Are BBW's considered Low Maintenance ?

[acidiclemons (deleted)]

Ahaha!
:] Those men never met me.
Haha. Well.
I wouldn't say I'm high-maintenance,
but I'm not exactly very low, either.
x] In between-ish.

[curvaliciousbbw]

I think that most women love to be pampered....it has nothing to do with a persons size. There are high and low maintenance women of every size

[sexysweetdiva (deleted)]

I do not think BBW women are low maintenance. I do however think plenty of BBWs have low STANDARDS when it come to the type of men they would date but low standards does not equal low maintenance because every woman wants to be spoiled and pampered whether shes skinny, fat, have no teeth, only has one leg, missing a finger (you get my point¦LOL).

[southernfinery]

`well I cut the sides off of cucumbers in the resturants and must have a straw because I simply won't drink with my lips touching the sides.I have specific ways of doing certain things but I think this is about my perferred standard.I met this young pretty lady and went to ur home to tell her about a place that had come open and would put her closer to her work and it would be a safer place.Her bf who lives with her(I didn't know) was there and introduced himself.He has no job and can't find one due to his bouts with the law which include but are not limited to such charges as auto theft.He was so proud of the fact that he had scored some good weed which he just had to show us.Ok can ya say scrub?He must be an example of what u attract when u have no standard and I really don't see how u could have a certain level of maintence at all when it simply must take all ur income to feed him and u,don't u think?

[sheevaa]

`Nope, I don't want no scrubs, hehe. Long time for the song, but still just as true. I don't have super standards. I expect my man to be a fairly upstanding guy, can support himself...if he has children, take care of them. and not 10 kids with 7 different women:P

I am big, but I am always presentable. You can take me out in public and not be embarrassed. I would expect the same from any guy of mine.

Having decent standards for those we know and are with, is not the same as being high maintenance, in my books.

[misschanel (deleted)]

Yes, I agree. The real issue here is the lack of skill of knowing how to ask for what one wants, especially without feeling shame or guilt for having your needs met.

I have had that happen to me many times of the years, But not all men would dare treat me so poorly. most of them trated me remarkably well in gratitude for the low maintenance.

all I'm saying is just because she's drama-free, dresses more conservatively, and doesn't act like she's helpless doesn't mean she only deserves McDonald's, free activities, and feed her for s----l favors.

A considerate man will do nice things for his wife/gf because he enjoys doing it for her. Not because he thinks she wants it. Trust me

So ... Do men really prefer the headache of a high maintenance woman?

Best of wishes :wink:

[hithere86 (deleted)]

I think it might have something to do with self-esteem. Espically thses days, because so many women are just so damn simple about picking a guy. They would rather go with any guy that comes along and stick with him just to say "They have a man".

I am low mantinace when in a relationship, but am not NOT going to take just any kind of crap when with someone. I am also not going to call or text or whatever every five minutes. I think it's the preception that mostly everyone has about bbw's.....

[dennene]

`uhm i guess it depends upon the meaning of low maintenance but i would consider my self to be that kind of girl. its not that i dont expect much. i expect just as much emotionally (respect love honesty) i just dont make a big deal out of material things. i dont need to be wined and dined at the finest restaurants, nor do i need you to dish out money for me to do my nails. we can occasionally do things like that, but overall i prefer activities that involve substance. like planning a romantic evening or just cuddling together and talking or watching a movie and even hanging out and playing video games. i consider those dates because its bonding time. but i do enjoy going to a nice restaurant and being catered to, but only occasionally.

my sister on the other hand needs to be wined, dined and pampered. she has these very..princessy views. thats high maintenance.

[jeanne2b2b (deleted)]

`OK from the "Pretty Girls" point of view, too many frogs and too few prince's chasing them. These Pretty Girls will "settle" for a while with their "frogs", until something better comes along. So that their time is not wasted on these "frogs", and they get compensation from giving the "frogs" sex, they ask & demand for alot of "stuff" cellphones, sterios, lots of jewelry, perfume, clothes, expensive vacations & meals. The smart "frogs" catch on they are being used and leave. The low-self esteem "frogs" will pay, pay,pay until it hurts them. Then they moan all women are horrible! Then to make matters worse they continue the learned bad behavior of expecting s----l favors for any money they spend on a woman (not normal). How do I know this, I've been the wing-girl of a few pretty thin girls in the past, and witnessed what was happening. And no I am no longer friends with them.

[simonp12]

`It's perhaps to do with the notion that BBW's MIGHT be an easier 'pond to fish in' for certain men who treat BBW's as a fet--- and not as a living breathing entity.

Society expects the ideal couple to be slim and attractive - metrosexual, if you will - whereas bigger girls are usually seen by the media as frumpy and the antithesis of what they find acceptable. Even Adele has her detractors, who will not accept her just because she is big.

Therefore, some guys might be tempted to think 'oh well if I date her, I won't have to worry so much about other guys eyeing her up. She'll be a good little wifey and attend to my every whim. She won't mind if I play COD all day or I don't change for weeks because she's with me and nobody around here likes BBW's. Therefore I can do what I want and she'll still come running.'

However, that is not true in reality. BBW's are not stupid, and will not go for the first guy who shows an interest just because he looks good or is well ---- (or both). The sooner these guys realise that they have to fund a relationship with love and affection (as well as money!) the better. A relationship is about more than S-- and expecting good little wifey to darn your socks and cook for you whilst you sit on your --- playing the X Box until the wee small hours.