Profile Help

[daydreamer86 (deleted)]

I think it'd be an alright idea for people to help others with their profiles. Like have you ever looked at someone's profile and it was looking pretty good until they said one thing and it totally turned you off? Or the ones that say something like "I don't know how to right these things so just message me" I think, why would I message you if all I realy have a picture to go by. IDK. I think it might be a cool idea so if you look at my profile and have any pointers I'd be greatful. Plus if you have a question as to why I put something in there I'd be happy explain.

[89shifty (deleted)]

`Ehh... It's nice to "help" people with profiles I guess. Personally, I don't put everything in my "About Me" because I like conversation. The way I see it, if you can talk to someone, you can learn about them and then later decide if you want to continue to chat with them , other than seeing something on their profile, not liking any of it, and not giving the person the time of day. That's just my p.o.v.

[andriek]

` I agree with you 89shifty. We all learn more in a conversation than a akward self description. I actually realized a while back that there are more in talking conversation than I think people realized. The reason I say talking is because my prefered medium to talk on is the written word alot of the time. I began to notice some miscommunication between me and the people I was talking to. It was because the words themselves had a meaning but the tone, inflection, and body language also gives the word more meaning than the just the word by itself could. I didn't noticed this much, I would infer what the intended tone was on what my friends were writting and I guess they didn't, or got it wrong.

..... I think I went off on a little tangent there. But for the subject, with me, I would look for word use in their description a lot of the time, what they wanted or looking for, and just any other details that would stand out to me.

As for what I wrote about myself, I tried to keep it organized and flowing. But also did a best summation about myself.

I like that your use the * to seperate topics out, and I can't really think of any suggestions

[daydreamer86 (deleted)]

I agree that it is way better to learn about a person through conversation but if you don't really put anything into your descriptions what are you basing your interest on? The picture. I know it sounds cliche but I really base most of my attraction on personality. I've seen someone that looked alright and got to know them and became really attracted to them.

I'm not looking your life story on here, it's more fun to find that out one-on-one. But you have to put something to spark my interest.

[cookinbubbles]

`I personally find most profiles almost identical, except for the ones who are very specific about what they are looking for.
What I find interesting is that many men do NOT fill out thier preferences so when you contact a hot looking prospect, you find out you are in the wrong area, or not the right weight(either too heavy or not heavy enough) or in some cases, not long haired enough or what ever.
One fellow on this forum started a topic on just that problem, how he couldn't seem to connect with anyone decent but his prefernces were totally blank.
duh!
I agree with daydreamer86. Pictures! Please! And for Gods sake, smile.
There are some I have seen that look freakin' scary so who the heck would want to date them, much less contact them.
A smile transforms anyones face into a thing of beauty.

[andriek]

` Yea, that is my problem when I am infront of a camera I don't like to smile. I prefer to behind it

[xbubblyx]

cookinbubbles wrote: `I personally find most profiles almost identical, except for the ones who are very specific about what they are looking for.
What I find interesting is that many men do NOT fill out thier preferences so when you contact a hot looking prospect, you find out you are in the wrong area, or not the right weight(either too heavy or not heavy enough) or in some cases, not long haired enough or what ever.
One fellow on this forum started a topic on just that problem, how he couldn't seem to connect with anyone decent but his prefernces were totally blank.
duh!
I agree with daydreamer86. Pictures! Please! And for Gods sake, smile.
There are some I have seen that look freakin' scary so who the heck would want to date them, much less contact them.
A smile transforms anyones face into a thing of beauty.

I've noticed the same thing. Just being curious little me, I checked out some of the guys on here and noticed how many look pissed off or bored. Now their collection of photos will contain a smile or two, but they choose a "grumpy" one as their default. Smiles are a lot more inviting than a scowl. If I were looking for a date on here, I'd much like to take my chances on a guy who had a happy picture, because it would seem less likely that he'd be a jerk to me if he wasn't interested. Besides, a smile is anyone's best accessory : )