why so much bull?

[southernfinery]

I mean I for one don't believe there is one single guy on this bbw and bhm site that would choose a plus size woman over a slender one if they were presented with the choice.Even the ones claiming they like the full-figured girls end up in private conversation asking questions like"why don't you just lose it"or "don't you think you would feel better if you lost a few pounds?"or my fav."you would look so much better if you were like 10 lbs lighter". So why the bull?Come on tell me because I really want a man to stand up and be a man on here right now and admit that he is only on this site looking for S-- and could care less about the person inside the shell.Oh and pls pls do tell me how I am such a bitter woman or how I only see the bad but the bottom line is I can look at myself in the mirror and I know that I don't look for the easy button in everything and the most important thing is that I won't use another human being.

[sheevaa]

`Sure you're bitter, but I luv ya, anyway SF:-D

I am going to disagree though. I don't think everyone's preferences are completely copy and pasted. While a man might think Megan Fox is the s---, they might also look at Kim Kardashian or Jennifer Hudson, too.

My own tastes run for larger men, than chiseled muscle-men. Give me a line-backer physique over Arnie any day. I love that safe and secure feeling a big man gives me. Not to mention big broad shoulders and a nice behind!

Doesn't mean I don't look at Hugh Jackman or Johnny Depp, too!

Come on SF, don't be grouchy, not all men are jackasses:P

[southernfinery]

`my dear sweet sheeva ty so much for your post and as you raise valid points about personal perferences which I do agree with I have found that the ones that are on this particular bbw and bhm site say they are only interested in bbw's and ssbbw's but yet the forums are filled with bbw's saying that they only get contacted from those looking for s--.Now being this site promotes large people as per the title"large passions"then I say why not admit that they are only looking for sex?Why try to slip in on the pretense of really caring about the large woman?I honestly can say that I am interested in the big guys but I wouldn't be on this site if I weren't.Personal perference plays a big part in how you view others of course,but so does honesty.You yourself said in another post on a different forum that you weren't really on this site to meet potential dates,is that because you have found some rather dishonest guys saying one thing in their profiles but actually meaning something different when you speak directly with them?Come on sheeva even you have to get fed up with the bull on here and seeing so many beautiful women leaving this site because these guys are lying to themselves first then to us saying they are really into and like bbw's but truthfully are only looking for a quick and easy lay to hold them over till they meet the real kind of women they are looking for.btw Kim kardashian is far from being a bbw imo.ty again sheeva for ur post

[mallet]

`I agree partially...alot of us dudes do judge solely on looks,alot of us are only looking for sex,and alot of us will lie to attain that...but just like with everything there is another side to the coin...some of us actually do give a s--- about whats on the inside more than the outside,and some of us are actually honest. Just dont let the bad ones get you so down,just ignore them and keep looking for a good one. And by what im saying i prolly sound like one of the @ssh*le guys trying to lull you into trusting them but real talk,i have nothing to gain from lying to you,and you asked for someone to be a man and be honest so I am. Bottom line there are good people in the world,you just gotta remember that they are harder to find.

[southernfinery]

`hi mallet and ty for your post.No I won't group you into any group as I have learned in my 44 plus yrs to give everyone a chance.If you say you aren't like most on here then I will give you the benefit of the doubt and in all sincerety I hope and pray you find the one you seek.I wish everyone could be head over heels inlove and I honestly mean that so pls pls don't think I am being a smartbutt.Thank you also for the validation.I promise not to give up.ty again and gbu

[southernfinery]

`hi mr.jimclure it's so nice to see you again but I must tell you that words that could be entertained as being your own thoughts put to type would be greatly appreciated as I for one don't click on links put into forums for unknowns so I sincerely hope noone else does either but again the effort(or lack thereof) was greatly appreciated

[sheevaa]

` Quote: You yourself said in another post on a different forum that you weren't really on this site to meet potential dates,is that because you have found some rather dishonest guys saying one thing in their profiles but actually meaning something different when you speak directly with them?

You're right, I did say that. The reason why though isn't because men are jerks. It's because none of 'em live near me, lol! There's a grand total of 5 or so guys on this site that live in Winnipeg and most of them haven't been on in months. Frankly though, most of the guys I have talked with on here are pretty nice guys, there's just no possibility of dating.

I like to gab though, and you guys are good to gab with, so here I stay anyway.

As for Kim not being a BBW, I was more giving a scale of women's sizes that men might be attracted to. You can't say that woman doesn't have major curves to her:P
I know a lot of guys aren't interested in BBW's, that's their right. I'm not attracted to short men. The guy could be the most wonderful man in the world, but he wouldn't be as attractive to me as a guy who is 6'0. You can't shoehorn a person into liking what you think they should like, just to suit political correctness.

Yeah, I got tired of men walking all over me, treating me like a S-- toy, good for nothing else. I just don't involve people like that in my life, anymore. I consider it my choice if I allow jackasses to bring me down.

Anyway, sorry for this being so long, but you know me, I'm long-winded. :P

[sheevaa]

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[southernfinery]

`ty sheeva for posting again and btw ur pretty good to gab with also.So what if we don't agree on everything,life would be pretty mundane if we did.In any case there is a post under the introduction forum from a guy in boston,give it a read and let me know what you think.I,like you,have met some people online here and elsewhere lol and honestly this topic I have put up isn't from my own personal experiences.Frankly I don't have anything to compare it to however I have been reading the forums and the main topic seems to be from former members that couldn't get anyone to even say hello to them.I thought and still do that the title large passions meant that you had a passion for large people.I guess I could be wrong but I honestly don't think I am,not about the title anyway wink.Your a beautiful woman sheeva and don't you settle for less then you need in your life ok cause it would break my heart to see that happen.hugs to you and may gbu friend..........leigh

[wachubbyluvr (deleted)]

OK, I know I am new here, and I am sorry if I over step my bounds, but your initial post kind of offended me. I have always found a plus size woman more beautiful than a skinny woman, and most of my relationships have proven that. With all the crap I got my whole life, until recently when it's more acceptable now, for you to say we would always choose some skinny chick is bothersome.

[mooseuk]

southernfinery wrote: I mean I for one don't believe there is one single guy on this bbw and bhm site that would choose a plus size woman over a slender one if they were presented with the choice.


Sorry but you're wrong.

[jjmcclure (deleted)]

southernfinery wrote: `hi mr.jimclure it's so nice to see you again but I must tell you that words that could be entertained as being your own thoughts put to type would be greatly appreciated as I for one don't click on links put into forums for unknowns so I sincerely hope noone else does either but again the effort(or lack thereof) was greatly appreciated



Firstly its a wikipedia link but I will quote the text here for you. Understand this is not something condone but just something I think ladies should be aware of. I think its offensive.



Quote: Hogging refers to the practice of groups of men who target overweight or obese women, typically for s----l encounters.

Unlike fat fetishists, men who participate in hogging are not necessarily se---lly attracted to obese women's bodies; they aim to take advantage of a female's stereotypical low self esteem or to provide comedy to themselves and their friends by engaging in s----l activities with women who are overweight. In fraternities, hogging refers to a game which is won by the pledge who returns to the fraternity house with the "fattest female who can be found."


Sorry for the hit and run posting earlier. Now I would like to answer your original question.

I would take the physically fit person given the choice BUT that does not mean that I am here looking for S-- either. Life is not that black and white. I know you said you did not want to be called bitter but I have to say choosing to demonize someone based on their personal s----l proclivities does nothing to support you not being bitter. I know several guys who outright prefer larger women, but for me I prefer smaller women. That doesn't mean I would discount someone outright due to their size I have to meet someone before I can decide and I will be straight up that I have discounted just as many smaller girls as I have larger girls. I will also be honest and say that there is just a point in size where I am not physically attracted to a woman and no matter how charming or wonderful she is it is not happening.

You're heart is in the right place but I will say this your attitude sucks and your writing teems with anger towards men and no matter how fat or skinny you are that attitude of yours is a huge turn off.

JJ

P.S. I will be posting a story in BHM issues that I find amusing that happened to me I think it will help the ladies understand they are not the only ones who have issues.

[southernfinery]

`to wachubbyluvr I thank you for ur post and if I offended u I apologize.If you say that you perfer us thicker girls to the skinny ones then I will believe you because as I stated in another post I have learned to give folks the benefit of the doubt and not to judge a book by it's cover.I wish you much success in your search here.There are some real classy ladies here on large passions which as the title seems to dictate to most it is a site for meeting people of the bigger frames.........Hi mooseuk how are you doing today?I have noticed and read some of ur posts and find them enlightening and well written.If you say I am wrong then I will assume you mean from your own standpoint of view and to that I say bravo and I will gladly except being wrong in that case.Thank you for posting and I look forward to reading more of your posts.tc and gbu guys.............mr.jim clure you are an example of what I wrote about on here.You say your more attracted to the slimmer girls so why are you on this site?Why did you find it necessary to post that awful crap that you say is from a wikipedia site.Why would they put that crap on an informative site because their is no info in that except how to walk all over another human being for entertainment purposes.You know the colleges have really gone downhill since I was there but that was a lifetime ago and I am thankful I don't have to deal with a bunch of spoil rotten degenerates that find prostitution and and public drunkedness at the top of their to do list for college experiences.

[jjmcclure (deleted)]

Quote: Why did you find it necessary to post that awful crap that you say is from a wikipedia site.Why would they put that crap on an informative site because their is no info in that except how to walk all over another human being for entertainment purposes.

I post it because ladies need to be aware of the horrendous things that can happen to them, if you would have read my post you would've have seen the comment that I find this practice offensive. The world is an ugly place, full of evil people and everyone needs to be aware.

Quote: you are an example of what I wrote about on here.You say your more attracted to the slimmer girls so why are you on this site?

I'm sorry who died and left you gate keeper here? You need a reality check sweetheart. Your attitude is no less offensive than the attitude of the people who discriminate against fat people. So what if I am more attracted to more physically fit women, I unlike you am not going to eliminate someone as a mate based solely on their physical appearance.

Quote: You know I looked at your profile awhile back and thought naw this guy wouldn't respone kindly but would rather attack when he thought he was in the focus of the camera so to speak

I attacked no one, you attacked males who had a different preference than you think they should and then cry foul when someone calls you out. Sorry but if you cannot take criticism maybe you should think twice before hitting the submit button on your next venomous post.

Quote: next time you feel like commenting on my attitude DON'T because where I come from opinions are like backsides wherein everyone has one.

Duly noted, I have emailed the administrator of this site so they can update the Terms of Service to include the below:

"Southernfinery is above all reproach she is free to spew offensive, bitter, man hate filled posts all over these forums and no one is allowed to criticize her. Anyone caught violating this rule will be subject to an incoherent, rambling post that is devoid of grammar, punctuation and paragraphs."


Quote: sooooooooo ok enough said

No, now enough has been said.

[southernfinery]

`no I don't think you posted that quote for any other reason then to attack the larger ladies.I stand by my post to your post and will continue to post as long as I like.If you don't like what I put in my post then don't read it,(notice punctuation here?)much like I did with your post in the bhm forum(notice another punctuation here also lol)meaning I didn't read it and I have no intention of reading.Thank you jim for reporting me to the administrator but I am curious and therefore I must ask a question if you don't mind?ok ty;