Dating Guys and Dating Guys who ONLY Date Big Girls

[jrockin82]

I was just wondering if anyone else has had an experience like me...Men that I have dated in the past have dated me because they liked ME, not necessarily because they liked big girls. All of my exes had dated thinner girls in the past. Just recently I started seeing someone who exclusively dates big girls. I have to tell you, it's a TOTALLY different experience!!! I feel so much more comfortable with him! It took me about 2 yrs with my ex to walk around naked in front of him, and with this new guy I'm seeing, I was comfortable the second WEEK I was with him. I was just wondering if any other ladies had similar experiences, or if any guys had anything to say about this

~*Jaime*~

[techguy67 (deleted)]

`Well I have dated both. I think the comfort level comes from your feelings and not from the preference of the guy. Us guys have the same issues sometimes. I know that when I dated younger girls, I was less likely to feel comfortable in front of them, versus someone my own age. Then again, that was just a mental thing. If I was confident in the relationship than it wouldn't have mattered. Regaurdless, your a beautiful woman and should always feel that way.

[jrockin82]

`First of all, thank you so much for the compliment, and secondly I understand what you're saying. Let's go with what you said about the younger versus older thing, the man I am dating now is 15 yrs older than me. He doesn't look like he is by any means, but my ex was my age, actually 13 weeks younger than me. I think maybe it was the relationship like you said, because I really wasn't comfortable around him at all. He had naked pictures of some ---- chick (of course she was skinny and "stereotypically beautiful) he found off the internet hanging on the closet door in our bedroom. I let him know several times that it bothered me that they were up there, and they were still there when I moved out after I broke up with him. Now, I'm not someone who gets upset about my guy looking at ----, as long as I get to ride the bike, I don't care who pumps up the tires...but honestly I just thought it was rude to have pictures like that up in our room, ya know? Sorry, I kinda went on a tangent just then..lol

[ggr1972 (deleted)]

love happy endings

thanks for sharing a positive story

[naxyr (deleted)]

`I normally date bigger girls but don't turn down skinnies cause of body type. Guys who enjoy bigger girls more just run their hands all over their body and most big girls aren't used to it. I personally enjoy grabbing and groping and just jiggling it. It gives a feeling of acceptance which makes you comfortable with someone. Something like that is harder to find.

[assqueen87 (deleted)]

`Well jrockin82, congrats on this..I've had this experience with every ex, but all good things came to an end with all ...lol, Its such a good feeling to be caressed, and kissed all over. For me personally it is really comforting and sexy..It only is going to make you feel better about yourself

[simplyfran (deleted)]

naxyr wrote: `I normally date bigger girls but don't turn down skinnies cause of body type. Guys who enjoy bigger girls more just run their hands all over their body and most big girls aren't used to it. I personally enjoy grabbing and groping and just jiggling it. It gives a feeling of acceptance which makes you comfortable with someone. Something like that is harder to find.



Giggling?!

Lol, I never had a *real* boyfriend, but a lot of "friends with benefits"
They would compliment me a lot, and treat me like all the skinny stereotypical beautiful girls on his social network sites, that are beyond gorgeous . But I have esteem issues, so I was never sure what to think/feel about It. Even a hug would make me a little weird.

But that has to be a beautiful thing, being comfortable.

[wafflemaker (deleted)]

`^ Yeah fran. Jiggling it. Every now and then, you get a handful and you just wiggle it up and down and though big girls hate it and tell you to stop - they have so much it's not like they can really defend it.

I love big girls. And only date big girls now exclusively. I used to date barbie but...... As time passed I realized big girls have much better things to offer me. And since most of them haven't been so completely ----ed up, you can repair most of the damage they've gone through. Even if the two of you don't work out, she can leave the relationship with a fresh new take on men.

Big girls are just about the best.

But jrockin, I would tell you this. If those pics were there even after you moved out - it's pretty safe to say they were going to stay. And it may not have been as serious as you think. We're guys, we like naked girls... We especially like to see beautiful women, even if you think they're stereotypical. Sometimes it's just a fantasy.

[simplyme247 (deleted)]

`I have never dated a man who only or mostly dates bigger women .. I wait for the day though lol .. but I have never had a bad experience with but I'm sure it must be more comfortable to be with someone who sees ur weight as a positive instead of a negative ..

[doublecyclone]

simplyme247 wrote: `I have never dated a man who only or mostly dates bigger women .. I wait for the day though lol .. but I have never had a bad experience with but I'm sure it must be more comfortable to be with someone who sees ur weight as a positive instead of a negative ..



We're out there. We're just having as rough of a time of it as you are. Just because I admire you for your size doesn't mean you won't reject me for my personality/hobbies/subculture. Then again, I live in AL. RACE...RACE..RACE.

Maybe if we didn't treat entire categories of people with fear and hate, they would not grow to fear and hate the rest of us.

[brentm1987]

`I honestly have an attraction to larger women. I see it as a much more positive thing, and not at all a negative thing

[naomi53 (deleted)]

`I am 53 and have never in all these years met a man locally who claimed or seemed to PREFER big ladies over the Barbies. I am so frustrated over this! I would LOVE to meet a special man who doesn't find the Barbies attractive, but really and truly loves the look and the feel of a lady who is soft and round, who will enjoy her rolls and not hope that she'll lose weight, but instead hopes that she WON'T!

[ssbbwloverinnv (deleted)]

` I have liked both big girls and skinny girls in my life, but I have to say I most definitely adore big girls over the Barbies, and have since I was 14. I especially like very big women 500, 600 lbs. or more. There is just something about a woman that size with all her wonderful weight and abundant, soft rolls and curves I find incredibly sensuous and sexy. And I think they are gentler and more feminine than thinner, more active girls. I don't know, maybe it's something buried deep in the male subconscious that a man finds more reassuring, calming and comforting about the large female form than a bony Barbie doll.

[moonfairyshadow (deleted)]

`I date almost exclusively fluffy girls, because I think they are cuter and are far more curvy and voluptuous. I don't mind dating an healthy average girl, only some fluff is a sign of good health. I've tried skinny girls and its just not there for me.

A big girl is like a big squishy soft feather pillow you can hug, and so I make a beeline for them. Big girls have lots going for them... cuter faces, larger b--bs, curvier curves and bottom, and so on They seem friendlier and more approachable.

There is a point though at which too much weight is too much weight. When its hard for you to stand up from sitting on the ground, or when you look down and can't see your vagina, then that's probably too much and not good for your health.

Our modern diet is atrocious. I know myself I've become diabetic from it, and have started to get on the chunky side myself from it, but I'm fighting back. Look up paleolithic diet... nuts, vegetables, fruits, fish, chicken.. Cut out the soft drinks, sugar, sweet tea, flour and carbohydrates. Remember, eating fat doesn't make you fat, eating sugar makes you fat. The body can't handle too much sugar, its toxic to it, so it converts it to fat.


All that being said, you still have to put in some work into the relationship too. This is not the 1950's anymore, building a relationship is like building a home together, both of you need to contribute investments into it. I've dated big girls who still lived in this weird paradigm that the guy has to do all the chasing and pay for everything, and suffered a lot of disappointment from it.

Later I found out they didn't appreciate it at all, they *expected* it, and it was a one way street with me doing all the giving and them doing all the asking and taking. You can't imagine how pissed off that makes me feel, and at that point when I find out their mindset is a selfish one way street, I've drop them like a rock. It doesn't work like that forever. Eventually the guy is going to get fed up with you not investing your time and heart into it and helping to pay half the gas.

[tnbecca]

`I DEF need to find a guy that dates only bigger girls. :)