How many men are on here just to get laid?

[ghostdriver (deleted)]

Well thank you, Sheevaa. I was afraid my comment would have the LONGTERMRELATIONSHIP torch mob chasing me through the streets and burning me in effigy chanting "Not one of us...Not one of us!" One size does not fit all. True in shoes and in life.

[semosweetie]

[quote]Are you SURE about that? Personally, I don't know ANY slim women who go for fat men. You often see slim men with a bigger women, but how often do you see a slim woman walking around with a big fat bloke? NEVER, that's how often, so I think you have that back to front.

[semosweetie]

`I see this all the time here BHM with skinny girls maybe its just in the UK its not

[easilyamusedor (deleted)]

mooseuk wrote: Maybe if BBWs gave the BHMs a chance instead of only wanting to find slim men, they wouldn't encounter this problem as much. The majority of slim men on BBW dating sites are here because they think BBWs are an easy lay.



I have to honestly say, that on other sites when I was contacted by an attractive thin man, I was very gun shy,especially when they would go on and on about how much into fitness and excersize they were ( I'm obviously NOT into fitness all that much )

I am more into who you are than what you are yet I have found that I am less inhibited with a BHM, and just more comfortable with them. I really want to find someone I can relate to, and I think BHM's and I can relate to quite a bit when it comes to dating and people's perceptions of us.

And I totally agree with you that men on dating sites go after woman of size thinking we are easy, I met a few over the last year and that is indeed all they were after for the most part.

[t74]

mooseuk wrote: Maybe if BBWs gave the BHMs a chance instead of only wanting to find slim men, they wouldn't encounter this problem as much. The majority of slim men on BBW dating sites are here because they think BBWs are an easy lay.



I prefer to date guys who are BHMs over men who are thin. I dated a guy who was thin once and when he hugged me it just felt really awkward.

Then again my aunt was my size and the man she married and stayed married to up until the day she died was very on the slim side...I guess it all just depends.

[t74]

repunzal123 wrote: `I agree. I am sick of people assuming I am an easy lay juust because I am fat! My morals don't get thrown to the wind because I have some extra meat on my bones.



Exactly...I had a guy offered to give me a tattoo for free if I would have --- with him...I told him I pass.

[southernfinery]

`It doesn't help that there are skinny women on a site for bbw's and bhm's that are only looking for --- and charging by the minute apparently.Alot of them are in college.What does that tell you?There are hookers online and so alot of these guys think all women online are just here to get ---.I know it's disgusting and shouldn't be allowed.

[truckerjerry (deleted)]

LADIES PAGE 4 AND PEREARE FOR A SHOCK!!!!!!
i am about to make 7 statements that you think you understand about us men. then i will with the help of a woman that did alot of research i will take you from surface knowledge to the practical truths of what it really means through the eyes of a man.. hold on to your brain
1...men need respect.
men would rather feel alone and unloved than inadiquate and disrespected!!!
2...men are insecure
dispite our "in control"exteriors us men often feel like imposters and are insecure that our inadequacies will be discovered!!
3...men want to be a provider.
even if you personally made enough income to support the familys lifestyle ,it would make no difference to the mental burden he feels to provide!!!
4... men want more ---.
your ------ desire for your man PROFOUNDLY effects his sense of well being and confidence in all areas of his life!!!!
5...men are visual..
what that means though is that even happily married men struggle with being pulled towards live or recalected images of other women!!!
6... men are unromantic clods.
but in actuallity most men enjoy romance, sometimes in different ways and want to be romantic but hesitate because they dbout they can succeed!!!
7... men care about appearance...
but what that really means is that you dont need to be a size 3 but your man does need to see you making the effort to take care of yourself and he will be willing to take on significant cost or inconvenience in order to support you in this area especially!!!

[southernfinery]

`ty truckerjerry for that insight and I hope ur truths from a woman didn't come from luciouscamilla because she is by the hr.....ur first statement rains true for both sexes and for the same reason imo.ur second analogy is also a unisex truth but only to a point as I don't believe all ppl are consumed with feelings of insecurity but I do find that this insecurity is almost always a major factor for overeating and therefore for obesity.ur third truth is one I find a little harder to absorb as being a truth because of the many of young and older men that are getting women pregnant and leaving them holding the bag or shall I say bags being she must provide emotionally as well as financially thereafter.It takes two to make a child and it can be overwhelming but yet the child has to be provided for nonetheless.So for this mental burden he feels to provide does he possess the ability to just turn it off at will?ur fourth truth about men wanting more --- well again that could be claimed by both sexes except the woman seems to want to take the time to bake the cake before putting the icing on imo.I think I can say with a fair amount of certainty that there are quit a few women with libidos to match most men and even those that don't charge by the hour but they do expect respect and they aren't willing to give it away like it's an old coat or a pair of shoes to be passed on.ur fifth truth about men being visual well so what,I mean are you saying men are lead around by their eyesight and only gravitate to the shiny things like raccoons?I think a truth such as this one is one well thought up excuse for some guys who are in a committed relationship to have an out for when they get caught ----ing after forbidden fruit so to speak.There are those men that can't see at all so how are they visual.We are a species that walks upright and therefore we will all be visual at some time or another if for no other reason then for the simple fact we walk by at eye level.I appreciate ur thoughts and I await ur other two truths.

[southernfinery]

`oops it seems you did provide two more so I apologize.Let's see ur sixth truth states men are romantic clods ok I will except that.Ur seventh truth says that men care about appearence does that mean theirs or ours?I think this is also true for both sexes and maybe this ties in with ur visual statement.In any case ty for the insight.

[truckerjerry (deleted)]

`the difference between a man and an animal is often the ability to control himself. i have never spoken to this camilia lady yet but dont worry my bull sh*t detector works well .
as for some men getting a woman prego then hittin the bricks? well i can only speculate but i would guess that either they did not have a father figure or they did not have a good one.

i would like to offer however that no matter what role model a man has been given as a child then a young man THEY CAN OVERCOME IT! i am the way i am because i realize my flaws then make an effort not to do what is wrong and wait to respond in a relationship till i find whats right. sometimes it may take a while but this way has never led me wrong.
its all about choices what do people CHOOSE to be ,CHOOSE to do , CHOOSE to say . you get my drift here i am sure

ok i must modify my post a bit here....
"men" that get a woman knocked up then take off or, sit on their --- at home collecting the sorry check or claim to be mentally "disabled" so they dont need a JOB are just worthless losers, and i cant explain why they do what they do because i cant relate to them.
all i can say is that i have never met a woman that was knocked up and pregnant with some guys kid then he runs out on her and the baby that a friend or member of her family had not told her "honey he is trouble stay away from him"
but nooooooo she had to say "but i love him" and shut down her brain!
not tryin to be a d--- to all the losers out there but i'm just sayin!

[wildflower68 (deleted)]

truth about men wanting more --- well again that could be claimed by both sexes except the woman seems to want to take the time to bake the cake before putting the icing on


I loved that.. You are too cool for school...

[truckerjerry (deleted)]

`it is true that many men are just @ssh*les but most would rather mix you a cake from scatch , bake it slow in an old brick oven then ice it for you and feed it to you one fork full at a time. all the while making sure you have the beverage of your choice handy..... get my drift romance starts the night b4 you wanna get some lovin

[wildflower68 (deleted)]

truckerjerry wrote: `it is true that many men are just @ssh*les but most would rather mix you a cake from scatch , bake it slow in an old brick oven then ice it for you and feed it to you one fork full at a time. all the while making sure you have the beverage of your choice handy..... get my drift romance starts the night b4 you wanna get some lovin





Now thats how you bake a cake. hehehe

[southernfinery]

`truckerjerry to the question of are many men b*tth*les but most would want to bake you a cake from scratch and feed it to you spoonful after spoonful till I have had my absolute fill all while making sure I had the beverage of my choice readily available=ok I am at a lost for thought here much less words lol,I keep wanting to fantasize about one the cake and two being feed but seriously jerry what I meant by taking the time to bake the cake is taking the time to get to know someone and waiting to see if what makes up that person is what you really need in your life at that time.It's more then just walking down the aisle and saying today I feel like lemon.I think and I hope that what ur speaking about is what happens after you are in a committed relationship with one not just laying on the smoothness in hopes of getting laid.................Hi wildflower ty for saying I am to cool for school lol that made my day,hey did you catch dr.phil today with that 18 yr old on there who wanted to get another breast job to go to a double d omg she would have to get one of those back braces you see on those broke neck patients just so she could walk upright.She was a small girl and had her breast taken to a c cup from an a cup.She looks good now but I really don't think she needs to go bigger.They talked her out of it,her dad and stepmom and dr.phil.It was still on my mind is why I am mentioning it.Oh and there was a 17 yr old on there talking about getting botox injections for her crows feet lol,imagine that.I must look like an old piece of tire then rofl.