bbw's seem to equal easy lay...

[hithere86 (deleted)]

I have this strange problem that guys only seem to be interested in my for S-- only! It's super annoying and I don't seem to understand why it is that is..... I can tell my friends 'til they're blue in the face that if I wanted a --- it won't be that hard to find considering how they just seem to come by anyway. And yet they seem to find me nothing BUT ---'s!

I go out and guys are all in my face trying to just have S-- with me, while trying to date the friend right next to me. Why really do people seem to think that just because some chick is fat that they will just jump in the bed with anyone? That only does good up until you get dressed and take the walk of shame to where ever you're going.

I would like to have a guy talk to me that wasn't solely trying to bed me. Does anyone else get this??? And what suggestions do you have to help me reverse this annoying thing so I can actually start dating? I don't dress like a prude or a hooker so I really don't understand why I keep getting this.

[brwnsweetness]

`ok i have tried to send you my thoughts on the situation..... mayb it was because i was on my phone...but third time is a charm....

I have had this happen more than once...but this situation does not happen to just BBW, but women of all shapes and sizes. it could be a lot of variables that fit into the equation as to why this keeps occuring...in my case it was the environment in where i would meet men (clubs)

i feel as though u shouldnt take it as an insult that a man wants to have S-- with you... for him to think that you are se---lly attractive, he must find you attractive. Take it as a compliment however if a guy is pushin up a lil too hard tell them that you cant do a nightcap because you have to get up in the morning, you would gladly catch lunch or some drinks with them later on tomorrow (if they accept then they really want to get to kno you, however if not then at least you didnt waste ur time) ...and if it gets to the point that they are harassin and disrespectful tell them you are not interested and walk off...
hope this helps

[zeitgeistein]

`From a guy's point of view, I hit on big girls because I small, thin girls just don't attract me that much! A big girl, much less a black woman just screams "sexy" in my mind. But yeah, I have noticed that most guys are only into big girls for sex, I hear it from them all the time. My guess is they think that maybe a big girl has gone longer without sex& therefore would be an "easy lay" so to speak. Just my 2 cents!

[chrissy121269]

`To "Z's" post,,,most guys wish they S-- as much as BBW...seriously. LOL. But to the ladies...If a guy give the vibe that they only want to know you or be with JUST for s--....move on. They think we are desparate. HA! But most I have met are cool... we have freindships...s-- is just the bonus,, if I let it.. hahaa :)

[nicki (deleted)]

`Lets face it when you are big or not a man's gonna try and have S-- period its the way most of their brains work the control centre is below the belt lol...I think that some men do think we're easier because they feel we can't get anyone so we should be "grateful" they do...s-- is a part of any relationship but it shouldn't be the only part...like everything though you have to look at both sides of it...if you were a man and saw a woman showing everything what would you think...if can be just as much our fault at times as it is theirs...just be upfront about what you want and if the guy only wants S-- let him get it somewhere else and if he has real interest well good luck to you...there are nice men out there I have actually met them LOL

[musicalmaggie (deleted)]

`I have found that many men do not like a large woman. One thing about this website is that you know that the men will not write you off because you are large but rather that is what they are looking for.

However, I have had several men say that reason they want to find a BBW is because of what they think we are capable of se---lly.

I love S-- the same as the next person, but there us more to me that that.

[ggr1972 (deleted)]

nicki wrote: `Lets face it when you are big or not a man's gonna try and have S-- period its the way most of their brains work the control centre is below the belt lol...I think that some men do think we're easier because they feel we can't get anyone so we should be "grateful" they do...s-- is a part of any relationship but it shouldn't be the only part...like everything though you have to look at both sides of it...if you were a man and saw a woman showing everything what would you think...if can be just as much our fault at times as it is theirs...just be upfront about what you want and if the guy only wants S-- let him get it somewhere else and if he has real interest well good luck to you...there are nice men out there I have actually met them LOL



yeah...we guys are kinda dunb that way BUT...never...not once....thought that bigger gals are desperate and grateful.....waaaayyyyyyy too many have shot me down.....I like bigger gals because I don't like women who are tiny compared to me (6'5" 320)

[ariauna]

`I have noticed this with men as well and some of the men that I have asked about this say that there is a stereotype that bigger girls are better in all aspects of the bedroom then thin women. The other part of that is they feel they can be rougher and crazier in bed becuase they feel they wont break us. There are nice guys out there but all being straight up and saying hey what are you all about, what are you looking for seems to work. If they only want S-- then you can make your decision from there. Only the other hand (please no one take this wrong) there are some women that ruin it for the rest of us just the same as there are for thin women. Alot of the bigger women I went to highschool with gave it up alot because they liked having a man's attention and someone to want them even if it was just for a lay. Its their own individual self consciousness and needs and I understand that. But because of that men begin to form an idea that larger women are easy and wont take the rest of serious. This is a problem whether you are thick or thin.

[southernfinery]

`sometimes I think that our biggest problem as bbws is that we think to much about IT.You know what IT is don't you?Yep thats right its THEM.OMG I know right,THEM.How dare THEY do that to US.I can't believe I'm writing about THEM again.We bbws are gonna take our stuff back from all of YOUINS iffin you don't straighten up.So you guys dogging the ladies,STOP IT.You ladies giving in to the pressure of THEM,stop it.tc

[divatime (deleted)]

`As a women period u kno wht u want and scam it neva should u b desperate for any kind of attention...u have to remember there is someone out there for everyone so no need layin on yo back for some ten minute fun..but i have heard many men say tht about bigger women r better n bed but not jus every man has to find out is it true save yourself the time and walls for the rite one hes coming....

[chachkimooch (deleted)]

` I think that many people give in to societal 'peer' pressure, no matter what their age is. There are many who find fat people attractive, but can't take the ridicule they get from their friends, family, or even total strangers. They may want to be WITH a fat woman/man, but be SEEN with a slender one, because they know that will incite less comment, and therefore there will be less confrontation. I think It takes a strong man or woman to date outside their size range, and be ok with the comments they know are going to come their way.

[memphischick]

`Most guys assume because your big... you don't get much attention from the opposite s--... so you will easily go for anything that approaches you. which is wrong. I think if we were taught from a young age that it's ok to be overweight and to love ourselves... bigger women wouldn't have such of a negative feedback.

[wynslove (deleted)]

memphischick wrote: `Most guys assume because your big... you don't get much attention from the opposite s--... so you will easily go for anything that approaches you. which is wrong. I think if we were taught from a young age that it's ok to be overweight and to love ourselves... bigger women wouldn't have such of a negative feedback.



I'M EITHER LOOKED AT AS AN EASY LAY (WHICH BOTH MY EXES [YES I'VE ONLY BEEN WITH 2 MEN] CAN ATTEST THAT ISN'T THE CASE), OR THEY WANT ME TO BE THEIR "GIRL FRIEND". YOU KNOW LADIES.... THE FAT GIRL THAT THE GUYS RUN TO WHEN THEY CAN'T FIGURE OUT THEIR 'REAL' GIRLFRIEND. LOL. PISSES ME OFF LIKE YOU WOULDN'T BELIEVE.

IT HAS TO START WITH US THOUGH. WE HAVE GOT TO START TELLING OUR CHILDREN THAT WEIGHT IS NOT AN ISSUE, NOT A SOCIAL ONE ANYWAY. ;)

[mslaughsalot (deleted)]

`I've had my guy friend explain this to me and he basically said that big girls = desperate which means they are easy. I don't think that's true for all! girls without confidence = easy lay and just because a girl is big doesn't mean she's not confident!

[nightflyerzx]

`I guess with everyone's explanation, us as guys sometimes think of fetishes that may require a big girl. I, myself, have never even thought of dating a skinny girl at all. If in any case a guy, whether fat or skinny, tall or short, etc. comes around to y'all bbw's, be proud of yourself, because a big woman has more of a chance with a real man in a real relationship, than these celebrity couples out here messing up the world's ego.

Besides, on another side note, if the moment arises for myself, and a spark flares up the condition, I guess it is quite safe to say that most guys, like myself, are also curious of how a bbw would feel in bed. The "easy lay" part, is just the opinion of most guys that just abuse the women for self-pleasure, mainly bbw's, and can prevented by putting up your boundaries as a normal human being.