship to be on the emotional side. If a man expects sex, I personally feel disrespected especially if we've only barely gotten to know each other. I'm not like other women, and I don't like to be treated like other women I'm not a diva, though x) To find a man who can wait is rare, but I believe they're out there.

[abigjump]

`haha its the opposite for me im a virgin and not happy haha it feels like im going to go insane, every relationship ive been in has been cut short and ive tried waiting for the {right} person but it seems like thats never going 2 happen, so i say screw waiting, its just --- andmost everyone has it so im going to get some when it comes up and is someone im attracted 2

[rcook]

`There are definitely some guys out there who will wait, but it is definitely hard to find them. Either cause they won't admit it or because they don't exist! haha! I haven't had --- yet and it doesn't really bother me. I want more then just the physical, I want the mental connection as well. There are people out there like that! Believe it!

[abigjump]

`to loose my virginity i dont care about the mental bonding because --- is physical but for a relationship or stuff like that i dont even care about the --- as long as i can find someone i love

[yourreallyfunny]

`good luck to you guys, seriously. its going to be HARD, especially in this day and age

[niceguy1991 (deleted)]

when i started this forum i had no idea that it would have this much of a respond to it. but im glad.. its a way for ppl like my self to have a place to be proud of what i am.. thanks to everyone that has opened up and hope u find the right person for u. have a great nite everyone and always remember there are others like u.

[invisibleshades (deleted)]

`in my opinion some people feel like they just need to have --- because "everyone" is doing it. but i think its okay if people are still a virgin. theres nothing wrong with it. i think its only a problem if you make it a problem for yourself. you cant please everyone so if you want to stay a virgin for the rest of your life then so be it. if you want to wait around for "the one" good luck and hopefully you'll find that person. not everyone finds that right person but in order to do so yo have to be willing to put yourself out there and test the waters. this day in age you have to be proactive when it comes to getting things you want no ones just gonna hand it over to you.

[jessicavm04]

wafflemaker wrote: `I'm sorry but I don't know anyone who lost it to someone they love.

Ever.


It's always," a friend." Psssh. My first time looked at me and she said,"the first is never the last, and I'm not your girlfriend." So yeah that's pretty harsh on a dude at that age. I don't think it's really all that bad to wait. It eliminates alot of expensive habits and gives you alot more free time I'll tell you that haha...



Love the way you think and i agree and actually to the guy that says its better to have --- and dont wait he is actually wrong waiting to have --- to a mature age prevents you from lots of trouble...STD's and of course unwanted kids!! Im still a virgin and im proud of it!! a lot of my friends say they wish they hadn't lose their virginity at a young age.

[yourreallyfunny]

`^ it's been proven that waiting until you're over... I'd like to say 21 for women and 19 for guys causes physical and mental problems --------. I didn't mean go ---- some random hobo (unless you like that sort of thing then by all means...) but for guys especially, you want to impress the girl you like, which means practicing your craft, so to speak.

[misskait]

`When it comes to virginity, it really does depend on perspective, like someone else said.

A lot of people want a mental and emotional connection. Some people want to be in love or have --- for the first time on their wedding night.

But then there are people who are just ------ beings.

I recently lost my virginity. To a friend of mine. We both wanted to, so we did it. But even before losing my virginity, I was an incredibly ------ being.

I don't think that staying a virgin is a bad thing. But I also don't think losing your virginity is a bad thing. Some people do it for bad reasons, but it's their choice.

I do believe that you should know that you are -------- compatable with someone before deciding to spend your life with them. Like it or not, --- is something couples do at some point. And you might as well like it while it's happening, right? So go ahead and stay a virgin. But if your going to spend your life with someone, I would suggest um... testing the waters? As crude as that sounds... You both have to be ready and willing of course. But I personally thing it's a good idea and could potentially help a relationship down the road.

[abigjump]

`i agree with her^^^^^^^

[ooo00ooo (deleted)]

`to me it is a matter of personal choice and what one can live with as well as being prepared to face the consequences. the biggest hindrance for me is that abortion is not a choice and i am not prepared to have a baby out of wedlock and worse if i have to take care of it on my own. then there is also the conservative upbringing. hence, all these together equals celibacy:) LOL

[elizabethmsu]

`I'm a virgin. And sometimes I'm glad I still am. Other times I just feel like I want to get it over with already. I've had offers, especially from people who know I'm a virgin. And I'm not one who things you have to wait for marriage or the one you love, I just don't want to get screwed (in more ways than one) by a douchey guy.

[d1mlocator (deleted)]

I'm 19, and a virgin. It really doesn't bother me, unless someone purposefully teases me for it. I don't want to sound conceited in any way, but I think I'm an attractive guy. I'm just waiting 'till I feel comfortable with somebody; I'm mostly 'pressured' by overly ------ females and never found that attractive. I'm not worried about the 'first time' unless it's hers as well, but either way I still won't be worried since I know I'll get off either way, and as dumb as it sounds I'm more concerned in following her directions and getting her happy in bed.

[smartboy110]

`I don't think its an issue, and down to personal preference, or religion. I lost mine at 14 to a girl friend who just wanted to be my first (she still teases me nicely about it sometimes) and it was just fun - and really good. Its only gotten better as I've learnt more about pleasuring a partner, and provided you're safe and remember that it can be just fun as well as love, then why not? It IS really intense when you really care about the person tho.... good luck to you guys and gals!