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[chitownlatina21 (deleted)]

Hey guys. Well I need your advice on something. See i have my best friend that I love like a brother. He is dating this girl that he is very much in love with. The problem is that I went out to a club with some friends and I saw her there and she was making out with some guy that was not my bestfriend. Do I tell him about is girlfriend or do I just stay out of it?

[xtiemywristsx]

If he's your best friend, I'd definitely tell him. If he finds out in some other way, I'm sure he would've appreciated the heads up sooner. Aside from the point, who knows what she's bringing home to him from other people
I know it may be a difficult issue to address, but wouldn't you rather him get out of a bad situation before it gets worse? I'm sure he won't be happy with the news, but it's coming from a good source (you- who has his best interests at heart) and I'm sure he'll definitely take it into consideration. I think honesty is the best policy, and you may just end up kicking yourself later, if you don't mention it (just a thought.)

Steph ( :

[cookinbubbles]

`Wow, thats a tough one.
I have seen this situation blow up in the wrong faces.
If you do tell your friend what you witnessed, one of 2 things can happen; he will either believe you or not.
If its the latter, you may just have lost a friend.
Some people who are in love wear blinders where their mates are concerned and will not see the forest for the trees.
I am going to disagree(with respect) to xtiemywristsx and advise not to say anything.
Be there for your friend though, in case he already knows things are not as good as he would like them to be and wants to confide in you.

In the end it is your choice as to who's advice you decide to take. Only you know your friend and what he is like and who knows, maybe he would appreciate a heads up.
In any case, good luck.

[southernfinery]

`well if he's serious and she isn't then someone is getting played with somewhat or at least their feelings are so imo a picture speaks when a best friend can't.If flirty berty does it once,she'll do it again and if you just so happen to be in close proximity with a picture phone well you know what to do next right?

[bigmo66 (deleted)]

`In a situation like that it is best if you just mind your own business. Men especially savvy smart men know when their spouse,or girlfriend are being unfaithful. It is a well known fact that women or girls that think they are women cheat more than men. Eventually what is done in the dark will surface and come to the light. Getting involved in NON-FAMILY members business is risky................ and furthermore when women use the "term" I LOVE HIM LIKE A BROTHER that usually means that you like him (period). (umm) something to think about!!!!!!

Mo

[sheevaa]

`I don't know. I think I would be PISSED if one of my friends saw my man getting busy somewhere else...and decided not to say anything.
On the other side of the coin though...I was at a party with my bestie, her man and some other people. My bestie ended up going to the store, and her bf and this other chick immediately started being gross. I flat out refused to join in and gave such stink-eye they stopped it. I didn't end up telling my bestie what happened.

The other chick did a few days later. At that point, I explained my side. So, I guess I can see both sides, here. I don't know, lady:(

[fatuglyguy (deleted)]

chitownlatina21 wrote: Hey guys. Well I need your advice on something. See i have my best friend that I love like a brother. He is dating this girl that he is very much in love with. The problem is that I went out to a club with some friends and I saw her there and she was making out with some guy that was not my bestfriend. Do I tell him about is girlfriend or do I just stay out of it?


Speaking for myself... I agree with xtiemywristsx. It is best to show your friend you truly have their back.