Issues ?

[charliesmile (deleted)]

marilynmonrobot wrote: `Probably cause general society/media/our peers has made us feel like the way we look isn't normal and isn't sexy and a lot of people carry those insecurities into adulthood. The fact that there [EDIT] are "closeted chubby chasers" out there kind of makes you feel like crap too. I'm very happy with myself and the way I look, but I've gotten/still get a lot of shallow comments made towards my body. There are a lot of shallow people out there.



i'll be the first to admit that i'm very shallow.
but i'd also like to make it clear that i am very much an out-of-the-closet fat admirer.
i'm shallow in that i never have, and never will date a small-sized girl. i'm just not attracted to them. it's the way i'm wired, and i make no apologies for my preferences.

[jrockin82]

`And see, that's the issue right there...Men who like BBW but are not comfortable with everyone (family, friends, society) knowing it. We have to do something about this guys, FOR REAL! If you love big women, you shouldn't be ashamed to be with them! More guys need to step up to the plate and let their families and friends know what they prefer, and tell society to kiss their butts!!! And as BBW, we have to understand how hard it is for men to "come out of the closet" (as the guy above me said). While most of us BBW have had a rough time from childhood into adulthood, it's EQUALLY as hard for men to "admit" what their dating/sexual preferences are. Imagine marrying a skinny woman, just because if you didn't, you'd be ridiculed for life from friends, and possibly family, and looked down upon by society. "You can get any girl you want, why are you with a 'fat chick'." It's been said, I've got a friend who married my ex best friend, and she's tiny. He admitted to me how unhappy he is, because he's not physically attracted to her. It causes so many problems for them. It's sad!!

[ginnjuice]

We were always perceived to be a certain way. Whether we can all blame it on society i dont know but of course that is a huge part of it. Its known that skinny women are more attractive, more healthy. Or least thats one big myth that has been around for years. But we live in a world that appreciates the skinny and looks down upon the bigger people. The issues come from others, from media and of course within ourselves. After all if we arent happy with our own self how do we expect others to be? If you are in your life with no issues and you feel great then i give you big kudos. Please teach me the way...

[southernfinery]

`If I may say something in way of an opinion.Do any of you remember your grandparent and/or parent saying something to the effect of"you would be so much prettier or handsome if you would just loose a few pounds"?How about the dreaded"don't you think you would look better and feel better if you were a little lighter?"So how can we expect society to except us when our own family matriarchs won't?It is a problem,a very real and a very hugh problem and it does need to be addressed.I wrote something about the Dr. Phil show that I think every person who is tried of the fatism and does see how it is getting dangerous for us should read and sign.We can make a change and it can start with one.Just push pass the negative doubt and say to yourself that you are worth fighting for and that if it takes me loving myself before anyone else will love me then so be it because you are beautiful and you are handsome and you will make a difference in every life you touch(hopefully for the better lol)