My name is Frank and I'm new to this site

[fejordan]

Hey everybody,

My name is Frank and I have been on this site only since yesterday. I have to admit that I can't figure out why I am alone, other than my age, maybe.

I am stable, have a good job as a photographer for the DOD and DVA, plus I teach photgraphy in my area of West Virginia. I meet lots of women that seem nice enough until I get to know them better, then they turn into drama queens, or worse, just want me to take care of them.

Maybe honesty is the wrong approach!

I am not interested in finding someone whose hurts are so great they have no self esteem. No woman needs a man to make her whole. If she doesn't feel good about herself, why would--or could--a man make her whole again? It doesn't work that way, yet everytime I get involved with a gal that is so needy she clings to me till I can't breathe, well, I feel suffocated.

Surely to God there are self confident, large women here who aren't gamers and just want a guy to be a freind with before going to the next step. I really love larger women, and I don't feel the need to justify my personal chocies to anybody.

Will one of you ladies please tell me what I'm doing wrong?

[southernfinery]

`Why do you think you're doing something wrong?When you say you don't want a needy woman and that a man can't complete her,you do realize that your asking and looking for strong-willed females right?Imo for her to be complete she must have a source of inner strength and that does affect her will which is a heart thing.She can't come across as sheepish or withdrawn when she has found her inner strength.She will probably appear as outspoken and decisive.She may also appear as not being very tolerant of playful types and the partying crowd.That is not to say that she doesn't know how to let her hair down or how to kick up her heels.Imo she probably does that as well as any of the frequent party goers.Oh and one more thing,I doubt she will dress to please your eyes all the time.Good luck and gbu

[fejordan]

Sothern,

I'm not certain that I want anyone to dress to please me. I want to find someone already pleased with herself. I think the biggest reason I don't like these kinds of sites is because we seem to want to write what we think others want to read instead of just writing about who we are, and what we want.


I don't know how to put it any clearer, Southern.

I chat with a woman and then find out she's married, or worse, not a woman at all. Or, worst case scenario, she needs a father for her kids and is willing to do whatever it takes to get one.

How about just saying, I'm a single mother looking for a guy who will accept my children and me, once we get to know each other?

AAARRRGGGHHH...not very articulate, but how I feel.

Thanks, Southern, and same to you!

[southernfinery]

`most of the women in our age bracket don't have any small children so the help raising them doesn't seem to be a factor.I know that I am almost 50 so having and raising children now is out of the question.If you're interested in the younger generation(about your daughters age) then figuring in children wouldn't be a bad idea........My comment about the lady not dressing to please you was not meant to be directed at you specifically but metaphorically.Sorry for the miss up.As for the woman actually being a man,sorry to say but those kind are all over the networks.There is one on here,that I know of,that puts in their profile that they are transgender(waiting for an operation to complete their transformation)and will gladly tell you all about it.......p.s can you tell me why when I write something to a guy in the forums there is a 50/50 chance they will take it as me flirting with them? silly isn't it?

[fejordan]

Southern,

I have no idea why they think it's a flirt. I am interested in your ghostie, tho!

I can hardly understand my daughter, who has just unwrapped me from round her finger long enough to get a guy to put a ring on it, so I can't imagine dating anyone that age. I make it a point not to date any woman not old enough to be her mother; it's just easier that way.

But, I have sent emails to several ladies here and no one seems that interested. That's not a bad thing tho. I don't want to waste anybody's time.

Thanks, again, Southernfinery. Tell me bout that ghost!