I need some views on this problem that i have..

[juicybbg (deleted)]

Well i just want some views on this. really..

I was talking to a guy for like 2 weeks.. and on new years eve we met you .. to hang out at timmies but it was closed. So we just chillied in his car..
Then he pitched this at me .. Instead of going throw with his plans for new years, that I come over and we watch a movie. Now i thought nothing of this.. I mean i thought it was just a movie..

So we start a movie.. and things happen get a little steamy.. well after finish the movie. and i get a drop home.. a kiss goodbye.

the next morning he calls me as soon as he wakes up. but he had another line.. says he'll call back

Mind you we made plans for sunday to go watch a movie. Stupid me thought the plan was still on .. got ready looked good.. but no call and no nothing..

I thought from the way talks went things were gonna happen.. Im here sitting thinking my first one nite stand on new years.. happen to be with someone i liked too...

So can anyone give me a view on what this guy is thinking.. or just tell me if what im thinking is right.. thanks a bunch...

I also, had this thought because im a big gurl.. he just confused on what he wants. . I dunno too many thoughts running throw my head..

[gottagetfroggie]

I think that if it was just a one night stand he wouldn't have called you back the next morning... I think the fall out from that phone call that came in from while he was speaking to you might have something to do with his extended silence... don't jump to conclusions until you know for sure...

[xxlargeg]

the only thing i can say is that you seem to be a sweet, beautiful young woman and my thought is it's his lost,don't give it or him a second thought,because believe me when i say,men love big beautiful women.

[annabell (deleted)]

Juicy-

I've had a situation somewhat like that--sort of a one night stand, cept the guy calls again, but then bails. Personally, I had to write him off. It is hard for us bbw, because as others have said in forums, we are taught that we are not worthy because we are overweight. If some guy does this crap to us, we tend to tolerate it. That's why I am being more selective (well now not going on any dates) but I am looking for the guy who isn't just in it for the one night thing.

[susanmj65 (deleted)]

Well, sweetie, it's just his loss. Men have no idea what they are missing when it comes to BBW's. We are soft, smooth, sexy, ------- and very s----l beings. I had a similar experience to yours. Shortly after I left my husband, this guy contacted me via an ad I had placed (HE sought ME out). We met, had a relationship for 6 months and things were wonderful. Then all the sudden I get this email, "I'm so sorry. I've met someone". We never had a fight or a cross word and the S-- was totally awesome. I was confused, but what's a girl to do? The bottom line is this: you don't want to be with a man who doesn't want to be with you, or doesn't even have enough respect for you to tell you what he really wants or what he's thinking as far as the relationship goes. Some guys are just jerks that way. One word for you, cutie: "NEXT!!"

[mcormick]

hello : well i just wonder in my year;s since a young man and i am a honest and down to eartn caring person and i am a divorcee and have raised my children;; well what i have found that i am a true admierior of the larger female and that is what i seek and the company i enjoy to be whith regardless is from shoping at the food store to a cuddle at night and everything else a relationship hold;s i have had a couple or so date;s and found a cpiple bbw's i wpould have gladdy settled whith but seem;s thtawhen i get clse to some one they seem to start crapping out the diet thing and just seem to have not alot of self esteem in how can men acept a woman of substance well that for me has been not what i want to live and hear i in person am attracted to he bbw and ssbbw so just be yourself and have a man enjoy your company and companion and let develope to a true and loven relationship;; well one day i hope to still find that sweet and loven bbw that would honestly want a one woman man and be happy whith a man loven her as she is not start something that is out to ruen a good thing;;;;;;;; just be honest and open to who you realy are and what you want as there is men that love and cherish the larger and full figure and pride themselve;s in haveing such a woma;;; so just cut the crap is the bottom line and enjoy who you realy are and let some one into your heart to chat long enough or find what you both want from a 1 night stand to somthing lasting so don;t blame the men for not wanting a bbw just take the time to let the right man into your world and belive me i know some men that look at slimmer gal;s and say wow if there was a way toput some meat on that gal;; have fun and hope i have not made a mess of this mcormick

[bigdaddy4bbw38 (deleted)]

did he ever call you back?if he didnt call back.well maybe he was in a relationship and he went back or hes a d bag and was a 1 nite stand call him and find out

[tropicalbreeze]

wow! I hope things turned out to your expectations. I he hasn't call nor kept in touch....then I'm sure you know how to handle your business from here on out.

take care girlfriend.....remember the saying "there lost and one someone else's gain"....hmm did I sum that up right?...hehehe.

[jnighthawk34]

I really hope that all went well, no matter how it turned out. But honestly, you sound like a very nice person, and should be treat better than that.
It sounds to me that this person was hiding something from the start, and wasn't honest with you, or himself. there is no reason not to call someone back, when you made plans to do something with them. and if this was a real man he would have found a way to contact you, regardless of what is going on. So thats why I say it was a one night stand(or what is known as a hit and run). And he knew what he was doing.
But as for you, There are better things in life to look forward to and not let a bad apple spoil your good times. You keep your head up and with that beautiful smile of yours and be yourself.
You know you can do better, and you will.

jnighthawk34

[goodlilkat (deleted)]

This is my view on things. I think that when you date someone for the first time that you should not have high expectations of anyone. 1! because you barely know each other 2! So you are great and you know it! but sweety the only one you have control over is yourself and the things you do and feel.

Men are very funny things. Dont get me wrong there is nothing better then to have someone in your life who adores you just the way you are. Everyone wants that. But kiddo let me tell you how reality really is like. Many people are fortunate to find ir and others let it slip through their hands or worse it never finds them. Love exists but you cant wait for it to come to you. If you do then you are risking, never finding the person for you.

This guy, you are with him for a day and the next day he does not call you. And so you feel bad. Why? You regret what you did? Or do you say to yourself, what is wrong with me? Did he not like the way i looked? etc etc. Listen you have to have more confidence in yourself. Many people will read this and think I am harsh for speaking to you like this and or think i am too straight foward. Men like a woman with confidence. I dont care if you are 4000 lbs. Whether you appreciate yourself or not truly shows and men will treat you the same way you treat yourself.

So if you do not have confidence in yourself trust me it shows. So dont cry over this guy. You were happy before you met him, so why dwell on him now that he is gone when you were doing great without him. Trust me if the man that is in your life now is no good then sweety look around you because there are more men around. And trust me there are more men who are far better then that guy will ever be.

Again this is how i see it. Dont revolve your life on a man who is worth nothing and focus on you because people come and go in your life and the worst thing to do to yourself would be to kill yourself emotionally over something that is worth nothing. Remember if you let bad people ruin your life then you did it to yourself because you let it consume you.

And that is how i Break this down
Katie

email me if you agree or diagree

[nightwhispers28]

Great response Katie.

I find that so many woman (but not all) seem to depend on someone else..whether it be a man, her friends or the family she's around to tell her how much they love her and for her own emotional well being. That to me is part of the problem.

I have been single ten years.. but before that had two unhealthy long term relationships and one rebounder guy which was all physical and nothing more.

The bottom line I came to realize is that we create our own happiness as Katie said. Nobody else can do that for you except you. So my suggestion is.. if this guy hasn't called by now he probably won't. But I wouldn't spend days and nights worrying too much about it because you deserve better than what he chose to give.

It's hard and I know I have no right to say anything about this but having experienced what I have in the past, I've learned a lot of life lessons I hope other women will learn in their lives too. And the first is that I don't '
need' a man but I just 'want' one in life. That's a big difference.

Whatever happens know that you are a good person.