why?

[sarahwho2002_PREV (deleted)]

luvmbignbrainy wrote: It's not just large people who are lonely. Go to one of those conventional dating sites and you will see lots of desperate people of all sizes. I get winks and whispers from lots of thin women --they seem not to believe me when I tell them I have no interest in a skinny woman.

I can also relate to highwayman's comments. My ex-wife is mentally ill and made my life and my son's life hell for many years as well as ruining us financially. I am very skittish of getting involved with anyone and I have a long list of red flags that scare me off. Sad and probably unfair but that's the way it is.

Yeah, but it's not just women that mess up men's life, it's vice-a-versa too! And I have red flags, or triggers as I call them that scare me off.

I am just as romantic as I was when I was younger, but a little smarter too. It's hard finding someone as we get older, but the "right" someone is out there....just waiting to be discovered and "re" loved!

[bigbearhugz (deleted)]

I just read the post by Hiwayman and cannot agree more, I spent my good years, all my money, and health trying to be the perfect husband to my ex-wife, and in the end when I needed something back in return, I was greated with a devorce, the loss of my house, and even worse details I cannot post here.

As men we are tired of the man bashing and hypocrisy we face on a day to day basis where you're damnd if you do damnd if you don't, and after all you've invested you're left with nothing to show for it.

I honestly am finding it very diffacult to believe there are women out there who actualy care about anyone but themselves anymore.

[2rainbow (deleted)]

We can't be the 'perfect' anything for another person; we can only strive to become who we are intended to be.

Stop looking for someone to fill the spaces in your life.
Stop thinking that having someone in your life will complete you.
Stop blaming others for where you are in your life's walk.

Own your choices--learn from them--make new choices and move forward.
Own your life--all of it.
Own your emotions and actions.

Amazing experiences await...[/size]

[sthrndelight_PREV (deleted)]

hiwayman wrote: The older a man gets the more causious he gets. When he is young he has a lot of romantic fantacies. But after the kids,divorce,and ruined in court he starts looking at women in a whole different lite. She no longer is the best thing that ever happened to him. She can mean the end of him emotionally and financially. So he is VERY carefull about who he will "date". Her attitude will be looked at more closely. As well as her reputaion from previous relationships. Male bashing is common place now a days. Men are sick of it. They are also sick of constantly hearing how tough these single mothers have it. Men have it just as tough. I gave up dating years ago.Instead of complaining about the lack of men in your life. Maybe you should atart looking as to why?? I know a lot of men my age that have givin up on dating. The consequences for chosing wrong can take years to overcome if kids are involved.

i just had to comment on this one...ok,i can see why you feel the way you do to a degree but is it fair to place all women in the same category?..i for one before my husband died,we were talking divorce and i told him i wanted nothing from him except my belongings,no money or anything else..i didn't work and still don't but i wanted nothing...so tell me now,are you being fair to me and others just because you was raked thru the coals?...no,your not but thats ok...i know the type of woman i am and how i am with the man in my life so i can hold my head up high and smile knowing that...i too like so many other women am looking a lot closer at men too...as for me i know what i want out of life and hope to find it again someday but i'm not gonna try so hard to find it anymore,just gonna let him find me...i'm staying on this site for the forums and because i really don't go out much and if by chance i should come across a man that wants to get to know me for ME and not what or whom i could be then i'll go from there,till then,here i am commenting.lol...

[hiwayman (deleted)]

Well comment on there sth
delight . Facts are facts. As you can tell I'm not the only male here that feels this way. You gals think you have us ALL figured out. Well then explain why your so alone then. It takes 2 to make or break a relationship. So far all thats ever heard is your side. You complain that we men won't talk about about how we feel. yet the only time you listen is when we feel the way you want us to feel. All I've heard for most of my life is womens complaints. There never satisfied for long.In the news recently they said that 51% of women in America are single and on their own. Now if you 51% would convince the other 49% to live alone it would be a HUGE step towards WORLD PEACE. OK back to the " Man Show" LOL

[funredefined (deleted)]

nightwhispers28 wrote: Join the club. At least it's two years for you and not ten years or more like me. I'm only 33 and not getting any younger Good luck finding the right guy there.. and when you do, send his twin down south here will ya?

I find you amazing .... the response was cool and I think when you find your partner you would sure realize that the waiting was worth it. I like you! Wish you were closer to me!

[thechef (deleted)]

After readin this thread the Chef would like to offer some advice for the lovelorn.

The Chef has made sweet love to many fine plump ladies but the Chef ain't got no wood for the super sized ones, God bless em. The Chef think perhaps that many other men are not highly attracted to the super size girls like they be attracted to a super sized meal. There are other who think it is only more of a good thing.

Us men folks be likin the sistas a bit on the thick side like a porterhouse steak and plump like a fine sausage but when a lady become so overly abundant that she loses her womanly appearance brothas like the Chef become less than excited by the prospect of makin sweet love to a lady who would present a less womanly sillhouette.

You fine ladies in the 200+ pound range might want to be considerin cut back on the groceries some till you get your more girlish figures back.

The Chef is a degreed professional with much study of culinary nutrition. With that said, the Chef ywould be more than happy to offer you fine ladies some eatin tips and food preparation suggestions that will allow you to become more shapely.

Cordially,

The Chef

[harpreet928 (deleted)]

silkee wrote:
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Here is a poem I wrote,wanted to share it!~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~




"Heat Of Passion"

Do you love me?
Show me
Do you ache to touch me?
Ask and you shall receive

Does your heart race
when you think of me?
Come to me
and let me calm it.

Do your hands tremble
when your body craves me?
Let them wander
slowly across my skin,

Do I give you a fever that
you find hard to control?
Let me satisfy you
and release the fire deep within.

I'm in your mind,
body and soul
You can have me
hold me tight and don't let go!

SILKEE i appreciate your words in the poem was exactly my story
when i was in love
but i guess atleast for me there is no true love in this world
but i still do want to appreciate ur poem although it was posted in 2006 and today is 2010
so happy belated new year wishes
bye dear