Do you contact people that interest you or do you just

[cookinbubbles]

keep looking at the profiles?
I was cruising through profiles tonight and realized that I was seeing the same old people.
Some have interested me and I have contacted a few. Some do not respond at all(rude!) and some do but I am so reluctant to make the first move.
How many of you feel that way or do you just dive in and hope for the best??

[girlhasgot2eat]

`First off, hello fellow Minnesotan!

I just joined up yesterday and I have no idea what to expect, but I didn't join here to be a lurker. If someone interests me even in the slightest, I will send a message. I just wish more people interested me! I should probably change my name to FatandPicky.

Anyway, why are you reluctant to make the first move?

[andriek]

`If someone looked interesting I did would tried to send them a message. I don't really need to now. I just answer anyone who email me now.

[southernfinery]

`I have looked at a few profiles after I noticed that they had looked at mine but I didn't contact them.I don't really know why I didn't.I would think they were interesting but I couldn't bring myself to type something.I leave it at it just wasn't meant to be.

[cookinbubbles]

`interesting trio of replies....
I am reluctant, I guess, because...okay so i really don't know. LOL Shy I guess. To know me in person you would not think I am shy but sometimes it is very hard to just let it all hang out, so to speak.
Some of me is very old fashioned and some of me is part fairly modern so I feel out of place sometimes.
What REALLY kills me is the ones who either I contacted, or they contacted me and when they e-mail, it is 2 short sentences and one of the sentences is ."Hope to hear from you soon." Like they cannot bring themselves to talk about anything.
I am rambling. Sorry.......LOL Apparently I don't know what the hell I want.

[sharlie27]

`I am still new to the site so i am doing a little lurking about but if someone emails me i reply. I am hoping to get braver and make that first contact. I was always taught the guy makes the first move,phone call,contact...but this is a new age and it must be embraced...that's my two cents...not sure its worth that much ;)

[andriek]

`well it is just some people on this is shy. I know a certain someone that can vouch for that.

[mizcurious3 (deleted)]

`Haha... Believe me, I used to hope the guy would make the first move just because it is so nerve wrecking. But when I finally found someone I was very interestd in, all the nerves went away. Lol... It was more like, let's try to get him to be less shy. Haha..

[jerrym1976 (deleted)]

`well , i used to take the time to contact everyone that interested me. then i figured out that i am just so incredibly unattractive that i didn't have a prayer with any of them! and after that i just dont waste my time. i just look and stare and think to myself "WOW she would be worth the fighting for , i wonder, naa she woldn't waste her time oh well , would have been a hell of a catch though"
and i guess thats fine with me, after all its not like any of the women on the internet REALLY want to be loved, no they would rather sit right there behind that puter screen and hide cause they are afraid of rejection.
and so i use these sites for one purpose only, CHEAP ENTERTAINMENT!!
don't get me wrong if a woman expresses an interest in me , i would move heavan and earth to be there, but i aint exactly holding my breath

[cookinbubbles]

`LOL, I sort feel that way too, Jerry. i have never felt attractive, ever. Oh I am friendly and funny when the occasion calls for it but I have never felt attractive. And sometimes, when I do get the guts to contact some one and nothing happens, the first thought that comes into my mind is , "yeah, bet he took one look at the profile photo and ran."
What I have found on this site is not cheap entertainment, although there is that, but I think I have made a few friends on the forum and that feels nice.

And you know what, those ladies hiding behind those computer screens do want to be loved but they hide because they are afraid of rejection too.

[jerrym1976 (deleted)]

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[jerrym1976 (deleted)]

`well i understand that ....rejection.... sorta.......and yes sometimes its even debilitating but there comes a time when they can either hide forever , or do something about it. and it just seems to be that when times are hard they all just hide. and i know what you mean about looking at your profile and run, thats what they do with me 2. i dunno though i suppose its nice to have friends but they usually suck because when your down they just abandon you like all the rest. but i suppose i should make a blog post about our wonderful throw away world! you know ,friends that abandon you when you are to much trouble, steal you fiancee, wives that leave after they lose a parent, and say its all your fault, and just as you are getting over them , they come back to suck the very life out of you ....... oh yes sublime subject for my latest JERRY'S RANTS blog on truckerpassions. have you been keeping up with them?

[sharlie27]

`Jerry..cynic much? I know life throws us hard knocks...trust me I KNOW...but you have to be better than that...Don't hide behind your profile as you say the women are doing. I have to say as a woman on the internet...yes I want to be loved and am looking to find someone....I've been in love before and I miss it. The getting hurt and burned part..not so much...but being in love is great. So cheer up darlin...there is hope...and friends are good...I am hoping to make some good ones on here.

[jerrym1976 (deleted)]

yes , but i think the term that fits best would be just ..... jaded, very very jaded. i guess thats what fits.
i guess right now i feel , and have for sometime felt like an absolute failure.
my X-wife divorced me ....... well she says one thing but her actions say another. so i say she left because the gravy train ride was over. when she met me she was 329 pounds and broke living on ssi in a section 8 apartment and no hope of anything more than growing old alone with her cat . then she met me . and i took her for one hell of a ride and she found out what it was like to have it good. then in march of 09 we lost the truck&trailer , the house and the gravy train ride was over then she lost her grandma and mom all in the space of about 4 months. so when the going got tough SHE LEFT !
then onto the scene steps the x girlfriend, as far as i was concerned things were working out just fine till she met my best friend. he is 60 years old and going through a divorce. overweight not very attractive and generally a real slob , but hey thats just dave , and he was my best friend. till one day the manipulation started , then she left me for him. so i am more than ready to move on and find that right woman to spend the rest of my life with but , after you get your teeth kicked in from 4 failed marriages , and have the girlfriend leave you for your best friend. yes you do become a little bit cynical. and somewhere along the line , after the first divorce you look real hard in the mirror and examine yourself and find out what is wrong with "me", what did "I" do wrong , because lets face facts if i did everything right i would still be married, and the old excuse it was her fault just sounds a little hollow.
personally i would just like to find one woman that i can trust not to hit the bricks when things get tough

[pussinboots (deleted)]

`Well, one has to look at the profile to see if the person has any similarities or anything of interest. That's not stalking. And, if I look at a profile but don't send a message, it might just be for the simple reason that the person is too young, old, etc. for my liking. I don't think it's necessary to send a message to someone who's profile I just looked at. I don't get messages from said people either.