computer sex? How common is it??

[mishafrydst (deleted)]

although I do have say that now that I have been thinking about it since you said that, I did have some guy in walmart in the middle of an aisle ask me if my hair umm... down there lol was the same color as on my head
completely randomly and totallly didnt know the guy, so i guess some people just have no shame, and im pretty brazen myself and that shocked me when he asked lol

[andriek]

`Ah, well I did say I would hope not. of course there are those that have no shame

[southernfinery]

`what ur talking about now goes beyond not having any shame.It is utterly appalling for some young man to approach any female and ask something so degrading like "does the carpet match the drapes".I mean how dare he ask something so private and ya know what my response would be right?I sure would simply ask him how did his mother answer that question when he asked her? Some of the young folks nowadays seem to be rolling along on arrogance and pride and in the book I read from it says that pride comes before destruction.It is also absolutely the most mindbending thing for these same folks to demand respect.How can anyone that talks like their mouths are hinged to a commode demand anything much less respect? Now if the woman that is being asked this ridiculous question answers then she is opening the door for more verbal abuse and assault on her womanhood.gbu all

[andriek]

`I agree with you southernfinery, I am also reminded of this comic, (removed) I thought this is a funny thing to say when some jerk ask

[mizcurious3 (deleted)]

`Very true, southerfinery. my friend did something like that. Being a red head, a guy about our age asked her the same question and sure enough she answered. I looked at her like wtf? Why did you do that. Then the guy went on to ask her if she had 15 min for him to find out for himself. She was appalled and so mad, and when she complained to me about it, I was like well why would you answer his question in the first place? That kinda gave him the go ahead, ask away.

[cookinbubbles]

`I was thinking, after reading all these comments, that maybe the anonymous aspect of the computer made it seem like cyber S-- was okay. After all who gets hurt if there is a some dirty talk and self...."manipulations" to a happy ending. I never realized that women have gotten asked, in a store yet. if the carpet matches the drapes( funny way to put that, southernfinery, ).
That takes balls and a lack of respect.
And maybe that is what it boils down to.

[larrythelamb (deleted)]

`cookinbubbles,
I am prepared to bet that these despicable men with no respect for a woman are all married!!!

[cookinbubbles]

`Oh my God!!!!!
I cannot believe my eyes. Hello Larrythelamb!!
LOL I am stunned to see someone closer to my age on this forum. And happy as well. I hope you come back often as it will be GREAT to have opinions for a wide variety of ages and backgrounds.
And frankly, I had wondered about that too, if the naughty talkers were married.
Its not that I think it is an awful thing to do, it just is not MY thing to do, especially with someone I barely spoke to.
Again, welcome Larry.

[adrenelite (deleted)]

Hello, I'm new here but I just thought I'd comment that it seems that most people (men more often than not) see cybersex as an easier way to approach their chosen "target" (per se) to see if they are into --- kinkiness (mainly just to get their rocks off). If they get shot down, they move on the next person without too much social awkwardness, knowing that they never met the person sitting behind their computer screen. I've experienced this with a lot of women i've met on social networking sites who are extremely cautious talking to new guys because of stuff like this. It's ridiculous, but hey, if you learn to just ignore it and move on to the next person without dwelling on it, you should be cool not all us guys are internet perverts. Sorry random off-tangent rant, but these first time cybersex encounters are so popular these days that it's a wonder that anyone still gets shocked from it. Just my 2 cents

[southernfinery]

`If I may add one more thing pls and ty.On this cybersex thing being so popular,I guess it is for some but I have listened to some no so nice stories on this very thing.For example there is a woman who met someone online on another site I go to where camming up is just a common thing because of all the different rooms in the adult section or the friendship section or even in some of the music rooms.In the adult rooms you can be assured that if you turn on someones cam then 9 times out of 10 they are naked and in some cases wanking.Ok back to story,this young woman became very interested in the young man(wasn't me but indeed was a redhead) so when he suggested they get a private room and cam up she agreed.Now after a few times of doing this together he eases the request in about him watching her wank.She believing it is only him that is going to watch agrees but it wasn't just him.Now she has her face on some else's computer on save and also her extremely private parts.She was devastated but yet I wondered how she could be when indeed she got on her cam doing it knowing she had no control of his cam.I thought maybe these folks might see this as an opportunity to engage in something like a one night stand but without the actual exchange of body fluids so therefore no danger to their physical health but isn't there still the knowing that you have engaged in a private thing with a total stranger?Isn't this still whoring and doesn't the feeling of being used still register if not immediately after then eventually? On this site there are some pretty cool rooms like the music rooms I mentioned which include blues and jazz and country.They have rooms for people wanting to karokeing(excuse my spelling pls) and there are religious rooms as well as help topics like pc savvy stuff.If you ever feel like meeting folks from all over the world(literally) while sitting and listening to the same music or making use of some PALTALK then you should try it.gbu all

[cookinbubbles]

`I must have been living under a rock! I NEVER would have thought of the camera thing and that girl "wanking" to a bunch of guys, not just one. ewwwww!
Poor girl to be led on but you are right, she sort of went into the whole thing not thinking.

My feeling is this. If thats your thing, more power to you.
I personally want a an intimate encounter to include a real live person in the same room( aren't I just the picky old thing!) sans computer keyboard, camera and monitor.

On another note...PALTALK sounds interesting. will have to check it out.

[obsequium (deleted)]

`I believe 'nipping it in the bud' is the best possible philosophy, if you find it genuinely offensive. If I noticed those 'oh-so-subtle' signs that my conversational partner was attempting to steer the conversation down /that/ road, then I would remind them I have no interest in it. I feel there's no need to give someone the 'benefit of the doubt' as it were, as most people should be able to understand that when you're not that familiar with one another a simple error can be made. The times I've expressed disinterest have always met with understanding from men; most of them are cognizant of the sheer number of creeps online.

Furthermore, I think it has little to do with prudish-ness, I have no issues at all with people who choose to engage in cybersex, but I don't feel that those that don't should feel 'out of the loop' either.. it's your choice what you do. Whatever works for you.

[mishafrydst (deleted)]

`Hey all it's been awhile, I have been out of the loop lol just wanted to comment and say I totally agree southernfinery that girls just shouldnt respond to that kind of ridiculousness. I just gave him my "what are you stupid" look and turned around and walked down the other end of the aisle. I think some people (and not just men) dont think before things come out of their mouth, and others just think its either acceptable or hey if i ask maybe ill get some lol. (both lead me to believe it stems from ignorance and or stupidity) love the comic btw andriek, too funny
have a happy sunday all