Dating with a broken heart

[gor_PREV (deleted)]

well you see.. it s a healing process.. hope it wont be too long witcha:)
Do whatever you can to speed this process up but never believe in " find someone new" BS... cause that doesnt work that way.. you gotta forget about the old one and start a new relationship,without revenges:)

[twistedlilpixie]

Well like anyone else I've had my heart broken a few times. It really only hurt uber bad with two men. However it is important to give yourself time to take care of yourself and think whats best for you. Jumping into something new so soon, well thats why its called a rebound. People on the rebound tend to do things they later regret. Also unfortunately there's a lot of men and women out there that will take advantage of someone's broken heart and use them for sex, money, gifts, etc. You have to be so careful because you're in such a fragile state when someone you actually love breaks you're heart. Its like you die on the inside, and you're looking for someone to breathe a little life back into you.

As for the cheating, that is total BS.That's one of the worst things someone can do to another person. Especially if they claim to love you. I have been cheated on in the past, and everyone was laughing at me because I was apparently the only one that didn't know. On top of that the guy started making up lies about me and talking a lot of trash. I later went to college over a year after we no longer spoke and I found out all his devious ways. I tried to make new friends, but guess what, they knew him. He had the nerve to spin the story around and say I treated him badly and that I was the one that cheated. Needless to say, those people no longer wanted to speak to me. If I had been the one that cheated, I'm enough of an adult to own up to it. However he was trying to play the victim when I was the one that got screwed over. Also if you're just looking to get with another woman in order to cheat on her and hurt her, than you're just as bad as your ex, if not worse. You know how bad it feels to be betrayed, then you say you want to turn around and do it to someone that has done nothing to you. Thats just being really childish.

Also I just have to add my opinion ( I always do ) but this mr hiwayman seem's so much like a misogynist in many of his posts. I mean honestly. If you think women are so terrible and evil, why are you on a site that is intended to make friends or find a partner. No woman is going to want to talk to you if you seem like a woman hater. Yes some of the women on here seem like man haters ( misandrists). I'm not trying to judge, just calling it as I see it.

" A friend to everyone, is a friend to no one"

[jesseh (deleted)]

princessofpink wrote: I just read the posts in the broken heart section. Do you think someone should be dating when they still have a broken heart or are not over their last relationship? Is it fair to anyone they should meet? Do you think that being with someone else can heal a broken heart?



No I think that's ahorrible idea. Because you'll just bring more than one person down. I think if your heart is mostly healed though it's alright. YOu know that feeling "*sigh* The one that got away...oh well life goes on - plenty of fish in the sea " That's when you can date again. But if you're still getting over it mainly and want to be with that person and think "If he/she calls and says they miss me...I Don't know if I'll be able to tell them never to talk to me again..." then you're sooo not ready

If you want a healthy relationship - wait til you're mentally healthy to have one! It's not right getting into a relationship with the aim to have someone ELSE -FIX- you.

INTJesseh

[acidiclemons (deleted)]

If you're in a condition where you hate men & want nothing to do with them, I don't think dating solves the problem. Hehe. Distraught type of broken hearts shouldn't date. But if you're trying to get over it & you're no hurting as much, but just need someone to get this person off your mind...I think it's fine. [:

[simple69]

`I am in need of someone to be easily heal from my past relationship.Talking regularly and a shoulder to cry on really helps.